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We've been together 4 years. I'm not getting married, but she wants to.

It would be selfish of me to keep stringing her along knowing that I will never marry her.

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Sounds to me like you are doing the right thing. No sense in continuing a relationship with someone who makes you miserable

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She's a beautiful girl, loving, caring, 100% trustworthy and loyal,

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Name?

I'll take her off your hands

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If not her, then who?

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His buddy Bob

Why don't you like being around her? Does she have man hands or 6 toes or something?

Congrats OP.

Coming home to the same aging creature day after day is a scenario most with any sense would want to avoid.

Well done

The hunt for random strange and the slaying of said strange isn't all it's cracked up to be. When all of your buddies (who said they'd NEVER get married) are doing married life things with their wives and kids you'll be way more miserable than you are now. There's a reason you've been with this girl for 4 years. She sounds like quite a catch and you will regret this decision especially when you see her draped on another guy.

Unless you already have another one lined up better than the present one. That's a total game changer. Like others have said, the grass isn't always greener. Good Luck.

Can you give her my number?

If this is real, sounds like rintin has low self confidence. He probably isn't happy with himself and therefore believes he doesn't deserve this girl. In his depression, his mind will play tricks on him. He'll think abnormal thoughts and convince himself that no other option exists. He'll think thoughts like:

"I'm not good enough for her. It may be great now, but she's going to one day leave me because I'm a fraud. Might as well break up with her now before we get married and save myself real future heartache."

"She's too good for me. Why does she love me? There's no way her love for me can be real. I'm a miserable person. She knows it. I know it. She's going to one day tire of me and really break my heart. I should probably end it now to prevent that from happening."


I bet you're bipolar. You're one of those people who create a destructive self fulfilling prophecy because you actually hate yourself. Relationships always start off intensely passionate, but deep inside you cannot shake the feeling that you're a fraud and not nearly as good as you initially sell yourself to people. This is a classic bipolar personality.

Bipolar people are oftentimes very creative passionate people and are attractive to the opposite sex, but they also have a secret dark side which convinces them that they are unworthy of any love or success. Bipolar people are intense in the good times and the bad, which means the beginning of relationships are magical but the decay of relationships are epically destructive.

If you are this person, you have two choices: 1) End the relationship now for her sake (and her sanity), or 2) seek personal therapy to help you handle your demons.

Am I wrong?

If so, please tell us why you're miserable being around a great girl.

No jokes from me. You just described the exact situation I went through a little over a year ago. Amazing girl, just not the one I wanted to be with forever, and it bothered me for a long time.

It was extremely hard to do, and seeing her heart break was terrible, but it had to be done for the sake of both of our long term happiness.

She'll be better for it though, because she'll eventually find the one that's meant for her.

And for the dudes saying this is a troll, it's actually possible to be with a beautiful, caring girl, but just not feel like she's the one. Better to do something for your own happiness than put a ring on her finger and lie to yourself for the rest of your life. That's actually the worst thing to do.

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