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re: Settle a debate about who pays for alcohol at wedding reception
Posted on 10/26/24 at 2:40 pm to Paige
Posted on 10/26/24 at 2:40 pm to Paige
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What if the bride is poor?
The question is what is traditional. That is for the bride’s family to pay for the full reception, including alcohol.
People can do what they want based on their desires or abilities, but that doesn’t change what is traditional.
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Posted on 10/26/24 at 2:40 pm to Lickitty Split
From my experience, this issue is always a nightmare if you don’t address it during the dowry negotiations.
Posted on 10/26/24 at 2:50 pm to Paige
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What if the bride is poor?
Not to tangent (much) but what if the brides's parents are divorced (and have been for a long time)? Which parent pays for what?
I have seen that be an issue first hand-- dad and stepmother are simple country people, mom and stepdad are festive suburbanites, etc.
Many years after arguments about alimony, custody and child support, this comes up. Divorce-- the gift that keeps on giving.
Posted on 10/26/24 at 2:55 pm to Lickitty Split
Think my girl and I will just get married at a courthouse or elope and not have to deal with any wedding crap
This post was edited on 10/26/24 at 3:01 pm
Posted on 10/26/24 at 3:33 pm to Lickitty Split
The custom in our area is for the bride family to pay for the entire reception, including alcohol.
This post was edited on 10/26/24 at 3:35 pm
Posted on 10/26/24 at 3:52 pm to LSUFanHouston
That's been the standard as long as I can remember.
I'm not saying things haven't changed, but historically, that's how it was.
I'm not saying things haven't changed, but historically, that's how it was.
Posted on 10/26/24 at 4:24 pm to Lickitty Split
The bride's side pays for the reception.
However, they are not obligated to serve alcohol at all, especially if they are a religion that does not drink. If most of that side does not drink and they choose not to have alcohol, that is their call as host.
In that case, it is customary for the groomsmen to have hooch near the back door to share with the cool people.
However, they are not obligated to serve alcohol at all, especially if they are a religion that does not drink. If most of that side does not drink and they choose not to have alcohol, that is their call as host.
In that case, it is customary for the groomsmen to have hooch near the back door to share with the cool people.
Posted on 10/26/24 at 4:27 pm to Lickitty Split
Traditionally the bride's family paid for entire reception, including alcohol.
From my friend/family group it seems like the side that feels the most strongly about having alcohol at the reception tend to be the ones who pay for it. Basically if the bride's family wants it, they gladly pay. If they don't but the groom's family does, the groom's family pays. If neither side wants it but the couple does, the couple pays.
From my friend/family group it seems like the side that feels the most strongly about having alcohol at the reception tend to be the ones who pay for it. Basically if the bride's family wants it, they gladly pay. If they don't but the groom's family does, the groom's family pays. If neither side wants it but the couple does, the couple pays.
Posted on 10/26/24 at 4:37 pm to Lickitty Split
Customarily the Brides family pays for all things wedding, the Groom family only pays for the Rehearsal Party. I do bartend weddings about 10-15 times a year and I have saw where the grooms family paid for the hall rental and beer/alcohol/drinks.
Posted on 10/26/24 at 4:56 pm to Lickitty Split
You guys have families that pay for weddings? It's been my experience that boomers pulled the ladder up on that particular one.
Posted on 10/26/24 at 4:59 pm to danilo
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Think my girl and I will just get married at a courthouse or elope and not have to deal with any wedding crap
That's what we are doing. Giving everyone a 2 months heads up, and whomever makes it makes it. If it wasn't for my dad, would have just eloped, but old man wanted it and we respect him too much. If people want to pay for anything, they can, but has to have zero strings. Wedding is immediate family, and nobody else.
This post was edited on 10/26/24 at 5:00 pm
Posted on 10/26/24 at 5:00 pm to Lickitty Split
Groom should pay as punishment for being stupid enough to get married, and to be prepare him for the married life of being an ATM for stupid shite
This post was edited on 10/26/24 at 5:01 pm
Posted on 10/26/24 at 5:03 pm to Lickitty Split
There is no debate on this topic. If you consort with the type that might even call it into question, I advise you to review all of your life decisions.
Posted on 10/26/24 at 5:09 pm to Rashcock
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There is no debate on this topic. If you consort with the type that might even call it into question, I advise you to review all of your life decisions.
Agreed
Posted on 10/26/24 at 5:12 pm to Jcorye1
Blame bride-zilla escalation in the past 25 years, not necessarily boomers or even gen x. Tack on instagram/TheKnot trends over the last 20 years, and you have serious cases of Shiner Bock budgets (realistic) and Cristal laden dreams.
Posted on 10/26/24 at 10:02 pm to SG_Geaux
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It's not that you're saying you can't have fun without it.
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Weddings without booze are AWFUL.
So which is it?
It's more a thank you to everyone traveling, paying for hotels etc to attend.
Posted on 10/26/24 at 10:03 pm to Lickitty Split
Brides family.
Posted on 10/26/24 at 10:16 pm to Lickitty Split
I think I caught something in the comments. The groom paying for alcohol is a Lafayette thing?
Posted on 10/26/24 at 10:16 pm to Lickitty Split
Bride side should pay if it is open bar however I see nothing wrong with a cash bar.
Posted on 10/26/24 at 10:40 pm to AudubonEagle
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I think I caught something in the comments. The groom paying for alcohol is a Lafayette thing?
It’s an everywhere thing.
This is from the queen of etiquette Martha Stewart and Snoop dog.
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What the Groom's Family Traditionally Pays For. The groom's family has traditionally picked up the tab for:
Marriage license and officiant fee
Corsages and boutonnières for family members on both sides
Lodging for groomsmen
Rehearsal dinner costs
Reception alcohol
DJ or band (optional)
LINK
This from Ann Landers from 1986.
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the bride’s family covers the venue and the food and the groom’s covers the flowers, photographer, liquor and orchestra.
It’s done a thousand different ways but this is a traditional baseline to start from.
This post was edited on 10/26/24 at 10:52 pm
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