re: Is having kids worth it?

Once you have kids, you will understand the circle of life and why parents do dumb shite for their kids. Kids gives you another why, why to get out of bed and work hard, why to be better, etc.

If you’re 50/50 let the pregnancy sex put you over the edge.

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Once you have kids, you will understand the circle of life and why parents do dumb shite for their kids. Kids gives you another why, why to get out of bed and work hard, why to be better, etc.

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Yep. I’m a far better person now than before I had kids

My first one will be here in March after about 5 years of trying. My wife and I are both over the moon about it and can’t wait to meet our lil girl.

Yes. It’s nature’s design; family. My daughter texting me “ it’s like 1988 in here” from the LSU library at 5:30 am this morning will probably be the biggest joy of my day. And of course the promise of grandchildren. Along will the heartache they cause you and all the rough patches. But in the end, they give texture and richness to your life and a deep sense of meaning you just can’t have when you lead a self- centered ( not used as an insult here) life as opposed to being in service of those little guys- and them being at the center of your life.

Also know this will be very hard emotionally on your wife down the road.

However if you don’t want children, don’t have children. You know more about yourself than we do.

I didn't know I had that capacity of love, before my kids were born. Helps to have good partner you are on the same page with.

Yes, treat them with respect and purpose when they're young, enjoy them when they are a little older, and spoil their kids.

Some things to keep in mind:
? At some point you're not going to do some of the things by yourself
? At some point they'll be smarter than you
? They will make choices for your health in old age

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If you can afford it- yes

I love my kid and certainly glad we had her.

That said, I have a buddy that has three and he openly told a couple of us while on a golf trip that he regretted having them. The rest of us were shocked that he said it out loud, as I figure those are the kinds of thoughts that you internalize.

So, I guess it's just what you make of it.

I will say, a lot of people feel they're not ready until they have their own child. Nieces, nephews, friend-babies don't even come close to comparing what it's like to hold your child...to spend time with your child.

But, I would also say if you feel you do not want one, then that's entirely your decision and you should not feel bad about it, or let anyone else try to make you feel bad about it.