re: Meeting your ex's new significant other

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I would be very friendly and even hang out with him. If he is going to be around my kids I want to be on his good side. Like the old saying goes keep your friends close and your enemies closer.

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If this type of situation is attainable it is so much better for everyone involved especially the kids.

Of course the circumstances of the divorce have a huge impact on that.

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It is a milestone of a divorce with kids. The ex now has a new S.O. and they are spending lots of time together with the kids.

For those who have done this....when did you meet the new person? How did it go?

Anyone have a bad experience? Ex ever try to keep you from meeting?

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Provided you are reasonable certain this person isn't abusive or otherwise deranged, keep that smile on your face and make everything amicable.

Also, trust but verify.

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got news for you podnuh, you got zero say as to who your ex hangs around with or allows to be around your kids

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Doesn't mean you shouldn't be verifying and paying extra attention on your own. Check references. Check LinkedIn and find a way to talk to other people who know him. Hell, run a background check. If you know anyone in LEO who can help with any of this, then take the help.

It is absolutely on the father to be vetting these SoBs - because momma sure doesn't have her due diligence glasses on. And if you find something substantially untoward, you can, at the very least, bring it to her attention.