CelebrationSaint

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Maybe if 99.99% of the men didn’t expect us to look like the 10% of hot girls this wouldn’t be a problem

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I'm sorry but I completely disagree with this. Are there men that try to date above what they can realistically get? Yes. I'll admit I'm single (been in several long term relationships) and just hit 40.

I bring this up because yes in my 20s I probably was guilty of being too picky. I was probably guilty of only wanting the say 20% of above average to downright hot girls (I would not say 10%) but as I got into my 30s I realized other things mattered as well and I feel like my standards are far more realistic.

I think most likely there's probably about 30% of men who genuinely have unrealistic expectations of a woman partner. But I think the other 70% of men are either just not interested in dating, or more likely, just want a woman who isn't tatted up everywhere, 300 lbs and has nothing but attitude and hatred for men and the so called "patriarchy". Those standards might sound beyond basic but there's a huge amount of women here in the U.S. that can't even meet that.

My mentality is looks get me interested, personality keeps me interested.

So yes while there is a certain percentage of men (at all age groups) that will only date those top 20% of women, I don't think it's the overwhelming majority. It's definitely not 99.99%.

I would say this to you in reponse to your inaccurate comment. Maybe 99.99% of men wouldn't do what you say we do if 99.99% of women didn't treat men as nothing more than a walking ATM and didn't judge us simply by the size of our bank accounts and are only willing to date the top 5% of men by income.

See how silly that sounds coming from the other side? And I could argue my statement is more correct. Women are far more guilty of judging Men solely by their bank account and job title than Men are to judge Women solely by looks. But both the arguments above are silly. And that's the problem. Like with politics men and women are way too far apart now. Sadly I don't have a solution and I think it's going to get much worse before it gets better.

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Wake just cut the ribbon on a $38,000,000 locker room at their practice facility. Duke just hired Manny Diaz. These schools want to have competitive football programs.

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At the end of the day it's not about what they want, it's going to be about what's financially realistic. Duke and Wake both have old stadiums and small fan bases that don't particularly value football. That isn't changing.

Duke and Wake aren't getting into the SEC, Big Ten or Big 12. If the ACC implodes they would most likely end up in the American playing in the second level of College Sports where all their sports will lose money overall.

Is Duke and Wake willing to screw all of their other programs just for football? Is Duke willing to let its basketball program play in the American Conference while their rival UNC plays in the SEC or Big 10? I seriously doubt it. At least in the Big East Duke and UNC are playing in largely equal conferences.

Duke and Wake aren't going to have a choice. UConn almost destroyed their men's and women's basketball programs by going to the American Conference. Isn't it a surprise that they went back to the Big East and now UConn men's basketball is back at the top. Duke and Wake would suffer a similar fate as UConn if they go to the American Conference, but unlike UConn if they wait too late there might not be the Big East as a life raft.

Duke and Wake football are finished whether they like it or not. Either Duke and Wake make football independent or drop football and save the other sports in the Big East, or all their sports go to the American, wither and die.

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The fact that we have to endure the deaths of family and friends is weird to me. It's like someone saying welcome to the rest of your miserable arse life. Hahaha

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To me the whole funeral aspect is weird. You're taking people in one of the worst moments of their lives (immediate family) and making them put on a show.

Having to greet visitors, bring them to the open casket (if there is one). Put together photos and memories. Put their grief on public display. To me there's nothing dignified about it.

I honestly don't know if I can make it to my mom's funeral. I don't know if I'll have it in me. My mom is both my mom and my best friend. Yes I care for my dad as well but we have more formal relationship. His death will be painful but I'll get through it. Whenever my mom passes I honestly don't know how I'll get through it. I know this, I don't want my grief on display. Perhaps it's the introvert in me, but I just want to be left alone to process it in any way that I can.

Getting back more to the topic, I think you'll see burials become incredibly rare with Gen X, Millennials and Gen Z. Most major religions now allow for cremation and I think for a lot of people that was the only thing keeping them from doing it.

I know for me I don't want my body wasting away in the ground somewhere. My soul is gone, the body is just rotting material at that point, it means nothing.

I've already told my brother in law and mother if something happens to me that I want Cremation. I've given my brother in law 6 locations I want my ashes spread. The remaining ashes they can do what they wish. No formal visitation or funeral, just a casual Celebration of Life. Heck take my money and have a big party in New Orleans, a boat party on a lake with family or friends or take immediate family and go on a cruise out in the ocean to celebrate my life. I'm not married and I don't have kids so spend it up, don't let the government take it.

Burials already seem to be going out of style. Gen X will accelerate that. When it's time for Millennials I honestly think society will look at burials as outdated and honestly pretty weird and barbaric.

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You sound like an idiot.
Take some fricking Sudafed and get a prescription for amlodipine.

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If only sudafed actually worked for me and it was that simple. Let me list to you the number of allergy/asthma medications I'm on:

- Xyzal 5mg
- Montelukast 10mg
- Flonase Nasal Spray
- Azelastine Nasal Spray
- Trelegy Ellipta 200mcg
- Tezspire Injections

My doctor just started the once a month Tezspire injections because, even with all those other medications, my allergies weren't that well controlled and my spirometry numbers were terrible. They are hoping to get my numbers up so they can take me off the Tezspire but please don't act like taking a Sudafed is going to help me.

Having this battery of medications. This type of stuff is what I'm trying to prevent my children from having to go through.

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Beta cuck. That won’t be your child bro

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Why would it not be my child? Just because of genetics?

What do you say to parents who adopt them. Are those children not theirs as well? By your standard no one should adopt.

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What is the vision issue? Inherited retinal disease that has been diagnosed?

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Honestly not 100% sure. Because of this risk I go to a vision specialist each year (which is terrible since I can’t stand anything touching my eyes) and so far nothing bad has come up. I keep expecting to get the bad news any year now.

I’m also concerned because I’m in my late 30’s and I know that can cause complications. Part of me would much rather use the speed of a man in their mid to late 20’s who is in his prime. Silly maybe but stuff I’ve thought about.

Long story short, my wife and I have both agreed we want to start a family. The only hesitation is on my end because of my genetics. I suffer from high blood pressure and severe allergies/asthma, both of which are strongly hereditary and run in my family. And while it hasn't impacted me yet, major vision problems also run in my family. Both my dad and my older sister are legally blind without glasses or contacts.

I want a child but I don't want to pass along my faulty genetics. We are seriously considering doing IVF with sperm from an unknown donor, not my own sperm. My wife's only concern is that I won't have the same level of connection with the child knowing genetically it's not my own. I personally don't have that concern.

Has anyone else here done this? What was your experience? Did it cause any impact with your relationship with the child (any thoughts of feeling like the child really isn't yours)? Any impacts down the road when the child was older?

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