re: Real Talk About Bullying

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I'm with you. Let the boys beat the crap out of each other and move on.

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That's the dumbest idea ever. Say this was your kid and the school decided to "let the boys beat the crap out of each other" - your son gets rekt continuously and ends up with brain damage or a pierced lung.

Does that sound like fun as a parent? Try holding teachers accountable for not intervening then shite will get done.

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That's the dumbest idea ever. Say this was your kid and the school decided to "let the boys beat the crap out of each other" - your son gets rekt continuously and ends up with brain damage or a pierced lung.

Does that sound like fun as a parent? Try holding teachers accountable for not intervening then shite will get done.

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Yeah man, brain damage is a huge issue for two 11 year olds getting in a scrap because one wants to be a little a-hole.

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Kid has been previously suspended because he beat up one of the other kids bullying him. That doesn't appear to have stopped the bullying. Parent has told child to try not to administer a second arse-whipping.

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Then I as the father would go to his house, beat the shite out of his dad infront of the kid, and tell the kid it's his fault his dad just got fricked up. And that if he messed with my kid again, I'm coming back to beat his dad's arse again.

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The O-T is probably the wrong place for this, but if this parent was a friend of yours, what would you tell him (if anything).

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I would have my son bring it up to the disciplinarian. If that didn’t work, I would call the school. If that didn’t work, I would call the bully’s parents. If that didn’t work, I would set up a meet and greet.

My dad taught me to defend myself, so I never had a problem with bullies. The zero tolerance has taken away, IMO, a crucial part in a child’s life. If you can’t stick up for yourself, you’ll never get anywhere in life.

Schools today have a “zero tolerance” policy. You have to ask them to enforce it. With suicides now they have no choice but it starts with the bully and his parents. They have to be notified and told about it immediately. Problem is these kids parents are the class moms or PTO parents that the school just loves. So they don’t wanna upset the family and just slap the kid on the wrist.

Went through it once and told the school they had one chance to make it stop before I came back with a lawyer. Never had a problem again and now the bully is even extra nice to my son.

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The O-T is probably the wrong place for this, but if this parent was a friend of yours, what would you tell him (if anything).

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Had this happen once when my son was 13 he made friends with a kid who had just moved into the district, and promptly started getting picked on by other kids. This went on for awhile, every time a particular group of kids would see this kid out on his own they would beat him up, steal his lunch, knock his books into the ground, whatever just to mess with him.

His dad went to the principal, didn't get satisfaction, he came to the school board (I was on the school board then and now) we took his complaints to proper people at the school, but that really just made the situation worse.

Finally I asked my son if he knew who the "leader" of these bullies was. He said yes. I gave the thumbs down and this kid got his arse kicked the next day. Bullying stopped.

This was 13 years ago, I'm not sure I'd go that route today . Call the police if the school won't do anything about it, they absolutely are required to provide a safe learning environment.

Tell your friend's son to fight. Like wait until they're not looking and sitting at a desk. Just go up behind them and pop them across the face with an iPAD.

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Bullying has been going on in middle school for decades.

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Social media has made bullying worse. The kid can't go home and escape from the bullying without it continuing online. I'm not saying I completely agree with this theory, but in some cases i suppose it has some merit.

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Parents can do a better job

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Don't let kids have social media.

Zero tolerance is bullshite. Schools often ignore the problem, and at some point the kid has no choice but to throw a punch to defend himself. Kid shouldn't be expelled for defending himself.

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Kid has been previously suspended because he beat up one of the other kids bullying him.

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He obviously didn’t kick the bully’s arse enough. The key to to make an example of the first bully so others who might think of bullying you see that it’s a bad idea.