re: Saying goodbye to a dying relative

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What the Hell am I supposed to say to him?

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This.

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I’m really going to miss him.
We’ve had a bunch of great times together.

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At the end of the day, most of us just want to know we touched other people's lives in some meaningful way. If he has, then tell him that and mean it.

I hate to hear that about your cousin. I have had to do this WAY to much of late myself. There really isn't a cure-all for every scenario. I would just in general terms let him know how you feel, that it was an honor knowing him and how you feel. Share the good memories but don't get too deep because neither of you probably want to get too torn up in those final moments but if it does happen, let it happen. I wouldn't over think what to say though, more than any other piece of advice I can give, keep the conversation(s) organic in nature and not pre-packaged sounding. Best wishes and I will say a prayer for your situation right away.

Any food that he didn't eat because it was fattening?

Twice I've driven away knowing I'd said my last goodbys and I generally cried for at least two counties.

Tell him that you love him and that you’ll always treasure the time that you spent together. Then, reminisce about a time that you and him did something together. That should cheer him up and remind him of the good times. Don’t forget to say goodbye.

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I wouldn't say anything about the cancer/death. Just make the get together as fun and upbeat as possible.

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This

You might offer to hear out his hopes for the family for after he's gone. Maybe he thinks it'd be nice for everyone to go to the beach together every year. Then you try to make it happen.

We lost our nephew suddeny last week, when a tractor overturned, crushing him. He was killed instantly. He was 22-years-old.
He was a good-hearted young man, full of life. He was just starting to get over the loss of his infant son.
I never had the opportunity to say goodbye...wish I had just 5 minutes to say goodbye.

You have this opportunity.

Let your cousin know how you feel...that you love him, will miss him, and hope to see him again one day.

going through this now with my brother. He has late stage colon cancer. Trying to go see him as much as I can.

Didn't get a chance to say bye to my dad.

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What the Hell am I supposed to say to him? I’m really going to miss him.
We’ve had a bunch of great times together.

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My grandmother is hours away from passing. She’s 85. “I whispered in her ear earlier that my family and I are all ok and we’ll be alright. It’s ok to let go. Go home. No more pain and suffering and we’ll all be together someday.” It was hard for me to say that but knowing how she is, that’s exactly what needed to be said.

I know it’s different because your cousin is younger. I lost my wife nearly 5 years ago. She was 34 and cancer deteriorated her health so quick. I just wanted her to stop suffering and get some relief. I remember the last words I spoke to her, “I love you baby and we will see each other again.” It would’ve been selfish of me to beg her to keep getting treatments, which would’ve made her more sick and prolonged her life by 30 days.

Just tell your cousin how much you love him and you’ll see him again.

That’s how I feel anyway. People might want to pick at me for praying to an “imaginary man in the sky”, but to each his own. I believe there is an afterlife.

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I’m really going to miss him.
We’ve had a bunch of great times together.

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^^^ What's wrong with you telling him this for starters?