re: Living with your significant other before marriage - good or bad idea?

Should be mandatory.

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I think it confirmed that we were compatible to live together. I wouldn’t tell everyone that it’s a must, but I don’t see a downside to it.

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It worked out for us as well. We mortified her Baptist family and my Catholic one

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Living with your significant other before marriage - good or bad idea?

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I’ve come to the conclusion that it depends on intent.

If you both honestly intend to get married, like you’ve seriously talked about it (ideally are engaged) then it’s probably fine.

If either of you are “doing a test run”, then it’s pointless because the likelihood that you get married is low anyway.

In either scenario, I don’t think there’s any benefit towards the success of the marriage itself. “Test runs” don’t simulate marriage because…well, it’s a “test run”. The point of marriage is that you can’t just pack your stuff and leave, so you have to work through the problems that you’d be seeking to avoid in a “test run”. It tells you nothing about what it would be like to be married, and you obviously don’t want to commit to this person anyway. OTOH, if you’re engaged and do it to, say, save money on rent, then you were going to get married anyway. No additional information is gained, nor was it actually needed.

TL;DR answer. It depends but don’t believe the lie that it moves you closer to marriage. You were either going to do it anyway or not. Living together doesn’t help you figure that out.

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Living with your significant other before marriage - good or bad idea?

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Do you test drive a used car before buying it? That’s a short term purchase comparably and a lot cheaper than a divorce.

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However, is the government's licensing and approval really holy?

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You seem to confuse a civil license with presenting your relationship before the Lord. These may happen simultaneously, but are not the same.

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I am not confused at all.

Legal marriage is slipping and has been for a while. Louisiana is one of the worst places for it. Per USA Today, To determine the states where people stay married, 24/7 Wall St. reviewed the Census Bureau’s 2017 American Community Survey to find the percentage of the 15-year-and-older population that is currently married. Population figures are five-year averages through 2017. The Census definition of those who are divorced includes only people who are legally divorced and who have not remarried. Those without a final divorce decree are classified as separated.

We are #50 in Louisiana
• Married population: 43.6 percent
• 2017 divorce rate: 1.9 per 1,000 residents (the lowest)
• 2017 marriage rate: 5.6 per 1,000 residents (3rd lowest)

In the days when Jesus walked this earth, the Sanhedrin was the law in the minds of the Jews. It was a religious government (scribes) and it recorded everything, controlling marriages, property, and just about everything else.

In early Louisiana government divisions were controlled by church parishes, so it wasn't religious institutions that married two individuals but instead a license was granted by the state or secular parish/county and not the church parish but with its blessing. A beginning of state vs. church on controlling our lives and families.

Today, statistics show that the majority do not pay Gov. Landry for the state's blessing on the unions and the right to procreate. So, begs the question, what business does East Baton Rouge Parish or the state of Louisiana have on whether they get a license or not?

I've known old people who married 40 years ago and to keep from fouling up the woman's VA benefits or social security from a dead husband, they elected to not register the marriage. In the past year I know of a couple who married, had the big wedding, reception, and all but refused to buy a license from the state, claiming it to be a covenant marriage and the state had no business in the affair.

My wife and I lived together during my last two years in college. Been married longer than our 2 sets of parents combined. We abstained from sex for 6 months before getting married... then her body gave me the finger our wedding night.

Before we moved in together I was told to keep it from my grandparents. My parents didn't really care. I don't care of my kids do it or not despite being a bit more old school than my parents.

Can always count on the retard opinion here.

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Good. Get an idea of how they are to live with. It’s not 1950 any longer.

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This seems logical and I understand the thinking. But pointed studies on this issue have proven the exact opposite is true. Now perhaps that’s correlation rather than causation but it should make you question your untested beliefs.

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Historically you were more likely to end up divorcing if you lived together before the wedding.

Now it's about even, so there's still no advantage to shacking.

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I’ve lived with a few people’s SO before their marriage, and I recommend it!