re: Looks like it’s the end of the marriage line boys

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Again, why would you do this to someone you once loved and have children with? That’s so fricked up

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I don’t disagree, since my marriage didn’t end with hatred. But it it happens all the time. First thing my BF’s ex wife did was empty the bank accounts.

We didn't have kids, but my first wife took all the money out of our bank account and almost all of the furniture from our home when she left.

I found a note on the door "I'm tired of living for everyone else, I want to live for me".

Oh Im going to get fricked if we divorce. 99% of men do. She offered to move out. I told her I would instead. I'm already paying for the house. She would either move to her sister's or find another house which I will be on the hook for 2 places instead of 1 because I will have to give her money regardless.

This is a mutual thing between us. It's easier for me to go to stay at my parents and let her stay at home with the kids. They are used to me gone. They don't have to know anything right now and they won't have to move to another place and start questioning everything. I will meet her halfway to pick up the kids or go all the way there if we decide to do marriage counseling.

Nothing is set in stone yet. I will know more when I get back home in 3 weeks but she isn't adamant about divorce. She just knows we can't keep going like this and we really can't.

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I guess I can’t imagine hating someone so intensely that I would ruin their life.

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Although not the OP’s situation, you might feel differently if you came home to your husband plowing some skank in your bed.

It's fine, honey.

ETA: Totally meant homey

This may not be a popular comment, but I promise you it wlll save you grief.

Take out enough cash from your account to cover your deposit and first month’s rent. Give her everything else. Don’t argue about it, don’t sweat it, don’t give it a second thought. Take enough to set up your apartment, and give her the rest. If she wants the house, give it to her. Think of it this way: everything you are giving her is ultimately for your kids.

Karen Downs will make your soon to be ex-spouse fell like the most insignificant human alive.

One of her partners, Vincent Saffiotti, is also a great choice.

As a man who's wife has major postpartum with each child we had, I wouldn't take it personal. She probably does love you, it is just buried deep. I almost left my wife after our second because she wouldn't take her meds. As others have said, get her out of your checking account now. And for the love of all, dont get remarried.