re: My fiancee cheated on me.

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Every time she said she was going to her "friends" house while I'm home with our daughter, she was with him.

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And I told her I forgave her, but I'm not sure why

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I'm not sure either.

I'll say this, the old "once a cheater, always a cheater" cliche is basically bullshite, but THAT level of cheating...yea there is a 0% chance she won't ever cheat again.

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he's made it pretty clear he views himself as the father and loves the girl like she is his own.

like it or not, it's a lot to ask of him to simply toss years of essentially being the father out of the window.

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uh

this is a 100% serious post

i hope you signed the birth certificate and/or are in the process of adopting that kid b/c you're in for a bad ride if not

if you're not somehow legally recognized as the father of that kid, the mom has an ultimate bargaining chip over you b/c she can take that kid out of your life any time

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I posted a family law free advice link saying exactly this; and the OP basically said he has fought for child custody before he knows all this... I think he just wanted to vent and is too emotional to take any real advice from anyone.

Ok here's the best vice you can get that no one has said....

Donkey punch her and move on

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this is where TDs thread formatting is terrible

that detail will be brought up over and over and over again because you have to scroll through 20 pages to see it.

instead of it being highlighted on page 1

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The top post with replies should be up on the OP. Like some algorithm that puts the post with the most replies by the OP in the original post. (this is where OP really confuses me, is it original post or original poster?)

Honestly man, no one should be shocked anymore if they find out their wife/gf/SO cheats on them. That's just the way it is with social media and how it easy it is to stay in touch with people/connect with new people.

I was in a LTR for four years and then found out she was talking to someone else at the end of our relationship. Could not believe it and would never have imagined that would happen in a million years. I learned my lesson the hard way and will no longer be shocked in future relationships.

I agree, and he should definitely move on from anything related to this chick. But that ain't gonna happen. Just trying to be realistic.

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I know my daughter isn't biologically mine. She was just pregnant when I met her. OMG This chick found a sucker and you got licked. What else does this woman have to do to prove to you that you want to be as far away as possible from her? Get your son and remove this woman and her daughter from your lives.

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Damn... yea she's been playing him the entire time unfortunately. That sucks because geaux loves the daughter as his own. I know he would want to stay in the daughter's life but I'm not sure that's realistic. Bad deal all the way around.

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his chick found a sucker and you got licked. What else does this woman have to do to prove to you that you want to be as far away as possible from her? Get your son and remove this woman and her daughter from your lives.

She's probably a sociopath. Just hearing the way you can't let go of her all but confirms it. She'll say and do anything.

She got you once when she saddled you with another man's kid. Don't let her inflict anymore damage. GTFO!

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real talk

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He may view himself as the father but a court will not. The only way he keeps his "daughter" is by staying with the mom....

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does signing the birth certificate not create anything legally?

even if so, you're probably right.