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re: Tomorrow makes 10 months since my wife passed away.
Posted on 4/9/23 at 11:12 pm to Hoova1202004
Posted on 4/9/23 at 11:12 pm to Hoova1202004
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CJ McCollum sucks!!!
Sorry about your wife and I’m sorry we both root for a team designed to break our collective hearts.
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Posted on 4/10/23 at 4:51 am to Hoova1202004
Cannot begin to imagine your pain. Prayers for you!
Posted on 4/10/23 at 6:17 am to Hoova1202004
I lost my wife of 21 years in October. Left me with four kids to raise by myself. It’s a tremendously tough thing to do alone, but that pales in comparison to how much and how often I miss her. I know exactly how you feel.
Posted on 4/10/23 at 8:24 am to NorthEnd
I don’t post much but figured I’d chime in.
I lost my wife of 5 years a year and half ago at 36 to cancer. We had a 4 year old at the time and I thought my life was over. I was left with her loss, mountains of medical bills, and a little girl without her mom.
Some of the hardest days were months after but eventually things turn around if you keep going. Make sure you’ve got a good support system even if it’s professional help.
I eventually got back on the wagon and put myself back out there. While I miss her daily I met someone new and the sun is starting to shine again.
I lost my wife of 5 years a year and half ago at 36 to cancer. We had a 4 year old at the time and I thought my life was over. I was left with her loss, mountains of medical bills, and a little girl without her mom.
Some of the hardest days were months after but eventually things turn around if you keep going. Make sure you’ve got a good support system even if it’s professional help.
I eventually got back on the wagon and put myself back out there. While I miss her daily I met someone new and the sun is starting to shine again.
Posted on 4/10/23 at 8:28 am to Hoova1202004
So happy to hear that!! Prayers for your children as well as they grow up in their new home.
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Posted on 4/10/23 at 8:57 am to Hoova1202004
I will be in the same boat at some point. My husband was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer at the age of 39. It has been 28 months, which with his type is pretty amazing, but the dread I have every day knowing what's to come is awful. Many prayers to you and your family!
Posted on 4/10/23 at 9:08 am to Tigergal9311
We knew my wife was terminal for about 2-3 months before she passed away. It’s a horrible thing to have to digest. I spent a lot of sundays crying in a church pew bc I didn’t know what else to do. It was very helpless.
Some advice though, as morbid as it sounds: get video of him. Have him write letters to the kids. Take pictures of little things, there are things you think you’ll never forget but you will. A mole on his hand etc. I wish I had video of my wife talking. She was funny with a great Cajun accent. I didn’t video her bc I thought it would make her uncomfortable.
Some advice though, as morbid as it sounds: get video of him. Have him write letters to the kids. Take pictures of little things, there are things you think you’ll never forget but you will. A mole on his hand etc. I wish I had video of my wife talking. She was funny with a great Cajun accent. I didn’t video her bc I thought it would make her uncomfortable.
Posted on 4/10/23 at 9:27 am to Hoova1202004
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God wants me continue living and I will. I believe my wife is proud of us and I believe she is watching over us.
Posted on 4/10/23 at 9:34 am to Tigergal9311
I’m really sorry to hear that. Sort of same here. Wife was diagnosed with stage 4 colorectal cancer in January’22.
If Doctors are right she’s halfway there. It’s treatable not curable or operable. She’ll probably be on chemo until it doesn’t work anymore then hospice.
I can relate to the dread. It’s difficult to keep from being paralyzed by it. To survive my struggles as a young man I had to learn to compartmentalise my thoughts so that’s what I do to stay in the present and not dwell on the situation. I only want to live this once. I often fail but it still helps.
My job now is to care for her and to keep myself healthy. It’s all so surreal and at times, like when she’s Ill from chemotherapy, excruciating because I can’t do anything about it and it’s only going to get worse until she’s gone.
I never thought before this I’d be looking at going into my “golden” years alone.
At your age this has got to be shocking to both of you and I feel for you.
I tell myself that there are people everywhere who have survived a loss like this and are fully functional and even thriving and that helps. It’s going to be rough but I plan to endure.
I hope you have strong support and endure as well. There will be rough days but ‘this too shall pass’.
If Doctors are right she’s halfway there. It’s treatable not curable or operable. She’ll probably be on chemo until it doesn’t work anymore then hospice.
I can relate to the dread. It’s difficult to keep from being paralyzed by it. To survive my struggles as a young man I had to learn to compartmentalise my thoughts so that’s what I do to stay in the present and not dwell on the situation. I only want to live this once. I often fail but it still helps.
