re: Men who leave their family

One high school. 2 not yet in high school

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good friend who left his wife and kids for a bimbo. Is this a chemical imbalance?

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Your friend, and he doesn't know it, is in limerence.

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I’ve advised him to go back home. He refuses to take my counsel.

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He won't. And even though he is your friend, his strong desire for this woman and the great times they are having together right now, outweighs anything you or his wife could say at this time.

The best advice you can give to his wife is to tell her to work on herself. She needs to be the best that she can be. Because limerence will eventually run its course. And when it does, she will be a better person physically, intellectually, emotionally and spiritually and be in a better position to decide what she wants to do with her husband who will now she is in a better place --- and will likely want to come back to her.

The communication between them, especially on her side, needs to be all positive. Act as if. It's a mind frick game without the other person knowing it's a mind frick game. But it works. And the communication should always take place verbally, especially if there is any depth to it. Text messages should be short and simple - never an argument and never text anything where the context and tone could be mistaken.

So you guys advocating being a good husband and staying at home with a miserable count, but running arse behind her back? Just wondering if that’s a better choice?

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So you guys advocating being a good husband and staying at home with a miserable count, but running arse behind her back? Just wondering if that’s a better choice?

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Why is she a miserable count?

Sometimes the answer might reflect badly on the husband.

Every situation is different but the best goal for kid(s) is a decent intact nuclear family.

A dad running hoes on the side is probably not what I’d call indicative of a decent intact nuclear family.

Parents in a troubled relationship need to make the best effort possible to resolve their issues amicably to preserve the nuclear family.

In the real world that doesn’t always work.

Immediately moving out and into a condo with a bimbo is not indicative of a good faith effort by the dad in this case.

He’ll regret it once that pussy gets old.

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People get divorces all the time.

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Alimony. The bill you get for the thrill you got.

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My “father” left us when I was 7 and my little brother was 3. Didn’t see or hear from him again until my high school graduation. He just showed up unannounced wanting to reconnect. Never happened, you’re a stranger.

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My biological father left when I was two or three. He lives approximately 25 miles away from me. I don't know him. The last time I saw him was at my grandmother and grandfather's funeral (his parents --- I didn't know them much either).

I have no childhood recollection of doing anything with him - even after my parents were divorced. The only exception to this is I remember going one time (don't know where) in his Ford Crown Victoria vehicle (police vehicle). That's it.

He didn't attend my wedding. Has never seen my children. He's dead to me.

And because of this, I believe in being the best father possible to my children. No matter what. I know that what I have experienced (and I have had a very good life) --- I would never want my children to experience it, no matter what happens between my wife and me --- because no child should ever have to feel a void in their life, especially from their own parents.

He chose pussy over staying in a committed relationship. frick him.

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Maybe wife was a miserable shrew who thought she had him trapped by his own principles into staying in a neglected life.

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Like the old song goes, there's nothing cold as ashes, after the fire is gone.

Racists and homophobes are all the devils in today’s society.

When are deadbeat dads/fathers who have nothing to do with their kids be held with the same regard?