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re: Possible life changing decision on the horizon
Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:30 am to DirtyMikeandtheBoys
Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:30 am to DirtyMikeandtheBoys
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3 hours is not that far. There are dads in the NE who commute that far every day. Quit being a bitch.
Yea, mine did. And he was home every night. Commuting and living 3 hours away full time aren't comparable.
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Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:31 am to stout
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I didn't think being a waiter at Club Splash was a hard position to get.
It wasn't, once I copied the resume' that yurintroubl posted yesterday and submitted. But go ahead and make fun, bad*ss stout. I'll be laughing all the way to the bank. ($11.00/hour, b*tch)
Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:31 am to Bmath
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That's a tough spot to be in. 3 hrs isn't terrible, and is much more manageable than moving across the country. Have you thought about sitting down with your kid and ex just to see what their thoughts are? Could you reasonably commute to work from somewhere in between like Brenham?
All of this. Excellent advice. Since you already keep the 60-70% of the time, a discussion with his mom prlly wouldnt hurt to see how she would be about giving custody and you keep the same 70/30 schedule with just a little bit more driving. I would honestly do everything I could to have both.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:31 am to Austin Cajun
I don't see what's so tough. You stay with your son. He's gotta be your priority. Stay with your son. You only have one chance. Don't frick up.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:31 am to stout
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Here's the short of it. People telling you you're a bad father for even considering this are full of shite.
You are not a father. Clearly.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:33 am to Austin Cajun
I look at this no differently than the fathers in the oilfield that stay away offshore for weeks, sometimes months at a time doing what they have to do to provide a better more secure life. If you make the effort to spend time with the kid when you are not working it should be fine. You will be making more money, and can maybe afford to fly him to see you. Take the dream job.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:33 am to Festus
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($11.00/hour, b*tch)
Plus tips and BJs
Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:33 am to Ex-Popcorn
Why are people acting like this dude will never see his son again if he moves?
Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:33 am to Austin Cajun
As others have said:
1) 3 hours isn't shite. Especially if you have a decent relationship with the ex and she'll help meet closer.
2) Taking the position will give you the ability to better provide for your son... and your current fiance. Who knows how much she may resent you and the kid if you turned it down.
3) It sounds like you're on the right track of sorting through all the pros and cons. But I can't see myself turning down an opportunity like that.
1) 3 hours isn't shite. Especially if you have a decent relationship with the ex and she'll help meet closer.
2) Taking the position will give you the ability to better provide for your son... and your current fiance. Who knows how much she may resent you and the kid if you turned it down.
3) It sounds like you're on the right track of sorting through all the pros and cons. But I can't see myself turning down an opportunity like that.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:33 am to Austin Cajun
“sell the house. sell the car. sell the kids. Find someone else. Forget it. I’m never coming back. Forget it.”
Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:34 am to Austin Cajun
Only you know what's the most important part of you and your sons relationship, but I'll tell you this. My son is 12. I could take a 50% pay cut and he wouldn't bat an eye.
Strangely enough, he notices when I'm busy with work because we hang out less. He'd definitey noticed if our time together was cut 50%.
Just my $0.02
Strangely enough, he notices when I'm busy with work because we hang out less. He'd definitey noticed if our time together was cut 50%.
Just my $0.02
Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:35 am to Ex-Popcorn
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You are not a father. Clearly.
Im not. But my father is not, and was not, a bad father. Presence doesn't make one a good father.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:36 am to Ex-Popcorn
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Seriously, as a committed dad with joint custody of my kid I cannot even fathom how you even have a question to answer. It's a freaking job versus your son. If you are honestly debating this, you are not as good of a father as you think you are. Sorry if that hurts, but it's the truth.
Boom. What this guy said. Shouldn't even be a question in your mind. Besides, you could end up geting fired or laid off within a year. Jobs aren't forever.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:36 am to stout
Gross. No, handjobs only.
But better than serving slurpees and beef jerky to a bunch of rednecks all day, amirite?
Booom!
But better than serving slurpees and beef jerky to a bunch of rednecks all day, amirite?
Booom!
Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:36 am to dnm3305
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All of this. Excellent advice. Since you already keep the 60-70% of the time, a discussion with his mom prlly wouldnt hurt to see how she would be about giving custody and you keep the same 70/30 schedule with just a little bit more driving. I would honestly do everything I could to have both.
How is this kid supposed to go to school if he's in Houston and Austin 70/30? You're not taking into account the stress on the child. He wants to have friends too.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:37 am to Austin Cajun
If you bail on your son now, how would your fiance view you as the future father of her children?
Best option seems to be to move middle ways of both. This gets you the dream job and lots of time with your son. Your sacrifice is the extra travel time for the benfit of spending time with your son. Not a big sacrifice and everyone wins.
Best option seems to be to move middle ways of both. This gets you the dream job and lots of time with your son. Your sacrifice is the extra travel time for the benfit of spending time with your son. Not a big sacrifice and everyone wins.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:37 am to Kingwood Tiger
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I wouldn't think twice about it....stay with the kid.
Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:37 am to ZereauxSum
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Strangely enough, he notices when I'm busy with work because we hang out less. He'd definitey noticed if our time together was cut 50%.
I'm 44 with 4 kids
Some of these "take the money so you can buy your kid more stuff cause that's as good as time together" posters. Should post their age and parental history
Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:37 am to oleyeller
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money cant buy happiness
as the owner of a sea doo, i disagree
Posted on 3/5/15 at 10:38 am to TexasTiger1185
Not reading all the responses, because i dont need to.
That kid needs you way more than you need that job. 60% of the time now is >>>>>>>>>>> than 2-3 weekends every month. Sounds like now you're a part of the day to day. 3 hours away, you won't be.
That kid needs you way more than you need that job. 60% of the time now is >>>>>>>>>>> than 2-3 weekends every month. Sounds like now you're a part of the day to day. 3 hours away, you won't be.
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