re: Impossible to buy old men gifts

I am getting pretty old myself, and I have been guilty of this. Think of it like this….If I want something, I pretty much buy it myself unless I think it is not worth the money. If I don’t think it is worth the money, I don’t want anyone else to buy it for me either.

I hurt some folks’ feelings pretty bad when I was younger acting this way. So now, I just be polite and try to show appreciation anytime someone gives me a gift.

My point is, he is probably acting this way because he feels guilty for receiving the gifts and not because he is unappreciative.

Subtle my Dad’s still alive brag.

I have an uncle who is in his 80s, The Outdoor board suggested a high power spot light. Uncle loves it. He keeps it plugged in all the time and grabs it whenever he hears something outside at night.

Prices are all over the place. But is was a winner,

Mature people don’t want or need ‘’things’’
It’s all fake. Human relationships are the only thing left

NM

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My father is 66 and loves fishing. His birthday is also in December so I decided to offer chartering a boat to fish (which he loves to do) and he refuses saying don’t want anything. Can you old baws stop stressing out your family? Just pick something damn.

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My parents are just a bit older than your father, but they told my siblings and me years ago that they no longer want gifts for birthdays or Christmas. They just want us to spend time with them and make more memories together.

I think a lot of people end up here with their kids when they just want to spend quality time together.

I started buying my dad and I matching Orvis long sleeve shirts. He seemed to like it and would wear them when id come over

Every year I hint for Old Spice after shave. I end up with the "cool" smell of the month, Versace Pour Homme or Christian Dior Sauvage Eau De Toilette Spray. Or, something similar.

It sits in the bathroom closet until the next goodwill donation run.

As an old(ish) man, I can tell you I would rather just have a real, honest conversation with someone about something meaningful than a gift. Time spent like that IS a gift.

Maybe we could go to a baseball game or fishing instead of a gift.

Or play a round of golf. Or visit a battlefield.

It’s not so hard to make an old man happy with a gift as long as the gift centers on something real.

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Can you old baws stop stressing out your family?

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I'm not nearly that old and have always been difficult to buy for. If it makes you feel any better, my being difficult to buy for also stresses me out.

I know it is a cop out, but if the old man likes to buy stuff off Amazon, get him an Amazon gift card. Likewise, if he buys his fishing gear at Academy, WM, Bass Pro, Dick's, etc. go that route.

Otherwise, something like a sausage and cheese gift basket or donate to a charity he likes in his name. Be creative if the old codger is going to be difficult.