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re: My fiancee cheated on me.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:33 am to SlapahoTribe
Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:33 am to SlapahoTribe
Could this situation mess up the current custody arrangements he has for his biological son?
That should be his number one concern imo.
That should be his number one concern imo.
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Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:34 am to TH03
quote:
she was fricking some guy in a car in a walmart parking lot
I LOVE the way Walmart is used in this context. Cause if she had been banging in Tiffany's parking lot it wouldn't be trashy.
On topic..OP, in THIS relationship you appear as a stand up guy. I don't think it's going your way though. What broke up the marriage that produced your son? Did you stray? Your ex? Your judgment is on shaky ground here. WE don't know everything about you're current relationship but I think the attorney advice is best, if for no other reason than to learn your rights and obligations. I would not have relations with the fiancee right now. You are fragile, don't make it worse.
Worst advice? Go out and smash some girl. Your fiancee may be having YOU watched. Go without for a bit. Be pleasant, but distant.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:35 am to GEAUXmedic
Damnit man. Sorry to hear. You shouldn't marry her though. You will always wonder if she is cheating. Trust can be gained, but regaining it after something like this is nearly impossible.
Good luck.
Good luck.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:36 am to chryso
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Am I understanding correctly that you have more than one baby mama?
No. You are not. His baby mama is his son's mother. This is his girlfriend and another man's child. He has no ties to this little girl beyond emotional.
Medic, everybody is telling you the same solid advice. This narcissistic whore is going to find new ways to kick you in the balls. Protect your long term self. You don't know the depths of her deception beyond the one guy she told you about.
She only told you about him because you cornered her. There have been others. You have to take care of you. She doesn't care about you. Run like a scalded monkey once you and your attorney have planned your exit strategy. Talk to an attorney and listen to what he says. He is paid to help you.
Run. I cannot stress enough that she is mean and doesn't care about your well being at all.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:37 am to GEAUXmedic
OP....what did your friends (and family) think when you first started dating a pregnant girl and then shacked up with her?
I hope you have at least one good friend that you can go to with all this, the kind that isn't scared to tell you some hard truths because they love you and only want the best for you.
I hope you have at least one good friend that you can go to with all this, the kind that isn't scared to tell you some hard truths because they love you and only want the best for you.
This post was edited on 11/17/17 at 7:39 am
Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:39 am to lsunurse
I would question any of my "friends" who would allow me to date a pregnant woman whose kid isn't mine 
Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:39 am to GEAUXmedic
Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
You've got to fight the urge to "fix" things with all you've got. If/when you go back to her, you deserve the heartache that you'll undoubtedly experience again.
I apologize if that was harsh, but I know from experience.
You've got to fight the urge to "fix" things with all you've got. If/when you go back to her, you deserve the heartache that you'll undoubtedly experience again.
I apologize if that was harsh, but I know from experience.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:39 am to LCA131
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OP, in THIS relationship you appear as a stand up guy.
Lol, he comes across as a moron.
Dates a pregnant chick.
Let's said chick put his name on birth certificate after 0-9 months of dating.
Gets engaged to non-baby momma.
Considers staying with her after finding out she is cheating on him.
This dude has self esteem issues that he needs to work out on his own before he gets involved with anyone else, but he will end up marrying her anyway. Then she will get a large payout when they eventually divorce (which will be initiated by her)
Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:42 am to Displaced
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Lol, he comes across as a moron.
Dates a pregnant chick.
Let's said chick put his name on birth certificate after 0-9 months of dating.
Gets engaged to non-baby momma.
Considers staying with her after finding out she is cheating on him.
This dude has self esteem issues that he needs to work out on his own before he gets involved with anyone else, but he will end up marrying her anyway. Then she will get a large payout when they eventually divorce (which will be initiated by her)
I can't disagree with any of this. I still feel awful for the OP though.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:43 am to GEAUXmedic
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Every time she said she was going to her "friends" house while I'm home with our daughter, she was with him
shite geaux, I'm sorry. I don't know what TF is wrong with people who bring children into this world and then go around acting like a total selfish idiot. You obviously have to leave her. This wasn't a one-time got drunk thing. She intentionally went out of her way to cheat on her family. She's garbage. I feel sorry for you but most of all I feel bad for your daughter. Having a shitty mother is no way to grow up--I would know.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:43 am to LCA131
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I LOVE the way Walmart is used in this context. Cause if she had been banging in Tiffany's parking lot it wouldn't be trashy.
they were both busy and walmart was the perfect go between meet and go to the hotel spot. when people are horny they don't GAF. If you think about it walmart is smart because it is 24 hours they can leave a car there and it won't be towed or stick out. 
eta: the couple is divorced now BTW: the husband hired a PI and found all this out.
