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re: How can you cope with the loss of a parent?
Posted on 6/7/25 at 1:49 pm to toosleaux
Posted on 6/7/25 at 1:49 pm to toosleaux
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The grief and the pain is unbearable. Two months and it's only gotten worse. How can you come to grips with the fact you will never see your dad again? I feel like my whole world has come to an end. Can't eat, can't sleep, can barely function at work. It's just so hard.
Ask yourself what your dad would want you to do?
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Posted on 6/7/25 at 1:54 pm to toosleaux
Lost my mother when I was 9 years old. I am 36 now. I carry that pain with me to this day and it has shaped the person I am today for better and for worse. It still brings me to tears at times.
The pain never goes away. You just learn to deal with it.
The pain never goes away. You just learn to deal with it.
Posted on 6/7/25 at 2:03 pm to toosleaux
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The grief and the pain is unbearable. Two months and it's only gotten worse. How can you come to grips with the fact you will never see your dad again? I feel like my whole world has come to an end. Can't eat, can't sleep, can barely function at work. It's just so hard.
Be happy he is NOT posting this about the loss of his son!
Posted on 6/7/25 at 2:04 pm to toosleaux
It is tough, but it will get better. I lost both of mine six weeks apart 12 years ago and it still hurts at times. I ended up retiring shortly after.
This post was edited on 6/7/25 at 2:06 pm
Posted on 6/7/25 at 2:29 pm to RetiredSaintsLsuFan
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lost both of mine six weeks apart 12 years ago
That’s terrible. How did they die?
Posted on 6/7/25 at 2:39 pm to tigerinthebueche
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Lost my father in 2018. You’ll never quit missing him, but it does get better. This may sound corny, but I never feel like he’s really gone. Something always happens and my internal thoughts seem like an actual conversation with him. Hope you find similar comfort at some point.
Same. Lost mine in January. There is still some pain, but things he said and did come back at uncanny times when I’m handling issues in my family or with work, etc. Almost like he is still here helping guide me. Even more so than when he was physically on this earth in his waning months, weeks, and days. I think about him every day. He was the greatest of fathers.
This post was edited on 6/7/25 at 2:39 pm
Posted on 6/7/25 at 2:39 pm to toosleaux
I lost a parent when I was in my mid 20s. It is really hard. Over time, It didn’t get much easier for me but it got,,, different. All the emotions are still there they just fluctuate over time.
I try to honor my deceased parent by carrying on their legacy, so to speak, and it helps me out.
The real tough part came when I had a child of my own. I wish they could have met.
Sending solidarity. Hang in there brother. Talk to a professional, it may help.
I try to honor my deceased parent by carrying on their legacy, so to speak, and it helps me out.
The real tough part came when I had a child of my own. I wish they could have met.
Sending solidarity. Hang in there brother. Talk to a professional, it may help.
Posted on 6/7/25 at 3:03 pm to toosleaux
Understand this: that's how it's supposed to be. It's better than parents burying their children, and one's parents should expect to have raised their children well enough for their children to carry the torch of making life worth living.
So put it in this perspective: you carry your parents with you in a peaceful, meaningful way. They're never really gone. Remember their lessons and project the best parts of them onto whatever life throws at you. That's how you're supposed to get through it. In that way they're never really gone. And expect to meet them again later.
So put it in this perspective: you carry your parents with you in a peaceful, meaningful way. They're never really gone. Remember their lessons and project the best parts of them onto whatever life throws at you. That's how you're supposed to get through it. In that way they're never really gone. And expect to meet them again later.
Posted on 6/7/25 at 3:05 pm to toosleaux
Sorry for your loss. Think about my parents every day and they have both been gone over 25 years.
Make them proud of you every day to honor them.
Make them proud of you every day to honor them.
Posted on 6/7/25 at 3:09 pm to toosleaux
For me, it was my mother. I watched her suffer for years with different ailments and broken bones. When she passed, I was very sad, cried a lot and had trouble sleeping. After a year, it got better and now I see myself doing the things she taught me and I'm very grateful. I'm also relieved that she doesn't have to suffer any longer and is in a better place. Take the time to grieve. God bless!
Posted on 6/7/25 at 3:35 pm to toosleaux
Sorry to hear that. I lost my dad at the end of February. Months later with some grief counseling im finally starting to get a little better. I still have my moments but remembering the good times w him & that he was a wonderful father has helped. Grief counseling does work. It just takes a long time as losing a parent is a serious life altering event.
Posted on 6/7/25 at 4:51 pm to toosleaux
Start to take notice and appreciate the simple things in life.
It was tough when we lost our dad several years ago. Growing up I envisioned my dad as the strongest man on earth and then watched him grow old and wither away.
