re: My 84 yr old father was recommended for hospice today

Try to enjoy every minute with him. I would give almost anything to have one more day with my dad.

For those dealing with similar situations:

After my dad died, my mother’s doc required that she go to a grief counseling group as a condition of him prescribing some meds. She did not want to go, but did so reluctantly.

About 18 months later, she still goes twice a week and really seems to get a lot out of it. They meet a couple hours, have lunch, talk, etc. I think it’s become almost as much of a social outing as therapy, and the therapist has also helped her a lot with how to deal with my idiot sister.

Prayers man I hate to hear that

Alzheimer’s/Dementia is an awful thing.

Man, this is heartbreaking…prayers for you and all of your family.

Remember, hospice is not only for your pops….they will be a tremendous help to you and your mom. End-of-life situations are really very predictable and hospice nurses are well versed in whst is happening and what will happen next. They are true angels…..

Frick. I’m sorry man

At least he knows who you are and you can talk with him. Take full advantage of that while you have it.

Well, be grateful for all the many years the 2 of you shared ...my father died at 52...I still think about all the years we missed.. he had just graduated from LSU Law School ...WW2 put off his education.

Sorry to hear that, man. Praying for you and your family

My dad’s biggest concern was that we took care of our mom. They both were/are in their later 60s. Once he truly felt that she was going to be okay, I think he was able to let go.

Went and saw dad today with the whole family, grandkids and all. He can’t leave the house, so brought the shrimp boil to them. It was a good day for him and two of my sisters made it. Everyone hugged him and told him they loved him and he seemed to reciprocate. I asked if he had any good looking nurses come and check on him and I got a smile…(trying to keep it light). He hasn’t been eating much, but he really enjoyed the conecuh sausage and corn, so I left some with mom.

One thing he has really seemed to enjoy was a proper shave. I’ve given him one every couple of weeks when I can see him with a hot towel and the works. Just something intimate and humble in doing something like that for someone and I feel blessed that he appreciates the shave as much as he does. It’s the little things. I appreciate the support. Hes undoubtedly going to get much worse, but im celebrating the good moments. He’s not afraid and knowing him as a follower of Christ, I’m not afraid for him. It’s been helpful telling others, and knowing other strangers care and are praying hits deep.