re: Question for very large people

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it's 2020, you can just say you are gay. No one cares anymore.

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Touchè


I set myself up for that one.

It’s a mindset. A woman I work with asked me why I always eat salads for lunch. I said because my pants were getting too tight. Her response was why don’t you just buy bigger pants.

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I would rather have 1,000 steak dinners than 2,000 smoothies.

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Didn’t know you had to drink smoothies to be in shape. I eat a shite ton of meat. Hell just being aware of the calorie intake is step one, it isn’t rocket science.

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frick all that, it takes about an ounce of foresight

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For those of us who can see past the tips of our noses, yeah. But there are apparently a lot of people on here who need it spelled out in uppercase letters. It’s not just their health I’m worried about, you and I will be paying their bills.

Mother frickers coming in citing CEH as an example of someone with a high BMI who is healthy. Yeah, you can be healthy at 5’7” 210 but I’d be surprised if many of these doughboys could come within 40% of CEH’s squat or DL

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You lost five pounds in two minutes?

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You've never taken a huge shite before?

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How does it happen?

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I have no idea. I’m 5’7 172 right now and I’m bothered by it. I’m usually between 160 and 165 and my ideal weight should be 150ish.

I feel like I eat like a fricking moron but there’s no way I’d end up 100+ pounds overweight. I don’t think I could physically do it. Whenever I really get off track with eating, I get stomach aches.

A family member has lost 50 pounds since last November (from 280 to 230) and he said he felt awful all the time when he was 280. He said he diarrhea almost every day and would go through a bottle or two of Tums each week. He would down a full bag of chips and a liter of coke (not the fun kind) every day after work before dinner.

I don’t know how people live like that.

You have multiple kids and are married for 10+ years, the disgust is still there but the motivation dwindles. It’s life stressors that do it now since you have no metabolism. That’s what stage I’m in... I exercised as an athlete most my life and it is just hard to Get that motivation at times... for me now it’s because I watched my mom die from cancer for 3 years, but I’m slowly getting better. I’m not very large except large for me, I’m not used to being large. It sucks though and I’ll lose it one my depression gets better

Food is good.

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Question for very large people

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How large we talking?


I used to be nearly 400lb at 6'2.

For me it was a multitude of things. I started gaining weight in 3rd grade, and by 5th or 6th grade I was extremely obese

1) Lifelong bad mindset and habits revolving around food. Constant encouragement to eat more because I was a growing boy, yet not allowed to leave food on my plate. I started eating very quickly as it allowed me to get more food in.

2) Lazy food choices were the norm. Whatever was the best intersection of cheap, easy, and tastes best. This very often meant fast food. I have never been a picky eater but vegetables were basically reserved for my grandparents' meals.

3) We moved in the 3rd grade, I lost all of my friends, and I've always been an introvert. Exercise was not encouraged. I was actually a skinny kid prior to 3rd grade. I took Tae Kwon Do classes and had friends to run around with outside. Once we moved I did nothing but play video games my whole life.

I still feel like my parents have a lot of blame for my being obese as a child. Once you're obese, especially as a child, it is a major uphill battle to turn that around.

At 21 I was almost 400lb (heaviest I weighed in at was 363 but I believe I was heavier than that a couple of months earlier and just didn't have a scale that could weigh me). A series of events led me to change my life and I lost 110lb in 2 years. I've yoyo'd up and down from 300 to 248 since 2012, and still working. It's a frickin bitch, I gain weight incredibly easy and it's a struggle to lose. I am very active these days, I crossfit 4x a week and do 45m walks 5-6x per week, and watch what I eat very closely. I drink 2-3 alcoholic drinks per week most weeks. But I still fight those inner demons, the old habits, the old crutches. I drink and eat more when I'm very stressed out. I turn to food and booze for comfort, for happiness, for everything. My only escapes are food, booze or video games.

But the journey is long (10 years now) and I've learned so much about myself and I continue to peel back the layers. A shrink would probably help me get there faster.

Well I've been at this for so long now that I've worked through it. But I was resentful about it in years past. My mom passed away in 2011 so I never got to reconcile it with her, but I know that they only wanted me to be happy. They just didn't know what to do. Mich of my family is obese. No matter how much it was their fault I wound up a fat kid and how they sets me up for failure, it's only my fault I'm a fat adult.