re: The Sad State of Affairs for Dating

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You can text while sitting on the can for 5 minutes.

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Exactly. I text while taking a leak. OP initiated bland conversation then pretended to be too busy. OP is a loon.

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I mean was I wrong because I took about 12 hours to respond?

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Yeah, kinda. App dating sucks arse, and it sucks that that’s the main way of doing things these days. But the bottom line is you would send a message or two and then disappear for a day. While it’s not wrong if you to not be attached to your phone or give the people you are physically with your undivided attention, it’s not going to come off to someone awaiting your conversation as you being interested either. You message her and ask questions and she responds and then you disappear for the rest of the day. And then you basically did it again the next day? Of course her reaction is that you aren’t interested. Anybody else’s would be too (including you if this was reversed).

You can act all cool and say that you are “ending this” but she had already ended it with you when she gave you that little piece of advice about not responding. So she ended it, not you.

Just move on and take it as a lesson learned that next time you should at least try a little harder to communicate with her, or at least let her know that you have shite going on and your responses would take a while.

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I am now going to block you. Who are you again? I don't have to justify my life or my schedule to you. Actually just so you know I don't take my phone with me when I'm working out and sometimes I'll even leave it at home. I don't believe in being constantly attached to my phone.

Multitasking has proven to actually be less productive. I might not always respond immediately but whatever I am doing or whoever I am speaking with will always get my undivided attention and I will not apologize for that. People like you who always try to multitask is why we have wrecks on our roads every day and why the world has become such a cold place.

I am ending this because it's obvious you are controlling. You are coming off as the type who would want to know where her SO is at all times. Just an observation on my end. In the future try to be more considerate and understand that for most people dating is just a part of their life and not even a crazy important part of their life at that. Good luck.

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I'm not going to dog you about this message as others have. Someone had a much more succinct one earlier but I understand your temptation to vent because the dating thing easily becomes frustrating as Hell with the game playing and inexplicable behavior one often deals with BUT my biggest word of caution is that before I would assume things in the future I would actually speak to the person to make sure my read was right of the message(s) as many nuances get lost in translation via text. I wouldn't nuke a potential good connection based off a misunderstanding which could easily happen over text.

Did she mention being married to a hockey player?

I’m embarrassed for you with that response. It was super uncool. Saying “lol bye” would’ve been more effective & way less crazy loser.

You are a psycho.

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And that's what you should say. As I stated previously, you shouldn't have to change the way you are for anyone.

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Maybe he wasn’t that attached to the beard? He wasn’t offering to change his religion or anything like that for you. It’s just facial hair. I shave mine bc my wife prefers no beard. It’s not that important to some guys. You might have had a good dude willing to compromise on small things like facial hair. Then you’ll complain to your girlfriends about how you can’t find a decent guy.

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Maybe he wasn’t that attached to the beard? He wasn’t offering to change his religion or anything like that for you. It’s just facial hair. I shave mine bc my wife prefers no beard. It’s not that important to some guys. You might have had a good dude willing to compromise on small things like facial hair. Then you’ll complain to your girlfriends about how you can’t find a decent guy.

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It's all in how you approach it. If I weren't attached to having a beard, I'd probably say "Yeah, I wanted to grow it out but i'm not attached to it". In person saying "I can shave it" depends on how you say it, it could be seen as either you're indifferent about it or you're desperate. Unfortunately over text, it's hard to see other non-verbal communication and the context it brings.

Basically in today's dating world, knowing how to phrase things matters. Simply put: know your audience.

From the OP's entire text conversation, with this woman, I am guessing he has never talked to a woman in real life. Its probably good he blocked her because no doubt she would eventually kick his sniveling arse.

Damn bruh she was begging you to hit it and you blew it. Not to worry just jump on the next one and you’re in