How many of you would remain in this relationship?

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My wife and I have an 8 month old. Last week I was coming home from work and just as I was coming up the driveway, she came running down the driveway barefoot. She saw me and yelled at me to call 911, there was a fire in the kitchen

I asked her where our daughter was because she wasn't with her, and she said she was inside and to call 911 fast.

We live somewhere rural and response times are slow, I immediately was scared the house would go up with our daughter inside before the fire department came. I tried to run inside and she tried to stop me yelling again and again that I couldn't go in, there was a fire...

I went in, the way the house is laid out you have to go though the kitchen to get to the hallway with the nursery. There was a grease fire on the stove in a pan and the wall above the stove and the curtains nearby was catching. I put out the pan by putting a lid on and then put out the wall and curtains with the fire extinguisher. Then I immediately went to the nursery and got our daughter.

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Going back outside my wife was gone, I soon found out she went down the road looking for a neighbor who's phone she could use.

But at the time, and for a while, I was really upset that her reaction to a fire had been to run out without our baby and to even try to stop me from going inside before the fire department had come. And that she put her in danger by not trying to put the fire out with a lid or baking tray over the grease fire at first when it was smaller, or trying to use the fire extinguisher. If I hadn't come home when I did I don't want to think about what would have happened

The fire department showed up but the fire was already out, and my wife returned too, driven by a neighbor. I was angry with her for the reasons I said and she just totally clammed up.

I went to stay with my brother and sister and law that night, taking our daughter. And my wife was very angry with me over it, saying the next day "how dare i leave her alone after that, she needed someone to drive her to the urgent care after injuring her feet running barefoot"

That upset me even more, that that was what she was worried about, not what had almost happened when she ran out of the house on fire without our baby. I've been staying at my brother's for about a week now. I don't know what to do, or if I was in the wrong for being so angry.

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