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re: I Could Use Some Uplifting Words and Prayers **UPDATE in OP"
Posted on 2/8/21 at 10:29 am to Buckeye Backer
Posted on 2/8/21 at 10:29 am to Buckeye Backer
Hate to hear that and hope you know people are always gonna be there for you. Just gotta get through the bad and time will do the rest.
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Posted on 2/8/21 at 10:31 am to Buckeye Backer
We experienced a similar stretch some years ago involving kids' friends (suicides), wife's parents, a close friend, culminating in our oldest daughter.
Frankly we were too shell shocked to even be able to have the sense to ask for help and prayers.
Help, comfort, and healing came nevertheless, (albeit too slowly to satisfy me and my rage at the time) through many people and circumstances, those you'd expect, but also from many you could never have expected.
There are more people out there who have experienced to one degree or the other what you've experienced and are feeling than you might imagine. They will find you and your family and you will find them in mysterious and unusual circumstances. And they will bring comfort, understanding, and prayers.
I promise.
Some may even sit in the pot shards with you, like Job's friends, silently, content to share your grief even if they can't find the right words to say.
I pray the bitterness and anger will be washed away by the love of friends, their prayers, and by time-leaving you and your family with only joyful memories of the loved ones you've lost.
Frankly we were too shell shocked to even be able to have the sense to ask for help and prayers.
Help, comfort, and healing came nevertheless, (albeit too slowly to satisfy me and my rage at the time) through many people and circumstances, those you'd expect, but also from many you could never have expected.
There are more people out there who have experienced to one degree or the other what you've experienced and are feeling than you might imagine. They will find you and your family and you will find them in mysterious and unusual circumstances. And they will bring comfort, understanding, and prayers.
I promise.
Some may even sit in the pot shards with you, like Job's friends, silently, content to share your grief even if they can't find the right words to say.
I pray the bitterness and anger will be washed away by the love of friends, their prayers, and by time-leaving you and your family with only joyful memories of the loved ones you've lost.
Posted on 2/8/21 at 10:36 am to Mr. Misanthrope
^^^^
Thank you!! I won’t forget your words!!
Thank you!! I won’t forget your words!!
Posted on 2/8/21 at 10:38 am to Festus
quote:This has been my experience with grief as well. And sometimes the feelings can come back, but it's sort of like a graph where there are spikes of pain and grief, but overall it tends to trend upward with the passage of time.
I can tell you, time really does heal things. It may not seem like tomorrow will be any better, but trust me when I tell you, over time, the fog lifts, and the light returns. You just have to get through the fog, and it may take awhile.
Finding someone to talk to would not be a bad idea. Wishing you strength and peace during this difficult time.
Posted on 2/8/21 at 10:44 am to Buckeye Backer
Your grandparents were the bearer of gifts. They passed these gifts on to your parents. Your parents, and grandparents passed these gifts to you. Part o fyour personal aura, and orbit, is to touch others with these gifts.
You have provided these gifts to people who needed them. Things that their mind, soul, and spirit needed. Some of these folks were your peers and some were kids, that traveled through your world. Those that were affected the most by your gifts became friends and stayed within your orbit.
There is no way to sugar coat it. To lose them, sucks. You have gained a comfort factor in being in their orbits also. It will take time to begin to heal.
In the meantime, keep an eye out for the next group of peers, or kids, that need the gifts you emanate. You still have many steps left in your journey.
Sometimes what I say comes out dumber than I meant it.
Good luck, Baw.
You have provided these gifts to people who needed them. Things that their mind, soul, and spirit needed. Some of these folks were your peers and some were kids, that traveled through your world. Those that were affected the most by your gifts became friends and stayed within your orbit.
There is no way to sugar coat it. To lose them, sucks. You have gained a comfort factor in being in their orbits also. It will take time to begin to heal.
In the meantime, keep an eye out for the next group of peers, or kids, that need the gifts you emanate. You still have many steps left in your journey.
Sometimes what I say comes out dumber than I meant it.
Good luck, Baw.
Posted on 2/8/21 at 10:46 am to Buckeye Backer
Wow! Prayers to you and yours.
Put your trust in God and ask for understanding.
Go talk to a professional and for sure your priest.
May God bless you
Put your trust in God and ask for understanding.
Go talk to a professional and for sure your priest.
May God bless you
Posted on 2/8/21 at 10:55 am to the LSUSaint
Trust God. Place your faith in Jesus. Trials and tribulations will always be with us. Strong faith is the only thing that will get you through.
Posted on 2/8/21 at 11:10 am to Buckeye Backer
Man that is rough. If you are religious bound yourself to Christ’s wounds.
The Psalm from Sunday is particularly comforting in times of trouble.
The Psalm from Sunday is particularly comforting in times of trouble.
quote:
Praise the Lord, who heals the brokenhearted.
Posted on 2/8/21 at 11:17 am to Buckeye Backer
Pray the Serenity Prayer throughout the day. Keep busy and may help to talk to a counselor/therapist. Research the Grieving Cycle and understand where you are in the process. With losing 4-5 loved ones, you're gonna handle grief differently for each one. Death sucks and we all handle it differently. I suggest that you don't seek conform in the bottle (alcohol) as it's a depressant that will only compound your problems. Ask yourself this question ... "What would __________ (your family/friend) want you to do ? " You gotta keep on keeping on brother. We're here for you.
