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re: Marriage over or salvageable?
Posted on 11/27/22 at 7:48 pm to Richard Grayson
Posted on 11/27/22 at 7:48 pm to Richard Grayson
Solid post. Post of the year in fact
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Posted on 11/27/22 at 7:48 pm to DeSantis_2024
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Sex has gone from 2-3 times/week when we first got married to maybe once a week
The horror!
Posted on 11/27/22 at 7:56 pm to DeSantis_2024
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What are you guys doing at having sex once each month, jacking off three weeks a month?
I'm away for work 2 to 3 weeks a month, so yes. My marriage is still strong though.
Posted on 11/27/22 at 7:57 pm to DeSantis_2024
Do everything in your power to make this work. Everything. And, don't buy into the bullshite that the kids will be better off if you two are apart.
Speaking from experience.
Leave no stone unturned in trying to save the marriage and find ways to make it thrive moving forward.
Best of luck to you.
Speaking from experience.
Leave no stone unturned in trying to save the marriage and find ways to make it thrive moving forward.
Best of luck to you.
Posted on 11/27/22 at 7:58 pm to dyslexiateechur
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To be fair,
Posted on 11/27/22 at 8:44 pm to DeSantis_2024
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One consistent quarrel we have is that I am just about always the one to initiate the sex we have and that aggravates me as I feel like if she really wanted to have sex she would try to initiate it sometimes as well.
Having a kid can negatively affect a woman’s sex drive for a long period of time, and she has had 3 in under a 10 year period. Don’t take it personally if she doesn’t initiate sex. Women are more complicated when it comes to sex, and there will be ups and downs in her sex drive throughout her lifetime. As long as you don’t make her resent you by asking her to do something that she doesn’t want to do sexually (initiating sex in this situation), there is no reason to think her sex drive won’t return. How old is your youngest?
Posted on 11/27/22 at 8:52 pm to DeSantis_2024
Welcome to a bump in the road.
Best thing you can do is communicate. Pull your head out of your arse and talk to her. Don't clam up and be prideful.
Tucking those kids in at night every night is worth everything in the damn world.
Small kids you can drift apart some and as they get older you drift back together.
Don't expect things to "be like they used to be" because they aren't and never will be. You didn't used to have 3 kids. You didn't used to be married. You didn't used to have all these responsibilities.
It's OK, Don't panic... we've all been there.
If you guys don't go to church maybe start. No matter how far the wife and I have been or how mad or out of sync with each other we really enjoy mass and going together as a family. Well go several times a week. Sometime I call her from work and ask her to meet me at mass if there is one in the evening. We homeschool so I've been able to meet them there at noon mass on my lunch break.
Find a common reference point and hold on to it. Launch from there and use it as a safe harbor to return and regroup for the both of you.
Good luck.
Don't give up. Kids needs a family unit of possible.
Best thing you can do is communicate. Pull your head out of your arse and talk to her. Don't clam up and be prideful.
Tucking those kids in at night every night is worth everything in the damn world.
Small kids you can drift apart some and as they get older you drift back together.
Don't expect things to "be like they used to be" because they aren't and never will be. You didn't used to have 3 kids. You didn't used to be married. You didn't used to have all these responsibilities.
It's OK, Don't panic... we've all been there.
If you guys don't go to church maybe start. No matter how far the wife and I have been or how mad or out of sync with each other we really enjoy mass and going together as a family. Well go several times a week. Sometime I call her from work and ask her to meet me at mass if there is one in the evening. We homeschool so I've been able to meet them there at noon mass on my lunch break.
Find a common reference point and hold on to it. Launch from there and use it as a safe harbor to return and regroup for the both of you.
Good luck.
Don't give up. Kids needs a family unit of possible.
Posted on 11/27/22 at 8:54 pm to DeSantis_2024
quote:some women need to be primed
I feel like if she really wanted to have sex she would try to initiate it sometimes as well.
She probably doesn’t feel as sexy as she did 3 kids ago - you need to flirt with her and tell her you love her, she’s pretty, you want her (etc) - when you are NOT in bed.
Posted on 11/27/22 at 8:55 pm to DeSantis_2024
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damage it would do to the kids
There is your answer. Unless your wife is fricking other guys, doing drugs, or being abusive to you or the kids, the marriage is salvageable. I suggest a date night on a regular basis where you behave toward her the same way you did during the " good ol days".
Posted on 11/27/22 at 8:56 pm to DeSantis_2024
For frick's sake.
Posted on 11/27/22 at 9:03 pm to Yellerhammer5
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please announce your candidacy already.
In the state of Florida it is against the law for incumbent governors to run for national office (president, senate, representative). The state legislature will have to change the law for Ron before he declares.
Posted on 11/27/22 at 9:08 pm to DeSantis_2024
“Couples that pray together stay together.” Make Jesus number one in your life. Go to church. Read the Bible together. Watch Christian movies. Your marriage will get better than it ever was before and you’ll be more in love with each other than you ever could’ve dreamed.
A bonus: you won’t be able to keep your hands off each other and you’ll act like teenagers in that regard.
A bonus: you won’t be able to keep your hands off each other and you’ll act like teenagers in that regard.
Posted on 11/27/22 at 9:11 pm to DeSantis_2024
Hey remember those vows you took?
Posted on 11/27/22 at 9:13 pm to DeSantis_2024
She finna hit you with them papers and that child suppote
Posted on 11/27/22 at 9:15 pm to DeSantis_2024
Don’t listen to the dummies here that say things like you should love her better.
You gotta attract her. Not love harder.
You gotta attract her. Not love harder.
Posted on 11/27/22 at 9:17 pm to DeSantis_2024
You described a normal marriage. Kids make things different. Marriage requires effort and work.
Posted on 11/27/22 at 9:22 pm to DeSantis_2024
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the damage it would do to the kids.
Posted on 11/27/22 at 9:25 pm to DeSantis_2024
The “good ole days” are gone. Grow up a bit and realize those days are gone.
You go through stages of your life and your ability to adjust and grow is critical to yourself, your faith and your family.
Go look in the mirror. The change starts with you. There is too much at stake to look at the past.
You go through stages of your life and your ability to adjust and grow is critical to yourself, your faith and your family.
Go look in the mirror. The change starts with you. There is too much at stake to look at the past.
Posted on 11/27/22 at 9:26 pm to DeSantis_2024
Sounds like you are having trouble transitioning from "husband" in a newlywed sense to "father" or "daddy."
You should not be trying to hold on to how things were when you were just married, and it was just the two of you. Life with children is different, but it can and should be highly rewarding.
One of the most important things you will do in life is raise your children. Some people take to it naturally. Some people have trouble adjusting. Give it a chance.
You should not be trying to hold on to how things were when you were just married, and it was just the two of you. Life with children is different, but it can and should be highly rewarding.
One of the most important things you will do in life is raise your children. Some people take to it naturally. Some people have trouble adjusting. Give it a chance.
Posted on 11/27/22 at 10:19 pm to SirWinston
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body pump
Doesn’t this beg the question?
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