Managing Holidays With Family In Different State

Divorce.

Every other year.

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what's the play?

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Two options:

1. Odd years, visit Family A. Even years, visit Family B.

2. "Hey everyone, if you want to see us and the kid, you're welcome to come to us. If not, see you another time."

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Divorce.

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Too expensive! I'm a prodigy of the oilfield boom gone bust

Move to Lake Charles. Problem solved.

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Start a rotation.

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This is what my sister does. One Christmas in La., on in Ca. She's in Ca. for Thanksgiving every year. That's always fun for her. She goes to our SIL's house along with her MIL and FIL and their respective significant others.

<--- single and no kids. I get to watch football.

With very young kids, I don't think its unreasonable for them to come to your place.

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Every other year.

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This. We live in Tampa and picked 1 or 2 holidays to head back to LA for my side of the family. When the kid got older we would ship her butt off to my sister for a week or 2 in the summer so she could catch up with her cousins and my mom and dad. As the teenage years approached my sister would send one or two of her kids our way for some summer time. It's not as bad as you might be thinking.

Our families only live an hour or so apart, but we live in a different country. I'm not looking forward to a cross ocean flight during the Christmas holidays with 3 kids. But it isn't up to me.
Regarding family split, we just work out ahead of time which days we will be where (5-6 days at each family). We're lucky that our foaks aren't too selfish or particular about where we are on which days.