re: Paying child support with joint custody

Friend of OP needs to take the mom back to court and file for 50/50 custody

If child is splitting time equally, then it us an easier sell to court for no child support.

When one parent is primary domicile parent within a joint conservatorship, that is when court will tighten screws as it sees fit.

State of Louisiana is pretty straight forward when i comes to child support.

You plug in fathers income, then mother's income, then look up in a chart for number of kids and combined income.

from there if the father makes 75% to the mothers 25%, then for full custody, the father pays the mother 75% er month of what the look up chart states.

jor join custody is a function of % each makes as well

My BF has 50/50 custody & pays around $200/mo to his ex (plus the usual half of childcare, etc). He makes more than twice as much as her, so I'm surprised he doesn't have to pay more.

My real complaint is the 2-2-3 custody schedule they have, instead of 7-7. The child is constantly back & forth, and it's impossible to plan vacations. There's a metric ton of animosity & vitriol on her part, so there is zero flexibility.

One piece of advice I would give is when it comes to joint custody and child support is document everything. Keep receipts no matter how small of an item purchased and have physical proof of every cent paid to the mother.

This from experience dealing with my ex. For a while we were getting along great and like an idiot I gave her cash for a period of time. Well shite went downhill and we ended up in court again so she claimed I didn't pay her for those months I gave her cash even though I provided bank statements showing withdraws of the exact amount. I was on the hook for it.

Eventually, and too long of a story to get into but, I was able to prove her unfit to care for our son. Kept good records and only paid by check, also got a pretty good attorney. She kind of helped my case too by leaving our son home by himself at 9 years old with his 5 year old half sister while she was at work all damn day. I now have full custody.

My brother has 50/50 and he's only required to carry insurance, they both are. He pays for everything when he has them and she does the same.

I'm a widow and raised him on my own. What little bit of a military death benefit he got went into college fund. I created the life it's my responsibility to take care of it at all cost. We all make our life choices and life isn't fair.

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My real complaint is the 2-2-3 custody schedule they have, instead of 7-7. The child is constantly back & forth, and it's impossible to plan vacations. There's a metric ton of animosity & vitriol on her part, so there is zero flexibility.

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2-2-3...wow...that's crazy

We run 7-7 with holidays spelled out in the divorce agreement. I kinda wish we went with 5-2 (weekdays w me), and Summers being in her favor because I am much more stringent on education than she is

I have joint custody and pay child support. Problem is the Ex makes a lot less money than i do and she is the primary domicile for our little girl. They really need to do something with the child support laws. I should be able to perform an audit to ensure the funds are used for actual child support and not nights out with friends. It's really a broken system.

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I'm a widow and raised him on my own. What little bit of a military death benefit he got went into college fund. I created the life it's my responsibility to take care of it at all cost. We all make our life choices and life isn't fair.

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Bamagirl,
You are literally the only Bama fan I will ever root for!

FYI, Louisiana has free tuition for children of deceased/injured vets. If your kid is still in college, you might want to look into it

joint custody is the norm.

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My real complaint is the 2-2-3 custody schedule they have, instead of 7-7. The child is constantly back & forth, and it's impossible to plan vacations.

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Try a rotating 3-4 schedule.

That way you don't have to miss your kids for an entire week, you get 2 full weekends a month with them and still have time for your own life.

It helps if your ex is willing to work with you and discuss and handle things like adults.


I have a Sunday afternoon- Wednesday morning and every other Saturday schedule and it works out pretty well. I couldn't go a week without seeing my kids.