re: Have you ever had an Ex contact you?

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Bonghole

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Men everywhere should meet this guy for a beer and hand him your phone if you hear “can we be friends?”

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I don't understand why you are supposed to hate your ex.

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Grab a glass, and reminisce to when the divorce with kids was fresh. You're on the womanly side of the house, not the man side, so you have a different perspective, but it's also tainted (I'm in TX, so not as bad as LA) with how you experienced it.

Deal with the non-custodial parent side of the house with state agencies, and you get considerably more pissed at life, including the ex that is in the blast zone of dealing with it.

I got off of FB after I got married, because I primarily used it to scout ladies right after I graduated. I didn't need ex girlfriends trying to find me after their marriages started turning, etc. Changing phone numbers every five years or so also helps.

My ex-wife texted me 2-3 years after our divorce was finalized and apologized for how she acted. She listed the personality disorders she had been diagnosed with and said she was getting treatment. I didn’t even know how to respond.

First high school girlfriend dumped me for my best friend and they went out for years. She didn’t think our relationship was a big deal but I rarely missed a chance to be a jerk to her afterwards. Hadn’t heard from her in decades and then a friend told me she drowned recently. I’ll never be able to apologize and it bothers me deeply.

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A guy I dated in college had his sister text me a few weeks ago - so weird

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Pics of sister??

A few years back I got a call from an Ex. We hadn't seen each other in about 12 years? It's funny she is very liberal now.. We never talked politics when we were dating and she seemed ambivalent towards politics or any party. She told me she was on facebook so I checked to see what she looked like.. Damn if she didn't look like Edna Mode from The Incredibles. I busted out laughing and said eff that... I've gotten other calls to let me know they were getting married. Like trying to rub it in my face... I just say I can't be anymore happier for you...

About two years ago I had an ex from the early 00’s contact me. Our HS relationship went south because she cheated on me. She didn’t admit it, and I couldn’t prove it, but I had a very strong feeling she did.

Anywho, she messages me on FB telling me how she wanted to clear her conscience and was sorry for cheating on me. She’s apparently very religious now and this weighed on her. She said I was such an amazing person then who didn’t deserve to treated like crap.

I acknowledged it, wished her the best, and that was it.

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I don't understand why you are supposed to hate your ex.

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Every divorce is different. I’ll never wish my ex husband well. He lied and cheated. I went through years of several painful surgeries and procedures trying to give him a kid. Found out during the divorce he knew he was unhappy before we started treatments…never once thinking maybe I should have known that information before I put my body through all that. He thought a baby would maybe make him happier so lied to me that whole time


So yeah…..thankfully I’ll never see him again but I sure as hell ain’t gonna wish his arse a happy life.

Yes, two different ones. One from high school somehow was able to get the number for my department on the aircraft carrier I was on. Other ex was much later in life. Both were “crash & burns” and I regret ever reconnecting with them, though both of them initiated the contact. I should have just told them we didn’t last for a reason and wished them well.

Im only on one social media app, the geriatric app (Facebook) and havent posted anything in probably a couple years.. but back when i was using it regularly , i was “friends” with a couple of girls i dated casually- i guess id call them girlfriends in very loose terms, maybe we had dated for a few months or something.. but im not friends on social media with the girls that i had serious relationships with when i was younger, mainly b/c i try to put myself in their now-husband’s shoes, and think ‘Would i want the ex boyfriend to come sniffing around and ‘friend’ my wife on social media ?’.. the answer, to me, is probably not.. now im not a moralist, and what works for me might not work for everybody else.. hell, maybe im not mature enough to handle being friends with girls i was in love with decades ago.. but to me i kinda like NOT seeing what’s going on in their everyday lives, or finding out about whatever stupid political views they have today.. it makes me look back more fondly on what we used to have.. and i like to think that if we ever did run into each other in the wild, it’d be more cool & meaningful if we hadnt been ‘friends’ on social media all these years.. at least, the ones i broke up on good terms with .

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A guy I dated in college had his sister text me a few weeks ago

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Kinky