re: Male fatigue

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I just wouldn't make this a "man" issue, honestly... They do it to each other too- push til they hit a firm wall. It isn't malicious... it's just different.

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I hear you. It’s definitely not an all man issue.

Years ago I was contacted by this recruiter. I missed the call and she left a VM asking me to call her back ASAP and that my resume was just what she was looking for and that if I wasn't interest did I know anyone with a similar resume as mine.

I was looking for a job at the time which is why she found my resume. I called her back and she set the interview up for 2 days later. She told me it was a formality and that once it was over to call her so she can start processing everything.

I went on the interview, it seemed to go well and I called her maybe 5 mins after it was over. She didn't answer so I left a VM. A week later after calling her a few more times and sending a few emails with no reply I moved on, that bitch emailed me like 2 months later to tell me she was on vacation and that they were no longer hiring anyone for that position. For some reason her emailing me 2 months later pissed me off. At that point it was in the past and the job I eventually got was probably a lot better than that job, but she emailed me like I was waiting around to hear from her.

I was in the middle of a reply to her telling her that she needed to be better at her shite job as a recruiter then I realized I was just letting out my frustrations. I was familiar with recruiting because I was at a company in between projects and was asked if I could help the recruiters, they were moving one from Houston to Baton Rouge and I was pretty much calling people and telling them where to go take a piss test and if they failed I called to tell them. The recruiter overhead me tell a dude that he could go take his "piss test" at a certain place and she told her manager, who I was technically working under. She calls me up and gives me a lecture on being profession. I told her the dude was working in the field, I was talking the way he talks and that they usually make fun of the HR and recruiters anyway.

I was put on some type of probation, I told my real boss about it and he laughs about it and calls the manager from the recruiting department and tells her he didn't appreciate the way she treated people outside of her department. He was laughing where she couldn't hear, but I really got female fatigue working with a department full of women. I was the only male during that short time and I never seen a group of people who were fake as shite. They would all act like best friends, then talk about each other like dogs behind each others back. So I understand.

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This situation is one example, and unfortunately, I am not special. This type of thing happens to women all the time. Your daughters have to or will have to put with this same bullshite.

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A man would just say they weren’t interested right off the bat and not even applied for the job or gone in for an interview.


This again seems like a woman problem.

Fair point.

I would say it has nothing to do with his attraction for you or lack there of as you have stated you are pregnant. Unless he's into that. He might just be head hunting and know that you are skilled and it would be a win to hire you. He might also see you as a friend when you clearly don't.

If you have a friend that is high up at a company and they said they can hook you up with a easy job with perks but on paper it say somemthign else. Then, in my opinion, that really was the case. I have taken jobs like that where the company have a strict by the numbers screenings, but after you are in you only report to your friend who then give you the perks.

A bit of nepotism? Probably, but hey, its a job. I dont think he has any ulterior motive and if you sick of it just said you're done and block him high and dry.

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I don't think he would have called a man 10 times about this job in one week.

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Why would you assume this?

I have seen recruiters try to convince someone (a guy) to accept a job that would have paid him less and told him he would get enough OT to make more than what he was making.

She would call him every day for almost two weeks like she was trying to recruit a top QB prospect all because no one else was able to fill the job and she wanted the commission. Dude just stopped answering his phone and stopped responding to her emails. When it was obvious he had no interest, she was more upset that he didn't "take her bait" when she flirted with her than she was about not getting the commission. She said.. and I quote "When I turn to flirting it always works! I should text him that I wasn't flirting with him because I thought he was cute. He should have been happy that someone was finally flirting with him".

Turn that around and a man was a recruiter and decided to try to flirt with a female potential hire. If she reported him, he would have been fired and they would have offered her more money.

So if you have male fatigue, would you have female fatigue if a woman did the same thing? Its a people thing, not a sex thing.

How fat are you?

Here’s what you idiots should have said to the OP:

That guy sounds like a real jerk. Good for you for telling him to stick it. You did the right thing and hopefully he will learn from this exchange because of your professionalism.

Was that so hard meatheads?

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Exactly, post reeks of American white female entitlement.

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Yeah, we’re so entitled trying to hold down fulltime jobs while staying up all night with a baby, doing childcare and house chores from the moment we get home until 11 pm and all weekend, and having husbands who can’t take off work ever. It’s a life of luxury for sure.