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re: My friend is very bitter about the lack of sex in his marriage
Posted on 1/21/20 at 11:08 am to Black n Gold
Posted on 1/21/20 at 11:08 am to Black n Gold
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marking a calendar as evidence
Tried it, doesn't work. I also added the excuse each time--my favorites are: I'm hungry, I'm full, I need a shower, I just had a shower.
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Posted on 1/21/20 at 11:22 am to Landmass
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Dude, I understand that sometimes it won't work out for various reasons no matter what YOU do. That is not at all what I am saying.
OK...
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However, most of men's issues with lack of married sex is self-inflicted and can be overcome in a lot of ways by really pursuing her. It's not a sure-fire guarantee every time but it surely doesn't hurt. And why not try? You'll be closer with her, stay friends and lovers, and if sex doesn't happen, it doesn't. You have to help her get to a place where she can let go and have fun.
Again, pursing your wife should be a given. I’ve already said that. That’s the first thing you should try. I thought that was self evident but maybe not.
Now, since you’re acknowledging that even when you do that you might still end up with two people with vastly different desires for sex (because science), what’s your solution? Because you were pretty hostile towards the idea of scheduling sex in your first reply.
Posted on 1/21/20 at 11:24 am to Black n Gold
Whining to get sex. Report back if that works.
Posted on 1/21/20 at 11:38 am to Black n Gold
I did this same thing once. Had weeks with no markings on the calendar. When she started seeing marks on the calendar twice a week and knew we didn’t have sex, she got the picture.
Posted on 1/21/20 at 11:39 am to Black n Gold
It was a subtle way of asking you to “help him out”
Posted on 1/21/20 at 11:55 am to Black n Gold
Look, before anyone just starts heaping blame on the wife, he needs to add a column to his calendar spreadsheet for times when they had sex that he actually made her come. That’s probably the “deeper symptom” some of y’all are looking for.
Posted on 1/21/20 at 12:00 pm to Landmass
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You surely won't get her pregnant because a woman on the pill or AD drugs has her sex drive severely impacted.
lol she's been on the pill for like 7 years and we've never had any issues. don't know what to tell ya boss
Posted on 1/21/20 at 12:02 pm to HT713
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lol she's been on the pill for like 7 years and we've never had any issues. don't know what to tell ya boss
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HT713
Hot, sexy stud.
Posted on 1/21/20 at 12:03 pm to HT713
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AD drugs has her sex drive severely impacted.
I do know they make it extremely difficult if not impossible to make some women come.
Posted on 1/21/20 at 12:06 pm to BuckyCheese
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I do know they make it extremely difficult if not impossible to make some women come.
wow look at that, it's like I've been in the on-deck circle swinging away with a donut on the end of the bat this whole time
This post was edited on 1/21/20 at 12:07 pm
Posted on 1/21/20 at 12:07 pm to StupidBinder
You are talking about what should be an extreme situation that I do not honestly believe is the problem in most marriages. I'm not trying to diagnose alan extreme situation but instead the majority reason of why men don't get sex when they're married. My only issue with scheduled sex like you mentioned is that it would suck. It's essentially having sex with a warm body and nothing more. By communication and thinking outside the box by helping and loving and pursuing your wife I think that most men would be happier than they think they can be in a married sex life.
I don't know why you can't just let it go. Yay, scheduling sex on a calendar worked for you. Congrats. I'm looking to be much more fulfilled than that.
I don't know why you can't just let it go. Yay, scheduling sex on a calendar worked for you. Congrats. I'm looking to be much more fulfilled than that.
Posted on 1/21/20 at 12:08 pm to LCA131
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Hot, sexy stud.
are you enjoying this ole miss dude going all pickup artist on this entire thread as much as I am?
dude's like, "yeah I didn't want to get into gynecology as a profession, only as a hobby, ya know? didn't want to ruin my passion for it." lmao
C R E E P Y
Posted on 1/21/20 at 12:08 pm to Black n Gold
Hmmm... weird that she isn't suffering in the same way. What ever could be the reason. Probably wears herself out at those tennis lessons.
Seriously, Google "Dual Mating Strategy ." And tell your sons about it. Women do not marry for sexual attraction unless men deal with them firmly on the subject.
Seriously, Google "Dual Mating Strategy ." And tell your sons about it. Women do not marry for sexual attraction unless men deal with them firmly on the subject.
Posted on 1/21/20 at 12:10 pm to Black n Gold
I blame Hallmark movies for all of this.
All those movies are about is the romance in finding a man.
Movie is over by the time they first kiss, totally disregarding sexual health in a relationship
All those movies are about is the romance in finding a man.
Movie is over by the time they first kiss, totally disregarding sexual health in a relationship
Posted on 1/21/20 at 12:15 pm to East Coast Band
Posted on 1/21/20 at 12:30 pm to Hangover Haven
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Porn Hub is his friend...
It's really not. Sounds like someone is experiencing the same but is too scared to talk about it.
Posted on 1/21/20 at 12:36 pm to MintBerry Crunch
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This post was edited on 1/21/20 at 12:52 pm
Posted on 1/21/20 at 12:41 pm to Black n Gold
Another argument he’ll never win. 
Posted on 1/21/20 at 12:43 pm to Landmass
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You are talking about what should be an extreme situation
But it’s not. So again, what’s your solution?
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My only issue with scheduled sex like you mentioned is that it would suck. It's essentially having sex with a warm body and nothing more.
Have you tried it?
I have. It’s as good or as bad as you make it. For us, it became really good because we were both anticipating it.
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I don't know why you can't just let it go.
You’re the one replying to me boss. You’re making incorrect assumptions. I’m just trying to be helpful.
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Yay, scheduling sex on a calendar worked for you. Congrats. I'm looking to be much more fulfilled than that.
I’m not here trying to toot my own horn. The OP had what I thought was a valid question. I gave him my thoughts and you objected to them. Which is fine. I don’t know everything. But again, if you have an objection to it, maybe you should have a better reason than “never tried it, but sounds like it would be boring” when someone is trying to fix a sexless marriage.
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