re: Recent drug addiction in family

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You can help him without him living with you. You put your family at risk if you let an addict live under your roof.

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absolutely this.

You’d be an idiot to bring that into your home

Huge mistake. At the end of the day you will be kicking yourself for being manipulated. He will have the best story full of reasons why this is going to work. You and your wife should check out a movie "Ben is Back"

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My wife has a cousin who we have suspected for years of being on pills or something. Last weekend when Tornados were all over my wife called to check in. He was slurring his words and speaking nonsense. After lying about it being alcohol for a week he admitted he’s addicted to “roxys.” This all just happened and it’s a lot to process. I can’t figure out if we are being used or he truly needs help. Any one go through this? I feel like I’m a piece of shite for feeling like he’s using us, but I want to protect my wife. Edit: He wants to live with us to “regroup.” Sorry, a lot going on

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So, do you want me to start with the early years, or do I simply move on to the day I buried my son?

Keep your family and home away from it.

I have been that cousin. I hid my addiction for years because I was a high functioning addict or someone that hid it really well. I confessed to her because I had no one I felt I could tell without being ostracized. Didn’t see her or her husband often but saw them at a family function and after talking with her, I decided to tell her everything. A few days before that I had put a loaded gun in my mouth and pulled the trigger. Something was wrong with the gun and I did know it because I tried to shoot it earlier but I still did it. I was married and my kids were toddlers. Wife had no idea. She didn’t know I made as much money as I did so she didn’t suspect anything besides me getting a bad cold or flu way too often that would be healed after I would go get something from the store. I was fighting for my life and my cousin saved it.

If someone I loved came to me and said they are an addict, I’m gonna try and help them as long as my family isn’t exposed to any danger.

Whatever you decide, I pray for the best.

I’ve been through this, so my advice is to be careful. If you let him in your house, hide any valuable items, jewelry, money, etc. Also keep an eye on anything you own that can be easily pawned like power tools, guns, etc.

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There’s nothing wrong with letting him live there for a brief time

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it could always end in a disaster.

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I love it when people contradict themselves in the same damn sentence.

It is dangerous to stop taking some drugs. He may do better somewhere he can get medical care then he can come to your place for a change in lifestyle after he gets out of rehab.

The last thing you need is someone having medical problems in your spare bedroom.

They are the most narcissistic of humans and, under the guise of love, will sacrifice anything and anyone to get their fix.....theyd stomp babies even.

My mother has used my entire life and at 68 years old was hitting 30+ Lortabs a day. Shes still using a decade later but Im not sure to what extent.

Her doctor/pharmacy networking skills were straight Cartel-level. Master of the "Poor little old lady" in pain technique.

Do NOT let that person anywhere near your family. Treatment and boundaries. End of story.

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I love it when people contradict themselves in the same damn sentence.

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It’s not a contradiction. If done properly it could could be done hassle free.

If he is taking roxy he hasn't hit rock bottom yet, that comes when he figures out heroin is stronger and cheaper.

I got terribly addicted after back surgery. For 5 years I slowly progressed from hydrocodone all the way to smoking heroin. I tried everything to quit and it wasn't until I had enough in the bank to shut everything down for two months that I quit on my own. That was 8 years ago.

If he is saying he wants to "regroup" that sounds like bullshite. I was so hellbent on quitting that I quit with a bunch of heroin in the cabinet. That way I didn't feel like I was quitting simply because I ran out.

I he does move in with you and he isn't shitting himself sick for weeks then he didnt quit. Look into a drug called Suboxone, it didnt help me but I know many addicts that it has saved.