- My Forums
- Tiger Rant
- LSU Recruiting
- SEC Rant
- Saints Talk
- Pelicans Talk
- More Sports Board
- Coaching Changes
- Fantasy Sports
- Golf Board
- Soccer Board
- O-T Lounge
- Tech Board
- Home/Garden Board
- Outdoor Board
- Health/Fitness Board
- Movie/TV Board
- Book Board
- Music Board
- Political Talk
- Money Talk
- Fark Board
- Gaming Board
- Travel Board
- Food/Drink Board
- Ticket Exchange
- TD Help Board
Customize My Forums- View All Forums
- Show Left Links
- Topic Sort Options
- Trending Topics
- Recent Topics
- Active Topics
Started By
Message
re: ....
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:39 am to rintintin
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:39 am to rintintin
quote:
The majority boil down to one thing, daddy issues.
She was abused by her father and has severe insecurity due to it.
It affects our relationship immensely. She's the kind of person that needs constant reassurance, constant coddling. I'm the complete opposite.
She's always questioning our relationship due to this and it drives me crazy. It turns into a crying session almost weekly. Just a hamster wheel of the same shite.
This can be fixed. If you love her, and want to help her. She may even need psychiatric help.
quote:
I honestly don't like her around with my friends because of her preponderance of getting pissed off for miniscule things.
Deal-breaker type shite right there.
quote:
That's a few. Also financial issues
Nothing new. Not sure how old you are, but many marriages that end is because of this.
quote:
And sex life. I don't think we've had sex in a month.
Deal-breaker type shite right there.
0
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:39 am to mizzoukills
Please shut the frick up
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:41 am to Chad504boy
quote:
or maybe he just thinks she's a bit too ugly and its been eating him up, she's insecure, jealous, and a real bitch to him and he's not interested in a long term commitment with her.
That's fair...except if that was the case, why did he initially describe her as a fricking saint?
This post was edited on 12/1/16 at 9:44 am
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:41 am to rintintin
quote:
The majority boil down to one thing, daddy issues. She was abused by her father and has severe insecurity due to it. It affects our relationship immensely. She's the kind of person that needs constant reassurance, constant coddling. I'm the complete opposite. She's always questioning our relationship due to this and it drives me crazy. It turns into a crying session almost weekly. Just a hamster wheel of the same shite. It also affects her relationship with others. She can be very spiteful to other people, which is why she has few friends. The close friends she has will even keep their distance due to this. She doesn't do much on her own, so it's either with me or nothing, which means she gets spiteful at me when I do stuff with my friends and she can't due to work or whatever else. I honestly don't like her around with my friends because of her preponderance of getting pissed off for miniscule things. That's a few. Also financial issues and irresponsibility elsewhere in her life. And sex life. I don't think we've had sex in a month.
Have you had this exact conversation with her in a calm and rational manner? Have you explained that these things are affecting your relationship and offered to help her work through them, perhaps with couples counseling? I don't want to judge, but worthwhile relationships take hard work, which ultimately makes them worth that much more.
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:42 am to 50_Tiger
quote:
this is turning into a traditional mizzoukillz thread with the quickness
50, wait for it...
quote:
I'm spot on. You know it. Rintin knows it. And every person in this thread knows it.
and there it is.
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:43 am to mizzoukills
quote:
why did he initially describe her as a fricking saint?
cause he has feelings for her and doesn't want to trash her completely in a public way. he wants to at least make her seem good enough that he actually stayed with her past the hook up night and 4 yrs later in this predicament. She started farting a couple years into the relationship and coupled with her slight weight gain, he's been emotionally losing his shite.
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:43 am to 19
quote:
"Stay with this chick cuz you may never find another. Grow up and settle like a man. Stay with her out of pity and self-doubt and pretend to be happy like the rest of us poor slobs"
Quality advice. Truly.
For real. I guess I shouldn't be surprised, but the amount of people saying stick with it just because relationships are hard and you have to force yourself to like it, baffled me.
I mean, I've stuck with it for over 4 years. If that's not long enough to know it's the right decision I don't know what is.
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:43 am to rintintin
I was in the same boat as you Rintintin.
Great woman, daddy issues, we were married for 13 years.
Years 1-3 of marriage - we were heavily into each other - lots of reassurance needed for her.