It gets easier to deal with as time goes on. The pain is always there but it gets easier to manage. One day you will go from crying everytime you think of him to smiling when you think about him.
Hang in there
It was tough when we lost our dad several years ago. Growing up I envisioned my dad as the strongest man on earth and then watched him grow old and wither away.
It gets easier to deal with as time goes on. The pain is always there but it gets easier to manage. One day you will go from crying everytime you think of him to smiling when you think about him.
Hang in there
Posted on 6/7/25 at 5:10 pm to toosleaux
If you have kids, gather them close and understand that those kids are part of your Dad's legacy. See your Dad in your kids and love your family.
If you don't have kids, seek out your siblings or other family members and just talk to them about your dad.
If you don't have kids, seek out your siblings or other family members and just talk to them about your dad.
Posted on 6/7/25 at 5:25 pm to toosleaux
What I do is grab a chair and go sit by their grave - sometimes with a beer and tell them how much they mean to you.
Also, update them on your life - new job, getting divorced, new dog etc. You’re not asking for feedback, just telling them what’s going on in your life.
When my mom passed, a cardinal kept coming in my backyard and I’ve been in my house for 10+ years and never seen one before. No doubt it’s my mom coming to say hey.
You’ll find your footing my dude. Just keep your head up
Also, update them on your life - new job, getting divorced, new dog etc. You’re not asking for feedback, just telling them what’s going on in your life.
When my mom passed, a cardinal kept coming in my backyard and I’ve been in my house for 10+ years and never seen one before. No doubt it’s my mom coming to say hey.
You’ll find your footing my dude. Just keep your head up
Posted on 6/7/25 at 5:32 pm to toosleaux
quote:It gets better. I remember this. I also remember not being able to turn on a TV or radio. I would think how could the world go on.
Can't eat, can't sleep, can barely function at work.
There is no earthy form of comfort possible. I guess it is why people eat comfort foods trying to support the grieving.
The only way I got through was when I had to go to a funeral of a 6 year old girl and her mom couldn't stand without valium. I could not fathom that level of grief and moved ahead in my grief process.
We could all be nuked to smithereens and somehow someway an AM radio would be playing 70's songs.
ONE DAY-After horrendous grief this song came on as I started my car. (My radio was not preset or on)
Posted on 6/7/25 at 5:36 pm to toosleaux
If he was a good dad, count your blessings for the time you had with him. Lost my dad when I was 13 but remember the love he had for me and my family. Remember all he taught you and he’s never really gone.
Posted on 6/7/25 at 5:39 pm to toosleaux
It took a while. My dad passed away back in 2018 and it was very hard. Worst part was knowing he wouldn't be there to see my kids grow up. They were young (3 yrs and 8 months) and they were his whole world. It'll get better...just allow yourself to grieve.
Posted on 6/7/25 at 5:40 pm to toosleaux
Count your blessings in that you had a good Dad who did so much for you.
A large percentage of the population can't honestly say that.
For instance, after my Grand Children were born, they were/are such a blessing. I have enjoyed them so much. One day I was thinking about my life, I remembered my Mom's Dad and My Dad's Mom passed before I was born. The ones, Grand Pa and Grand Ma, that I knew, never said a kind word to me,.,
A few years ago, I was diagnosed with Prostate Cancer. One of the Drs that treated me asked how I felt about having Cancer and the Possibility that I may die.
I told him, we are all going to die. I have been so blessed. Came from poverty. Met the girl of my dreams, and married her. Together we have had a great life.
Be happy that you and your Dad were close and he was worth missing. All don't have that experience.
A large percentage of the population can't honestly say that.
For instance, after my Grand Children were born, they were/are such a blessing. I have enjoyed them so much. One day I was thinking about my life, I remembered my Mom's Dad and My Dad's Mom passed before I was born. The ones, Grand Pa and Grand Ma, that I knew, never said a kind word to me,.,
A few years ago, I was diagnosed with Prostate Cancer. One of the Drs that treated me asked how I felt about having Cancer and the Possibility that I may die.
I told him, we are all going to die. I have been so blessed. Came from poverty. Met the girl of my dreams, and married her. Together we have had a great life.
Be happy that you and your Dad were close and he was worth missing. All don't have that experience.
Posted on 6/7/25 at 5:45 pm to tgrmeat
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My dad has been dead a year and I still pick up the phone to call or text him about certain things just out of reflex. It’s not easy but know that it will get easier.
I can’t remove my mom out of my favorites. It’s been over 2 years.
Posted on 6/7/25 at 5:52 pm to toosleaux
It’s very personal. You just do your best. Both of mine were wonderful.
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