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re: have you done something before that is unforgivable?
Posted on 12/28/20 at 12:19 am to Lincoln Dawson
Posted on 12/28/20 at 12:19 am to Lincoln Dawson
Give them time and show them that you are truly sorry. Don’t repeat the behavior. Try to understand why they can’t forgive you. That may help you gain some closer.
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Posted on 12/28/20 at 12:48 am to Lincoln Dawson
I rigged the cord on Paul Allen's hotel iron so that it would fail and injure him. I had no idea he was such a giant pussy and it would result in litigation.
Posted on 12/28/20 at 5:51 am to Lincoln Dawson
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have you done something before that is unforgivable? by Lincoln Dawson
i admit i have made plenty of mistakes. some very stupid, some not so as much, some just incredibly selfish and not realizing as such when doing so, etc.
i guess you could say that some of these mistakes are similar in nature to one another but at the same times different (no infidelity or anything along those lines). quite frankly, they were mostly self-serving, manipulative and selfish. i own it. i've apologized with full sincerity.
but i know that words don't mean a thing. its actions. dont tell me, show me. the problem i am having is that the other person doesn't know how to forgive (their words). they have also said they don't know if they are capable of forgiving. this has gone on for quite some time now.
occasionally i will do something stupid in their eyes that only makes the situation worse and i guess further solidifies their reasoning to not forgive me. it isn't anything detrimental in the grand scheme of things but it gets lump into the past shite i screwed up on.
i know i can only change me and can't do anything about the other person. but at what point can i get some closure on my end when i can't be forgiven because the other person doesn't know how to forgive? i normally wouldn't care if it were an acquaintance but this is a very important person to me.
You typed all that shite and didn’t give examples? Confess my son.
Posted on 12/28/20 at 5:55 am to Lincoln Dawson
Here’s the thing about forgiveness. It affects the one who doesn’t forgive much much more than the one who asks for forgiveness. It becomes an unbearable weight that affects them mentally, and physically as well as spiritually. They drag it around everywhere they go in life, even if they aren’t really aware that they are.
Posted on 12/28/20 at 6:05 am to Lestradamus
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Physically hurt them? Financially hurt them? Emotionally abused them? Murdered their parents?
none of those things.
Posted on 12/28/20 at 6:07 am to Mike da Tigah
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Here’s the thing about forgiveness. It affects the one who doesn’t forgive much much more than the one who asks for forgiveness. It becomes an unbearable weight that affects them mentally, and physically as well as spiritually. They drag it around everywhere they go in life, even if they aren’t really aware that they are.
yes all of this. i don't dare attempt to point it out because if i did it would look like i am trying to shift the blame. but i know it is hurting them greatly even though they don't see it.
Posted on 12/28/20 at 6:10 am to Lincoln Dawson
Are you the guy who’s banging LSU Coyote’s wife?
Bad dog.
Bad dog.
Posted on 12/28/20 at 6:21 am to Lincoln Dawson
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yes all of this. i don't dare attempt to point it out because if i did it would look like i am trying to shift the blame. but i know it is hurting them greatly even though they don't see it.
Yeah, you’re probably not in a good place to point that out, but the fact is it hurts you much less than them. I think we all wrestle with forgiveness from time to time in life. Some people have to constantly be forgiven for what they say or do that hurts us, and some things keep raising their ugly head when we recall it and we have to forgive over and over for a bit until we finally just let it go, never forgetting, but just finally let it go.
Posted on 12/28/20 at 6:28 am to GreenRockTiger
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Everything should be forgivable except murder
BS. If a pedophile got ahold of one of my kids and I caught him before the cops did and killed him, t's murder but it should be forgiven.
Posted on 12/28/20 at 6:32 am to Mike da Tigah
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never forgetting, but just finally let it go
I agree. I often hear the cliche, “forgive and forget.” I believe there is no such thing. No one should ever forget (on both sides). But everyone should attempt to forgive. It can provide peace for your soul and mind.