This post was edited on 11/17/17 at 7:46 am
Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:44 am to GEAUXmedic
I think you probably won't bother to read any more of the tread, but I'm going to say this anyway.
You said you're going to do what's right for the baby. Which means you think you want to stay. Or whatever. IT'S NOT GOING TO HELP THE CHILD. You think it will because it will help you. YOU have the memories of the baby, not the baby having memories of you. Even if you just have visitation, you and mom will not have a healthy relationship. What are you going to do when the baby wants to stay with you and her mother plays the "he's not your father " card? There is nothing good about any of this.
In the meantime, you be taken precious time and attention from your son.
You said you're going to do what's right for the baby. Which means you think you want to stay. Or whatever. IT'S NOT GOING TO HELP THE CHILD. You think it will because it will help you. YOU have the memories of the baby, not the baby having memories of you. Even if you just have visitation, you and mom will not have a healthy relationship. What are you going to do when the baby wants to stay with you and her mother plays the "he's not your father " card? There is nothing good about any of this.
In the meantime, you be taken precious time and attention from your son.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:44 am to tLSU
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Does the child not have a name listed as father on the birth certificate?
Because...and say it with me...
He
Is
Not
The
Father
Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:46 am to Displaced
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Lol, he comes across as a moron.
Moron is kinda harsh. Sounds like he doesn't want to be alone and hasn't mastered solid decision making skills.
I do agree this shows he has self esteem issues. He went through a divorce before all of this that had an apparent nasty custody battle.
He should have walked away from that with a desire to put his son first and be very protective of his heart and take things slow when he is ready to commit to another woman.
Instead...he meets a pregnant woman and decides that is the woman of his dreams. And puts his name on the birth certificate of a child he has no blood ties to. I can only imagine what his ex wife thought of that situation(she must have been having a good laugh over that one with her friends).
OP....many of us know someone that we consider a "downward spiral"...they are the person we think of when our life isn't going so great. We think of them and immediately feel better about our own life and grateful for the blessings we do have. Because that person just continues to frick theirs up every chance they get. DON'T BE THE DOWNWARD SPIRAL.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:46 am to crtodd
The OP is going to stay with her. When you even hint that you're thinking about staying, you'll stay.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:48 am to Displaced
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OP, in THIS relationship you appear as a stand up guy.
Lol, he comes across as a moron.
One can be a stand-up guy and be wrong. He clearly is struggling. He was in love with her. Came out of a marriage. Trying to be a father.
I think, as always, there is more there. Any man who tries to be a good Father is ok by me. It's time he open his eyes though.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:50 am to Jyrdis
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Sorry about your daughter. Find someway to make sure you get custody. You don't want her growing up in a toxic environment.
Holy frick some of you are dense.
He doesn’t have a daughter. There is no way he’s going to get any kind of custody of some girl who isn’t his daughter, in any sense of the word.
He’s not even her stepfather. Loving a kid doesn’t give you legal rights to them.
I realize some of y’all are caught up in the same emotional thinking as GeauxMedic but this is the time for rational thought.
He needs to protect what is truly his, him and his son.
The little girl is going to go with her whore mother if he does right and kicks them out.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:50 am to GEAUXmedic
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while I'm home with our daughter, she was with him.
Normally people get married and then have children. My opinion is there is too much of this crap going on today.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:50 am to slackster
I think the OP fiancee must have some fire pussy for him to be considering staying with her.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 7:53 am to GEAUXmedic
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my feelings are never wrong, case in point. Always trust your gut.
Sorry but I’m losing sympathy and respect for you the more I read.
You may not know it but you’re a textbook cuck. Sorry baw, but there is more fish in the sea, cut your ties with this hoe now.
Here let me tell you what my gut tells me about her and correct me if I’m wrong:
She’s from the Westbank?
She’s owns a trampstamp?
She has a Love Laugh Live Monogram somewhere in the House?
You’ve been cheated on before?
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