Posted on 2/8/21 at 11:18 am to Buckeye Backer
That IS a tough stretch....remember Jesus loves you and your family
Posted on 2/8/21 at 11:24 am to Buckeye Backer
That's rough, but you're finding ways to release and talk about it which is good. Don't keep things like that in, because it's unhealthy. My Dad was a tough SOB if there ever was one, but he told me my whole life that ya cry when you care about something more than yourself. I 100% understand what he was saying now that I'm older with kids.
So hope that helps. Prayers up!
So hope that helps. Prayers up!
Posted on 2/8/21 at 11:27 am to Buckeye Backer
The words of this English hymn from 1787 have helped me in times of need, especially Verse #2.
"How firm a foundation, ye saints of the Lord
Is laid for your faith in His excellent Word
What more can He say than to you He hath said
To you who for refuge to Jesus have fled
Fear not, I am with thee; oh be not dismayed
For I am thy God and will still give thee aid
I’ll strengthen thee, help thee, and cause thee to stand
Upheld by My righteous, omnipotent hand"
Good luck and keep pushing, consider those around you who are relying on you to do so.
"How firm a foundation, ye saints of the Lord
Is laid for your faith in His excellent Word
What more can He say than to you He hath said
To you who for refuge to Jesus have fled
Fear not, I am with thee; oh be not dismayed
For I am thy God and will still give thee aid
I’ll strengthen thee, help thee, and cause thee to stand
Upheld by My righteous, omnipotent hand"
Good luck and keep pushing, consider those around you who are relying on you to do so.
This post was edited on 2/8/21 at 11:27 am
Posted on 2/8/21 at 12:09 pm to Buckeye Backer
That's just brutal. Satan will do his best to use these losses/tragedies to make you doubt God's existence, love, & compassion. I'm praying the Lord will give you the strength to overcome those doubts and peace and the ability to cope in a healthy way. And I agree with others who have suggested talking to someone who will just listen. It's amazing how cathartic that can be
Posted on 2/8/21 at 12:12 pm to Buckeye Backer
Sorry to hear buddy. Prayers sent......
Posted on 2/8/21 at 12:29 pm to Buckeye Backer
Yes, that’s a lot to hit you all at once. It can be hard to keep perspective while grieving so much, especially in a year where our social outlets are so limited.
Grieving is important but so is your mental health. During a very hard time in my life, it helped me to 1) Recognize the emotion when it hits me 2) Mentally catalog the reason I’m feeling the emotion 3) Give in to it and breathe slowly & deeply through it for 2 minutes 4) Put it aside after “for now” and focus on a specific task.
Sounds stupid but I found that not running from it in that moment relieved the panic the grief gave me and acknowledging why I felt the emotion relieved the overwhelming feeling. I started with breathing through it for 5 minutes then moved down to 2.
Just remember to keep perspective. This overwhelming emotional response will pass eventually. Keep reminding yourself of that. Recognize that you have to give yourself emotional breaks and mentally focus on something you enjoy or at least requires mental focus. If you pray, keep praying even when you have doubts or questions. It can bring peace and clarity to pray through it. I found praying simply for peace helped tremendously.
Finally, give yourself all the Grace.Now isn’t the time to be hard on yourself. Just Be for now and you will get to the other side. Lifting you up in my prayers.
Grieving is important but so is your mental health. During a very hard time in my life, it helped me to 1) Recognize the emotion when it hits me 2) Mentally catalog the reason I’m feeling the emotion 3) Give in to it and breathe slowly & deeply through it for 2 minutes 4) Put it aside after “for now” and focus on a specific task.
Sounds stupid but I found that not running from it in that moment relieved the panic the grief gave me and acknowledging why I felt the emotion relieved the overwhelming feeling. I started with breathing through it for 5 minutes then moved down to 2.
Just remember to keep perspective. This overwhelming emotional response will pass eventually. Keep reminding yourself of that. Recognize that you have to give yourself emotional breaks and mentally focus on something you enjoy or at least requires mental focus. If you pray, keep praying even when you have doubts or questions. It can bring peace and clarity to pray through it. I found praying simply for peace helped tremendously.
Finally, give yourself all the Grace.Now isn’t the time to be hard on yourself. Just Be for now and you will get to the other side. Lifting you up in my prayers.
Posted on 2/8/21 at 1:03 pm to Buckeye Backer
Prayer sent for you and the families of those people.
Posted on 2/8/21 at 1:45 pm to Buckeye Backer
When I get totally freaked out and feeling like that I remember:
Be still and know that I am God. Psalm 46:10
Be still and know that I am God. Psalm 46:10
Posted on 2/8/21 at 1:49 pm to Buckeye Backer
My wife benefited from grief counseling after she lost her Mom. It was a group session offered by a local funeral home.
Highly recommended.
Sorry for your tragic loses.
Highly recommended.
Sorry for your tragic loses.
Posted on 2/8/21 at 8:41 pm to Buckeye Backer
I offer prayers for you and your family!
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