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re: Regretting motherhood: What have I done to my life?
Posted on 6/27/18 at 11:14 am to Salmon
Posted on 6/27/18 at 11:14 am to Salmon
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This is something a lot of older people like to parrot, and it’s ridiculous.
Envy isn’t a new phenomenon. Social media is simply another facilitator of envy. Along with...you know, going out in public and seeing other people.
truest words you have ever spoken
I am a younger person, and I don't mind social media, but I agree with both statements to a point.
1) Envy is nothing new, that is correct, and in fact I feel like social media is helping us be "less envious" as a whole, because things like divorce rate and abortions have been on a fairly steady decline over the past few years
2) that being said: social media brings envy to your front door, without having to even step foot out of your house. Envy exist, yes, and has always existed, but with social media miserable people can make their lives appear like heaven, which can then be consumed by a fairly happy individual while they are laying down to sleep at night... and make that person that is way happier than the miserable person: feel inadequate in their own home, by simply looking at their phone.
Luckily, I do think mature individuals understand the "instant" personality of social media and do not let fake pictures control their feelings about life - but envy can creep up into some of the most healthy individuals from time to time. That's why it's incredibly important to have a social network separate from social media... they are your rock in which you can plant yourself and keep social media's influence away from your own feelings. (also belief in a higher power works as well... but that's a subject not for TD)
The biggest issue I have with the "article" is that she talked to her parent's friends, stalks her college friend on social media... this woman has closed herself off from new people, from new experiences, and she had no clue why she is unhappy... and it's really really clear to someone that is in a healthy family / life.
This post was edited on 6/27/18 at 11:39 am
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Posted on 6/27/18 at 11:17 am to Jim Rockford
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Basically you put in 60 years of effort so hopefully someone cares about you enough to visit you in the nursing home.
Half the time they won't bother, and the rest of the time they do it because they "have to".
Posted on 6/27/18 at 11:17 am to Pecker
To the author of the article:
1) It's called growing up/older, and it does suck. Once you accept it, however, you realize it comes with advantages.
2) When you and your friend are both in your '50s and older and have retired, and your looks have both started to fade, guess which one of you will feel lonely without a family to still love you (regardless of looks) and still make you feel important (once you've retired)?
Go to the nursing home--those with a sense of accomplishment are those with family; those with a sense of impending doom are those without. Parenting and growing older truly is hard. Rejoice in the next step of your journey, and know that the grass is always greener on the other side; who's to say this friend isn't the one filling a hole?
1) It's called growing up/older, and it does suck. Once you accept it, however, you realize it comes with advantages.
2) When you and your friend are both in your '50s and older and have retired, and your looks have both started to fade, guess which one of you will feel lonely without a family to still love you (regardless of looks) and still make you feel important (once you've retired)?
Go to the nursing home--those with a sense of accomplishment are those with family; those with a sense of impending doom are those without. Parenting and growing older truly is hard. Rejoice in the next step of your journey, and know that the grass is always greener on the other side; who's to say this friend isn't the one filling a hole?
Posted on 6/27/18 at 11:18 am to Pecker
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I’m just happy if the sweats I bought at the grocery store are clean enough to get me through another day
Sounds like she's completely given up on life...
Posted on 6/27/18 at 11:20 am to Displaced
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All we have right now is price alerts set for flights to Reykjavik.
Recs?
We stayed mostly in the southern part of the country. We just rented a car and drove everywhere. Did 8 days. Reykjavik is very cool. There are a lot of other neat (and small) towns you’ll see if you just get out on the road. We drove a few hours to go to a restaurant in Vik but saw a lot of interesting stuff on the way. Did some snorkeling and hiking as well.
I usually plan the trips but my wife wanted to do this one. You should start a thread on the travel board with a proposed itinerary or something, and I’ll chime in with some hotel and restaurant/bar recs. I’m sure you’ll get other feedback as well
Posted on 6/27/18 at 11:20 am to Jim Rockford
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Basically you put in 60 years of effort so hopefully someone cares about you enough to visit you in the nursing home.
Posted on 6/27/18 at 11:22 am to tommy2tone1999
If this ain't a page out of Kibs's book...
Posted on 6/27/18 at 11:50 am to Pecker
Posted on 6/27/18 at 11:57 am to Pecker
Sounds like a whore who doesn’t want to accept the responsibility of her actions. It’s not the kids decision to be born. The stupid bitch should have though about the consequences before she fricked.
Posted on 6/27/18 at 12:10 pm to Pecker
Not really that sympathetic to her. She is whining about having kids. A choice she made.
Something many couples spend $$$$$ to try and have(with no guarantee it will give them the child they desire).
Like HC posted....it’s really about just being able to take the life you were dealt and make the best of it.
Something many couples spend $$$$$ to try and have(with no guarantee it will give them the child they desire).
Like HC posted....it’s really about just being able to take the life you were dealt and make the best of it.
Posted on 6/27/18 at 12:13 pm to lsunurse
quote:There's quite literally nothing to be sympathetic to for the woman.
Not really that sympathetic to her
Posted on 6/27/18 at 12:49 pm to Pecker
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As someone who is young, childless, in shape (and handsome - if I'm being honest) and has lots of free time, I can't relate to her struggle in any way, but I found this article interesting and insightful. I wonder if there are any parents here who feel similarly.
Don't forget "modest".
Posted on 6/27/18 at 1:01 pm to LSUvegasbombed
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childless mothers
Posted on 6/27/18 at 1:02 pm to Riseupfromtherubble
Maybe he meant dog moms 
Posted on 6/27/18 at 1:03 pm to lsunurse
That's not a mom
Posted on 6/27/18 at 1:05 pm to Barbellthor
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To the author of the article: 1) It's called growing up/older, and it does suck. Once you accept it, however, you realize it comes with advantages. 2) When you and your friend are both in your '50s and older and have retired, and your looks have both started to fade, guess which one of you will feel lonely without a family to still love you (regardless of looks) and still make you feel important (once you've retired)?
Unfortunately many of todays adults have a sentiment not much different from the authors regarding their aging parents. They see them as a burden they don't deserve, that draws on their time and resources that in their mind should be used to better their own lives.
Posted on 6/27/18 at 1:08 pm to Pecker
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I have a childless friend who writes bestselling chick-lit novels and runs a media empire.
Hyperbole.
Posted on 6/27/18 at 1:12 pm to Sun God
I was kidding.
I love my dog. But I’m not a mother
I’m not one of those weird dog obsessed women.
I love my dog. But I’m not a mother
I’m not one of those weird dog obsessed women.
Posted on 6/27/18 at 1:16 pm to lsunurse
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I’m not one of those weird dog obsessed women
I mean, there was a time when this board knew waaaay to much about butters.
Posted on 6/27/18 at 1:22 pm to Displaced
I meant obsessed in that they considered the dog their child.
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