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In Vitro Fertilization with Unknown Sperm Donor

Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:15 am
Posted by CelebrationSaint
Member since Feb 2024
17 posts
Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:15 am
Long story short, my wife and I have both agreed we want to start a family. The only hesitation is on my end because of my genetics. I suffer from high blood pressure and severe allergies/asthma, both of which are strongly hereditary and run in my family. And while it hasn't impacted me yet, major vision problems also run in my family. Both my dad and my older sister are legally blind without glasses or contacts.

I want a child but I don't want to pass along my faulty genetics. We are seriously considering doing IVF with sperm from an unknown donor, not my own sperm. My wife's only concern is that I won't have the same level of connection with the child knowing genetically it's not my own. I personally don't have that concern.

Has anyone else here done this? What was your experience? Did it cause any impact with your relationship with the child (any thoughts of feeling like the child really isn't yours)? Any impacts down the road when the child was older?
This post was edited on 2/18/24 at 9:17 am
Posted by Booyow
Member since Mar 2010
3984 posts
Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:17 am to
Let your swimmers swim, baw
Posted by Aguga
Southeast
Member since Aug 2021
2012 posts
Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:17 am to
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The only hesitation is on my end because of my genetics. I suffer from high blood pressure and severe allergies/asthma


No guarantees it will pass down, and even if it does it ain’t that bad.
Posted by saint tiger225
San Diego
Member since Jan 2011
35233 posts
Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:18 am to
Your heathen arse needs to be in church this morning instead of creating more alters for dumbass trolls.
Posted by Bubb
Member since Mar 2010
3873 posts
Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:20 am to
Everyone has some imperfection. None of yours are major or huge health risks from what you mentioned. Have your own kids.
Posted by jmh5724
Member since Jan 2012
2127 posts
Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:21 am to
You’re telling your wife that you have bad genetics and want another guy’s DNA inside her? Bold move
Posted by DeoreDX
Member since Oct 2010
4053 posts
Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:21 am to
Who's to say the donor doesn't have worse issues?
Posted by GreenRockTiger
vortex to the whirlpool of despair
Member since Jun 2020
40715 posts
Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:21 am to
quote:

Your heathen arse needs to be in church this morning instead of creating more alters for dumbass trolls.
Posted by Rick9Plus
Baton Rouge
Member since Jul 2020
1694 posts
Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:21 am to
Over blood pressure and asthma?
Posted by CE Tiger
Metairie
Member since Jan 2008
41582 posts
Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:22 am to
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Let your swimmers swim, baw

Posted by Mo Jeaux
Member since Aug 2008
58456 posts
Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:22 am to
Voluntarily cucking yourself. Interesting move.
Posted by GeauxTigers0107
South Louisiana
Member since Oct 2009
9703 posts
Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:24 am to
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None of yours are major or huge health risks



quote:

Both my dad and my older sister are legally blind



Posted by Phideaux
Cades Cove
Member since May 2008
2498 posts
Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:26 am to
What is the vision issue? Inherited retinal disease that has been diagnosed?
Posted by CelebrationSaint
Member since Feb 2024
17 posts
Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:26 am to
quote:

Voluntarily cucking yourself. Interesting move.


I just want the best for any kid I would be a father too. I’m not concerned about passing on my genetics, that’s never meant much to me.

It doesn’t hurt I’m also on the short side (5’7”) and do not have an athletic build. I’ve already told my wife we should ask for sperm from a donor in near peak to peak athletic shape as well as a donor at least 6’ tall so that would help our son and daughter with a variety of endeavors.
This post was edited on 2/18/24 at 9:43 am
Posted by Junkyard Hog
Arkansas
Member since Aug 2019
244 posts
Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:26 am to
Sounds like you don’t know the definition of legally blind
This post was edited on 2/18/24 at 9:27 am
Posted by The Torch
DFW The Dub
Member since Aug 2014
19200 posts
Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:27 am to
PIIHB and you will have a brown baby, or she will.
This post was edited on 2/18/24 at 9:28 am
Posted by CunningLinguist
Dallas, TX
Member since Mar 2006
18751 posts
Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:28 am to
I know it has its own issues but adopt. Tons of already needy kids that need a loving home
Posted by Mo Jeaux
Member since Aug 2008
58456 posts
Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:29 am to
If your this bad off, why do you want to raise kids anyway? You have mental issues. Just do your wife a favor and get a divorce. Let her get fricked by a man who actually has a drop of testosterone.
Posted by CatsGoneWild
Pigeon forge, Tennessee
Member since Jan 2008
13287 posts
Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:29 am to
My ex wife used to have it done. You can basically pick a profile that matches you looks wise and what genetics you want. The better the candidate and sperm count, the more money.
Posted by CelebrationSaint
Member since Feb 2024
17 posts
Posted on 2/18/24 at 9:30 am to
quote:

What is the vision issue? Inherited retinal disease that has been diagnosed?


Honestly not 100% sure. Because of this risk I go to a vision specialist each year (which is terrible since I can’t stand anything touching my eyes) and so far nothing bad has come up. I keep expecting to get the bad news any year now.

I’m also concerned because I’m in my late 30’s and I know that can cause complications. Part of me would much rather use the speed of a man in their mid to late 20’s who is in his prime. Silly maybe but stuff I’ve thought about.
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