re: Holding the household together since the hurricane but I’m a piece of shite

My GF is very understanding after a few days at my house I let her use my generator at her house and I’m in Ruston chilling at my parents.

Only bad thing they watch all their old shows from the 60’s and 70’s during the day but at night the direct tv remote is mine

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Only bad thing they watch all their old shows from the 60’s and 70’s during the day but at night the direct tv remote is mine

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She never learned to put the kid down.

Kiddo comes to me for play times glues to her mom for everything else, but since she plays on her phone while trying to get the kiddo asleep, she never sleeps.

So glad I'm divorced and with someone now who appreciated the fact that I did all of this for them. In fact, she thanked me again yesterday.

If I remember right, y’all had a baby right around the same time we did which makes the baby right at a year old. Mine didn’t exactly blow through all of this unfazed but she did as good as can be expected. Good luck on that front.

My advice is going to sound Neanderthal to some but it’s how we do things and it works. I do the man shite, she does the woman shite. I’m running the genny, which means taking care of oil, refueling, troubleshooting issues, and tracking down gas. I cook at least two hots and ensure nothing gets spoiled. Manage insurance, FEMA, and workers making repairs. I also manage the budget. My oldest daughter got salmonella during Katrina because of the conditions so I also do all the cleaning to make sure it’s done right. Im also working, doing so remotely, but still working when possible. I also boil water for bathes and help get the kids (3 under 8 at home for the storm) clean. I also pull guard duty. She takes care of the kids. Bottom line. No fighten, no fussin. This shite can be disastrous to relationships or it can make you stronger. It’s a team effort.

I think I would show her this post actually. You shouldn’t be faulted for being a great dad and a man. You may need to politely walk her back a little and stand up take 100% control of the situation you can’t negotiate at these times. she is barking out orders and you are following them when you are working in the background more than she realizes. You may upset her but take control you are the only one holding this together and all she is doing is complaining don’t blow up pull her aside give her a cold drink and explain that cold drink that ac and how all this happens.

Jody is about to visit your house

She should definitely give you credit for the work you've been doing but I bet she's been contributing as well. Is she washing dishes, doing laundry, keeping the baby fed and happy? You're both stressed out and it sounds like you're taking it out on each other.

Update:

Pretty sure she did see this post today. She came home from work and has been extra loving towards me. She even came out of the blue and unsolicited with “thank you for taking care of us through all of this and I’m sorry I’ve been so bitchy” this evening. Holy shite, I can’t believe she didn’t blow up.