re: Is it Creepy to Comment on Someone's Fitness, While in a Checkout Line?

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Is it Creepy to Comment on Someone's Fitness

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My favorite line at the grocery - Are you pregnant or just fat ?

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Is it Creepy to Comment on Someone's Fitness, While in a Checkout Line?

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I mean it is a 'check (her) out' line

frfr though, I think it just depends on how the message is conveyed- both verbally and your body language

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Is it Creepy to Comment on Someone's Fitness, While in a Checkout Line?

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Meh. I get random comments from gym bros on the contents of my shopping cart all the time

Not realizing that by doing so they are just calling attention to the fact that my fat arse eats really cleanly.

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Is it Creepy

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If you have to ask this question, then chances are it is.

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Is it Creepy to Comment on Someone's Fitness, While in a Checkout Line?

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just pull your dick out and start rubbing it on her arse, what could go wrong

Nearly all social interactions with women depend on how attractive you are. If you are a bridge troll, you're a creep. If you're a male model, it's acceptable.

Women say all the time that they don't want to be approached in public and/or the gym, but what they really mean is that they do not want to be approached by men they find ugly.

Act accordingly.

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If they find you attractive and respond well to it, it isn’t creepy. If not, it is creepy.

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There's a strong element of truth in this... which is to say that there's no definitive answer. Women who are secure, happy, and trustful in nature will be more inclined to take an unsolicited compliment from a stranger well. And women who are more mistrustful (justified or not) or having a bad day may be more suspicious of a compliment.

I'd modify the good looking rule to be inclusive of charisma. In the same way that a person with charisma can say a lame joke and get laughs while another person gets groans or a similar dismissive reaction to the same joke, some men have a way about them-- a level of easy confidence and savoir faire-- and can read the situation and thread the needle of complimenting a lady without offending her.

Part of that, imho, is the easy confidence part. If there's any awkwardness or sense of being magnetized by the lady you're complimenting, it's more likely to creep her out. If you can casually drop the compliment in a way that it seems like you're saying it at the exact moment you're noticing it and your mind is aleady moving on to another topic without fixation (and you weren't just leering at her for several seconds before interrupting her), that's obviously preferable. The compliment has to be given freely and gracefully without expectation... then maybe it'll work.

To what end? Apropos of nothing it would come off as some kind of deranged Tourette's. I am imagining you standing in line and noticing a young woman's shapely leg. Thats biology (assuming you're a man or a lesbian). Can't be helped, hell, wouldn't want it to be, it'd be the end of mankind (Bernie Mac was a funny SOB). What is hard to imagine is what would motivate one to mention it? What is the goal? At best it would be meant as a compliment...which is bad in and of itself. At worst it would come off as a pickup line. If that is the goal and you subscribe to the school of keeping your bait in the water to catch a fish no matter how unlikely getting a bite is that's one thing. In that case its doubtful if you'd be the kind of person conscious of creepiness and would not be wondering about the level of creepiness such an interaction would create. That leaves it as a compliment and that is creepy as frick.

There is another option though and that is some kind of deranged Tourette's where you are unable to prevent words from tumbling out even when you know they are inappropriate (always wondered why Tourette's never manifests itself with innocuous words like "FISH' or something). It is unlikely that you had an episode like this without having had it happen before. That being the case I'd say creepy as frick....

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I've said stuff like this to male or female in public:
"you look like you go to the gym a couple times a month" knowing they probably go 6 days a week.

That will rarely come off creepy while still giving a complimenting to the person at the same time.

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I would cautiously posit that were the man or woman who had received this bit of information from you asked they might have a differing opinion about how often that would come off as creepy. Where it seems to do so rarely from your perspective I would suggest it rarely does not come off as creepy from the perspective of the recipient....