re: My fiancee cheated on me.

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The OP is going to stay with her. When you even hint that you're thinking about staying, you'll stay.

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In some situations....I could respect the person for forgiving their cheating partner and staying. Marriages can survive infidelity but it requires a hell of a lot of work on both people.


But this isn't one of those situations. They aren't married. Too many red flags that most men would have pumped the brakes on before the relationship even could get serious. Simply put...this relationship was never started on a solid foundation to begin with. All it could ever do was crumble.

I'm not trying to be a dick, but what a terrible choice you made. She was pregnant when you met her. That's a huge clue not to get involved. This was a pending catastrophe from the start.

You said your "gut" was always right, but you should ignore it from now on.

The BBC is undefeated.

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I'll reason with y'all, and yeah I'll get called a beta but whatever.. I know my daughter isn't biologically mine. She was just pregnant when I met her. But my daughter is my daughter. She's my world and nothing will ever change that.

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You mean you started dating her when she was knocked up with some other dude's kid, you took care of the child from birth, then she pulled this shite on you? Wow, what a piece of work she is.

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hit dude. All I can say is be happy you found out before you married her. Start making moves to get your share of time with your kid. Seriously, start calling family lawyers tomorrow.

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All of this.

Especially the lawyer. She’s been planning her exit strategy. She has a friend or is fricking a lawyer. Talk to a lawyer immediately. Secure the money that is yours!!! Open a new bank account and have you pay deposited there. Any joint accounts you contribute ZERO. lawyer. Lawyer. Lawyer.

Paternity test. You thought you knew a LOT about this woman and were wrong. Make damned sure you’re not wrong about that too.

Begin IMMEDIATELY living your life as you are single again. It’s like when a family dog dies. Get a puppy. Impossible to be too sad with a new puppy. It’s also tough to be sad inside of farm fresh pussy.

Don’t bash her or trash her. NOTHING on social media that her lawyer could use. Don’t get mad. Just get your shite straight.

There really is nowhere else to go. Unless u are willing to get past this? Which seems like you aren’t. Only you can answer for yourself, how much shite you are willing to eat.

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Would anyone in this thread be surprised if the OP admitted that he met this girl at a strip club?

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No. Between this & having full custody of his son, it sounds like he’s picking really terrible women.

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Medic, everybody is telling you the same solid advice. This narcissistic whore is going to find new ways to kick you in the balls. Protect your long term self. You don't know the depths of her deception beyond the one guy she told you about.

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Solid advice.

Ashamedly, I have been that other guy on a few occasions and got involved with married women.

It always started out innocently - never any pursuit on my end. Now, looking back, the pursuit was from them at times. Usually, the beginnings are centered around the kids.

There was one that lasted almost a year. This was back in 2004. Started out innocently. Her best friend lived a few houses down from me. I knew of her and her husband but didn't really know them. Ended up seeing her in the post office one day. She told me her husband took a job up in VA and she and their two young daughters stayed behind while he got settled in the job and looked for a place to build their house.

A week or so later I saw her driving through the neighborhood on way to her friend when she pulls over and says hello. That led to an invite to a party. Which led to an invitation for BBQ and beer...just us. One thing led to another and ended up sleeping with her. I'd walk down to her house almost every night for a year unless we went out...and almost every night we slept together. For a year. Feelings developed, or so I thought. Got caught up in her web, too.

Do I regret it? Yes. Then I didn't. I also regret her oldest daughter walking in while I was fricking her mom.

For a while after they left to go up to VA we still talked. Then that tapered off. A mutual friend told me that she got divorced because she was caught cheating with another guy.

So, the moral of the story is that cheaters never change.

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No. He shouldn’t forgive her.

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Cuz bitterness is a good way to forget and move on right?

OP, sucks this happened. Forgive but you dont have to forget. But for the sake of your child and your future, you should forgive the woman and let her live out her days in harlotry

Again, I've read every post and I get it. But let me make it clear as I believe I said it once. I'm not staying with her, were not gonna be roommates for the sake of the child, etc. The trust is gone, staying together does nothing but bad. I agree, I put myself in this situation, and the hard truths need to be heard. There are lessons to be learned here and I agree, I need to reevaluate myself, my self-esteem. I didn't post here for sympathy, I posted to vent and yeah, to get the hard truths, even if I don't agree with everything said here... It is all from shared experiences and knowledge so I will take it all into consideration. Thanks.