My job now is to care for her and to keep myself healthy. It’s all so surreal and at times, like when she’s Ill from chemotherapy, excruciating because I can’t do anything about it and it’s only going to get worse until she’s gone.
I never thought before this I’d be looking at going into my “golden” years alone.
At your age this has got to be shocking to both of you and I feel for you.
I tell myself that there are people everywhere who have survived a loss like this and are fully functional and even thriving and that helps. It’s going to be rough but I plan to endure.
I hope you have strong support and endure as well. There will be rough days but ‘this too shall pass’.
Posted on 4/10/23 at 9:37 am to Hoova1202004
The 1 year anniversary for a tragic loss like this is the mark you need to try and make it to. For 365 days that first year you will be thinking about what you were doing this time last year with your loved one. You are almost there OP. You get some small relief after that first anniversary.
Posted on 4/10/23 at 9:37 am to Hoova1202004
Much love your way brother!
Posted on 4/10/23 at 9:39 am to Hoova1202004
Sorry bro - I can’t imagine such a blow - stay strong man - Christ has a plan for you - just stick to it
Posted on 4/10/23 at 9:39 am to Hoova1202004
I don't visit this place much anymore, but it makes me proud to be a part of it when I see Ballers taking care of their own.
May The Lord keep you and carry your burdens until you are with her forever.
May The Lord keep you and carry your burdens until you are with her forever.
Posted on 4/10/23 at 9:53 am to Hoova1202004
24 years married to Mrs. HB, today. She's amazing. Pretty, extremely intelligent, great conversationalist, conservative, selfless and does everything for the sake of her family, great cook and baker, a wonderful lover who has only gotten more beautiful and desirous with time. I cannot imagine the state of my own life without her at my side. I hurt for you to think about the regrouping of your life without your wife there to support you and to be your confidant. Time will heal you into a different man than you are today. While death around you can break you into a million pieces, you'll rebuild yourself into a stronger person for having had to endure this pain and suffering. My prayers are with you, bud.
Posted on 4/10/23 at 9:55 am to wallowinit
Yea it's the little things that feel like a kick in the gut. Like realizing I will need to change my in case of emergency contact person. He has gone downhill physically, but it's the mental aspect that is heart breaking to watch. He is one of the most intelligent people I know. He's just a shell of himself. It hard to watch, but I read him history trivia cards to keep him mind going and that seems to help.
Posted on 4/10/23 at 10:03 am to Tantal
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This stings, man. I'm staring down the barrel of that same gun myself in the near future. Mrs. Tantal is the most beautiful and amazing woman to ever walk this planet. She's only 45 and it's not likely that she see's 46. Not sure how a man comes back from this.
Damnit brother, it hurts me to read that. I'll be praying for you guys daily, life just isn't fair sometimes.
Posted on 4/10/23 at 10:11 am to Hoova1202004
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I know it’s just words but I am truly sorry. I will keep your wife and yourself in my prayers. There is a video online that I watched it’s called. We don’t “move on” from grief. We move forward with it. We aren’t alone man and you aren’t alone. If you ever want to talk hit me up.
Lost my wife to cancer almost 10 years ago (May 2013). We were in our early 30s with two little girls (6 and 2). You seem to have the right frame of mind - I really hit rock bottom about 6 months after she passed - the reality of the situation really smoked me about then. Once the first anniversary passed, it was a big weight off my mind. There would be no more annual firsts (although there are things that were missed by her that were firsts but you get my point).
I went to a grief counselor (Memphis has something called the Good Grief Center - an amazing resource thats free for anyone that lost an immediate family member). I took my oldest daughter every week for almost two years and I went for a full year. It really helped me understand that you never really get over it, you just learn how to cope without it devastating you every time. I also got to see many others that were going through similar situations as myself and it put it in perspective for me. I got remarried to a wonderful woman who has since adopted my children. There are days that I really get emotional about my late wife but I appreciate our time together. But I am also very thankful that I have someone else that is sharing life with me now.
My daughters were the reason I got through the really dark days. I leaned on them and they didn't even know it. I'm beyond grateful I didn't do anything to myself because Lord knows I wanted to many times. But life is good now - time is the best medicine. Take care and God bless.
Posted on 4/10/23 at 11:17 am to Hoova1202004
I remember your posts when it happened. Losing someone you love is painful and time makes things easier. The idea that you will be reunited after death is what to look forward too. But going forward is the only option we have for now. I am glad that you have gotten help and stayed strong through the process. I will keep you and yours in my prayers.
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Posted on 4/10/23 at 11:25 am to Hoova1202004
I cannot imagine what you're going through. I'm praying for you.
Posted on 4/10/23 at 11:45 am to Hoova1202004
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