re: Meeting your ex's new significant other

He was a joke and jealous as hell of me for some reason.

To be fair, special needs kiddos are far better protected in the public system vs private......unless it is a school developed for challenged kids. In that case big $$$$$$.

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Meeting your ex's new significant other
I would never let another man raise my kids or live with them

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Sounds good in theory, but no way you could prevent this from happening.

You know, custody, even partially and all.

You just have to hope that her picker works and he is a good guy that will treat your children with love and respect.

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My good friend just filed the papers for his and his wife is being a complete count about it even though she pushed him to it

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Many times, people will do something they really don’t want to do, I can’t imagine most want to get divorced especially when children are involved. Staying together for the kids is acceptable, providing the couple seeks counseling to work through their lack of communication, respect or selfishness issues.

You look so good in love-George Strait


Just try to be happy for them. It doesn’t help you at all to hang on to something that’s dead and gone.


Though it’s hard not to hope for a little Mental Revenge-Waylon Jennings

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I would never let another man raise my kids or live with them

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I feel you brother, no one wants that, but sometimes it’s not in your hands. The way things are is screwed up but what are you gonna do? Go beat her up and wind up in jail and then not have any part of your kids’ lives?

Now if he’s a piece of shite or dangerous to your children you may have recourse, but “I don’t like him because he’s plowing my ex.” Ain’t gonna fly. You have to swallow some bitter pills after divorce with kids, but being angry won’t help anything a bit. The best you can do is to have a good relationship with your kids mother (if possible) and be the best man you can be in your own life and a good dad to your kids.


And if you are lucky she’ll find someone who will treat your children well too.

It’s a shite sandwich but the sooner you eat it the sooner the taste goes away. The only person you can control is yourself.

just found out I’m getting a divorce two weeks ago. She’s been with an older guy, two kids.

I hate the situation mostly because of the kiddos, but I don’t hate the fact that I’m not the one that has to save her every single day.

We’ve been together since high school (15 years). You find out who people really are in this process.

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making your kids have 4 parents instead of 2.

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This basically doesn't happen. Unless your kids are like 2 years old, and the mother moves with Jody to Arizona or something.

As long as you imprinted on your kids that you are their father, they will pretty much ignore the shite out of the step parent. Picture a teenage girl walking right past some dude talking to her like Charlie Brown's teacher. And she gives him a side glance, and an "ok Ken" and rolls her eyes on her way to her room.

I lived it as a kid.