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re: Kids in their 20's, what is the biggest mistake your parents made with you
Posted on 5/19/14 at 4:38 pm to TutHillTiger
Posted on 5/19/14 at 4:38 pm to TutHillTiger
I don't blame my parents for any of my short comings in life. I like to own all my failures. My parents did their best by me and I wish I would have listened to them more.
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Posted on 5/19/14 at 4:53 pm to TutHillTiger
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TutHillTiger
My parents got divorced when i was 10 and lived with my mom. Biggest thing that hurt me in the long run is having to figure everything out for myself regarding being a man. My dad did a great job of instilling morals in me at a young age, but as I got older he just threw money at every problem(he lived 4 hours away) and never showed me the way. I grew up very fast at a time when i should have been a kid. My dad and i have a great relationship now, but the teenage years are crucial for a young man
Spend time and teach them.
Posted on 5/19/14 at 4:56 pm to DirtyMikeandtheBoys
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They did not shelter us from real world adult situations like careers, family, financial situation, etc. Anything that adults discussed/argued really. We were involved early on.
I really think this is great advice. My parents hid a lot of their financial troubles from my sister and me and had we known, we would have done more to help out. We were also spoiled turds though, so who knows what we would have done.
Posted on 5/19/14 at 5:48 pm to WreckinRams05
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Spend time and teach them.
I have no children, but I've always believed that you have to teach a boy how to be a man. Show him how to mow a lawn, change a fuel pump, hit a baseball, bait a hook.
My dad was gone a lot (another pipeliner), but he showed me how a man is supposed to act. Now, he also showed me how NOT to do a lot of things he did. He was far from perfect.
Posted on 5/19/14 at 5:58 pm to FightinTigersDammit
A 16-17 year old kid is going to do whatever they want to do. All you can do as a parent is give them the best advice possible and try to set a good example. If you don't let them live their life, they will rebel.
Posted on 5/19/14 at 6:08 pm to TutHillTiger
Not teaching me about credit and how to manage it in order to get a high score at a young age.
Posted on 5/19/14 at 6:11 pm to TutHillTiger
just let him read this site
Posted on 5/19/14 at 6:16 pm to MWP
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Posted on 5/19/14 at 6:23 pm to TutHillTiger
Don't baby your kids. Don't try to shelter them. They will be exposed to things, don't be the one that says "not my kid" or be in denial. Look for signs with your kids and actually read them and use the info to your advantage. Don't stick your head in the sand. Know that kids are smarter than you think and smarter/know more than you did at the same age. If you and your wife are fighting, don't think that the kids don't know and you are doing them a favor by making it work "for their sake".... Just treat your kids as you would an adult friend when it comes to adult things as well as treating them as your child. Don't just be a role model by living right and thinking they will just take after you. You need to live right and explain to them and talk to them of why you carry yourself the way you do. Give them pointers. Teach your little boy what it is to be a man
Posted on 5/19/14 at 6:44 pm to lsu480
One of my ex's parents had credit cards and loans in her name to build her credit while she was in college
Posted on 5/19/14 at 6:45 pm to TutHillTiger
I think the best thing my dad did for me was to be around as much as possible. he went to every football game and most practices just to watch. never really said anything about them but just went.
Another thing he did was he always found out things that I did, small or big, good or bad. He always said he has friends everywhere, in all walks of life, and that he would never introduce me to all of them. It kept me honest a lot of the time.
He would alway talk a big game too about if I got in trouble this would happen.. but the matter of fact is, he got super mad about the little things and not very made about the 1 or 2 big things that I did. I think that made a big difference too.
TL;DR: Be around as much as possible, ask if its ok if you can come. Sweat the small stuff and it'll help him keep away from the big stuff.
Another thing he did was he always found out things that I did, small or big, good or bad. He always said he has friends everywhere, in all walks of life, and that he would never introduce me to all of them. It kept me honest a lot of the time.
He would alway talk a big game too about if I got in trouble this would happen.. but the matter of fact is, he got super mad about the little things and not very made about the 1 or 2 big things that I did. I think that made a big difference too.
TL;DR: Be around as much as possible, ask if its ok if you can come. Sweat the small stuff and it'll help him keep away from the big stuff.
Posted on 5/19/14 at 6:48 pm to TutHillTiger
Parents did a good job raising me,
I was a nice kid and all but I never understood how important high school was. I was too into self-absorbed drama when I should have been studying.
Overall my parents did the best they could, I was the problem.
I wish people would stop worshiping youth and youthful ignorance. People need to know the world isn't nice or fair. Raising people to be idealists is a huge disservice to society.
I was a nice kid and all but I never understood how important high school was. I was too into self-absorbed drama when I should have been studying.
Overall my parents did the best they could, I was the problem.
I wish people would stop worshiping youth and youthful ignorance. People need to know the world isn't nice or fair. Raising people to be idealists is a huge disservice to society.
Posted on 5/19/14 at 6:53 pm to TutHillTiger
Don't raise them to feel entitlement. Teach them to work hard and treat others with respect
Posted on 5/19/14 at 9:02 pm to TutHillTiger
My dad had a lot on his plate teaching wild-arse shop kids all day and then dealing with my older, profoundly autistic sister when he got home, plus us other two kids. How he did it, idk, but we turned out alright. Also had a good grandpaw that took up the slack when needed.
Posted on 5/19/14 at 9:06 pm to TutHillTiger
I had stricter parents growing up, but I am grateful for it now that I understand the lessons I learned early in life. Many of my friends who had the "cool parents" in high school didn't do very well when they went to college because they were used to always getting their way and were not used to hearing the word "NO".
Posted on 5/19/14 at 9:09 pm to When in Rome
..you sound like fun..
Posted on 5/19/14 at 9:22 pm to TutHillTiger
Leaving it to others to teach me about sex/alcohol/drugs
Posted on 5/19/14 at 9:31 pm to lsuwontonwrap
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You have to let kids screw up on their own and learn from that. I mean, not break the law, but yeah...
I'm with you brother.
Posted on 5/19/14 at 9:46 pm to RedlandsTiger
I see alot of posts in here advising parents to "teach their son to be a man" .........what exactly does that mean?
Posted on 5/19/14 at 9:49 pm to TutHillTiger
My dad refused to let me have summer jobs as a high school student so inhad basically zero job experience when i was looking for internships. I got lucky and was able to find an internship through my major's student association. It really put me at a huge potential disadvantage.
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