re: Parenting advice seems to assume all kids are the same.

this was clear at my sons bday party..sometimes I think he's tough but my god one of the girls from his class came and she was a fricking terror. tons of tantrums, stealing toys, being territorial... all of it. But the mom did her best. Other parents were able to chill and socialize and this woman was on non-stop for every second of the party redirecting her kid. Some kids are just fricking tough

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The parents of the kid who’s running around like a psycho while they beg him to stop may be incredible parents, but that kid is just not as compliant as yours to no fault of the parents.

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Nah, most of the time it is the parents.

But feeding your kid Red #40 laced garbage won’t help, I will admit

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sometimes I think he's tough but my god one of the girls from his class came and she was a fricking terror. tons of tantrums, stealing toys, being territorial... all of it.

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I hear people on here say how good their daughters are, but none have probably dealt with a sociopathic woman. My sister was a holy terror and emotionally unstable. I thank God daily I didn’t have a daughter because of her. She still terrorizes my mom.

I had a “strong willed child” and she turned into a strong willed adult who is willing to go through incredible amounts of work and planning to achieve what she wants.

It was so worth the headaches she gave me growing up.

No character trait is good or bad they are all useful or destructive depending on how the person uses them. The kid who argued with me non- stop is now excelling in law school and there is no one I would rather have on my side in court.

My advice to parents with young kids is to give them a safe place to try and succeed or fail but let them carve their own path.

My wife and I hate conflict and avoid it. Conflict energizes this kid, and she is about to make a lot of money fighting for her clients.

My parents raised 5 kids. We aren’t perfect, but one is emotionally unstable to this day. She was given every opportunity to do the right things and still never learned. I saw everything she put my parents through. It’s on her and her responsibility alone. Of course my dad didn’t allow her to act like an arse in public though.

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However it’s also true that just because your kid will sit quiet and behave in public with nothing other than a threat from you, that doesn’t mean you have parenting figured out. The parents of the kid who’s running around like a psycho while they beg him to stop may be incredible parents, but that kid is just not as compliant as yours to no fault of the parents.

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Whatever helps you sleep at night bud. If youre kid is running around acting like a shithead, that reflects on you.

If the parent is stuck on their phone or grandma is keeping them all the time so they can have fun, im willing to bet the kid will seek attention regardless what kind.

i was not expecting this thread; generally any thread involving kids gets the instance "OT treatment"; you failed as a parent, you don't know how to raise kids, you sucks, your kid is reflection of YOUR failures as a parent..

i love it when OTers with no kids know how to parent best.

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I'm not. I'm going to judge them harshly and be critical of them as warranted. If your kids misbehave in front of you, its because you have failed as a parent. Especially at that moment. I guarantee you, you can beat your kids arse hard enough to correct the behavior in public. You just don't have the balls to do so.

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damn right on cue.

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Nah, most of the time it is the parents.

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Even if it is “the parents”, a lot of time what you’re seeing is a parent who has completely run out of tools and out of gas’s trying to deal with a kid who’s default setting is stuck on “hell raiser”.

The older I get (and the older my own kids get), I’m realizing what little control I actually have over outcomes and I’m just more willing to extend a little grace to other parents.