Had kid
Years 4-11 - she was cool but mainly into the kid
Years 11-12 she was into going out w her sister who was single
Year 13 she started wanting to sew her oats and felt she had never been single or gotten enough attention from guys
Good luck
Summary - you can't make chicken salad out of chicken shite.
You will replace her dad as the male role model in her life and she will resent you when things get tough -
Bail out
My main rule for marriage is to do it with someone you want to have kids with and someone without daddy issues
Great woman, daddy issues, we were married for 13 years.
Years 1-3 of marriage - we were heavily into each other - lots of reassurance needed for her.
Had kid
Years 4-11 - she was cool but mainly into the kid
Years 11-12 she was into going out w her sister who was single
Year 13 she started wanting to sew her oats and felt she had never been single or gotten enough attention from guys
Good luck
Summary - you can't make chicken salad out of chicken shite.
You will replace her dad as the male role model in her life and she will resent you when things get tough -
Bail out
My main rule for marriage is to do it with someone you want to have kids with and someone without daddy issues
This post was edited on 12/1/16 at 9:45 am
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:43 am to 50_Tiger
quote:
The frick?!!!!! Whats her name and number! Shes the ONE!
No shite... I call bullshite on that story. She sounded like 10 times the woman the op originally described. Maybe the boudini is bipolar also and self hating? lmao That's enough killz...taking that theory off the deep end now..
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:44 am to rintintin
quote:
I mean, I've stuck with it for over 4 years. If that's not long enough to know it's the right decision I don't know what is.
Get out, brother. Get a dog and live life.
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:45 am to thegreatboudini
quote:
She's gone. I gave her the entire apartment, took my personal belongings and the dog and bailed. Never, and I mean never been happier in life.
Go live your normal, basic, textbook Southern lifestyle. That shite isn't for everyone.
This guy gets it.
Sometimes it's just nice to be a bachelor and not settle with what you got and be married by 25. But I'm sure you'll be the one who "regrets it."
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:45 am to Chad504boy
quote:
cause he has feelings for her and doesn't want to trash her completely in a public way
He feels for her so much he's going to end their 4 year relationship 3 weeks before Christmas when he said she's so happy she's expecting an engagement ring?!!!
This post was edited on 12/1/16 at 9:49 am
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:46 am to mizzoukills
Thank you Rintintin for not allowing me to be productive today so far and hitting F5 on this thread every second.
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:47 am to rintintin
quote:
I would've done it sooner but our lease is up at the end of this year, which is why I've waited.
So, you timed this for 30 days before the end of the lease? Wow. And, during Christmas time, both of you will be looking for new digs?
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:47 am to Steadyhands
quote:
That's enough killz...taking that theory off the deep end now
Perhaps I'm wrong. I hope I am because if I'm right...that's an awful life to live.
Seriously.
I hope I'm wrong for rintin's sake.
But, there's more truth in my posts than some of y'all are giving me credit for.
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:47 am to Elephino
quote:
Have you had this exact conversation with her in a calm and rational manner? Have you explained that these things are affecting your relationship and offered to help her work through them, perhaps with couples counseling? I don't want to judge, but worthwhile relationships take hard work, which ultimately makes them worth that much more.
Yes, she actually saw a psychiatrist for a short while.
quote:
but worthwhile relationships take hard work
Trust me, it's been 4 years of hard work and I'm done.
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:48 am to rintintin
I just read the whole thread and now am sorry that my post was so snarky.
Still I'd still say break it off and go screw some bar whores...you deserve it
Still I'd still say break it off and go screw some bar whores...you deserve it
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:48 am to Steadyhands
I'll be bipolar...he'll be bipolar...we'll all be bipolar...it'll be just like good ol' Mizzou campus...
Killz,
"Run 'em like ponies" has nothing to do with not having sex with your GF for a month.
C'mon, baw. You're not even trying...
Killz,
"Run 'em like ponies" has nothing to do with not having sex with your GF for a month.
C'mon, baw. You're not even trying...
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:48 am to 50_Tiger
quote:
Thank you Rintintin for not allowing me to be productive today so far and hitting F5 on this thread every second.
I second this!
Posted on 12/1/16 at 9:49 am to rintintin
If you are truly done, dont you think you could of at least gave someone you use to love the common decency to make it past "family season?"
Page 12 of 27
Back to top
Follow TigerDroppings for LSU Football News