Posted on 12/28/20 at 6:55 am to SEClint
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I pulled for Atlanta today to beat the chiefs.
Same here. I want them to screw up their draft position.
Posted on 12/28/20 at 7:15 am to Lincoln Dawson
All the burning bridges that have fallen after me
All the lonely feelings and the burning memories
Everyone I left behind each time I closed the door
Burning bridges lost forevermore
All the lonely feelings and the burning memories
Everyone I left behind each time I closed the door
Burning bridges lost forevermore
Posted on 12/28/20 at 7:54 am to TheFonz
Great song!
The original poster needs to either forget about it or pay a therapist money to tell him to forget about it after giving the person time and opportunity to forgive. I’d go the cheaper route.
The original poster needs to either forget about it or pay a therapist money to tell him to forget about it after giving the person time and opportunity to forgive. I’d go the cheaper route.
Posted on 12/28/20 at 8:00 am to Lincoln Dawson
I lost an entire friendship through a slip of the tongue. Another couple my wife and I were college friends with were pregnant and weren’t telling people. No big deal.
5 months later the cousin of the girl, who I had been friends with since HS independently of the couple, was over and he asked about them and I mentioned that they’re good and the pregnancy seemed to be going well. Slipped my mind about not talking about it since it was 5 months later. He had no idea they were pregnant. I said, I probably screwed up and that I was shocked that his family didn’t know and it was best not to mention it to his family.
Next week, the husband calls to chew me out because my friend told his mom, who told the pregnant girl’s mom and they apparently hadn’t told her. He said he couldn’t forgive me and they pretty much cut off all contact and left our church soon after. We were cordial at the end but it wasn’t pretty.
On one hand, I screwed up, I just didn’t think that was the case of keeping it a secret 5 months later. On the other hand, who hides their pregnancy from their parents for 5 months?
5 months later the cousin of the girl, who I had been friends with since HS independently of the couple, was over and he asked about them and I mentioned that they’re good and the pregnancy seemed to be going well. Slipped my mind about not talking about it since it was 5 months later. He had no idea they were pregnant. I said, I probably screwed up and that I was shocked that his family didn’t know and it was best not to mention it to his family.
Next week, the husband calls to chew me out because my friend told his mom, who told the pregnant girl’s mom and they apparently hadn’t told her. He said he couldn’t forgive me and they pretty much cut off all contact and left our church soon after. We were cordial at the end but it wasn’t pretty.
On one hand, I screwed up, I just didn’t think that was the case of keeping it a secret 5 months later. On the other hand, who hides their pregnancy from their parents for 5 months?
This post was edited on 12/28/20 at 8:01 am
Posted on 12/28/20 at 8:33 am to Lincoln Dawson
You sound like you have mental problems.
Posted on 12/28/20 at 8:39 am to Lincoln Dawson
Drop the vague bullshite.
Either provide specific instances or keep this on nextdoor with the rest of the house wives.
Either provide specific instances or keep this on nextdoor with the rest of the house wives.
Posted on 12/28/20 at 8:47 am to Lincoln Dawson
I signed up for this site and became a regular... And that is not close to the most "unforgivable" thing I have ever done.. So yeah, like everyone else... I have done stupid shite.
Posted on 12/28/20 at 8:48 am to Lincoln Dawson
Like the cruciatus curse?
Posted on 12/28/20 at 8:49 am to 3nOut
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I lost an entire friendship through a slip of the tongue. Another couple my wife and I were college friends with were pregnant and weren’t telling people. No big deal.
5 months later the cousin of the girl, who I had been friends with since HS independently of the couple, was over and he asked about them and I mentioned that they’re good and the pregnancy seemed to be going well. Slipped my mind about not talking about it since it was 5 months later. He had no idea they were pregnant. I said, I probably screwed up and that I was shocked that his family didn’t know and it was best not to mention it to his family.
Next week, the husband calls to chew me out because my friend told his mom, who told the pregnant girl’s mom and they apparently hadn’t told her. He said he couldn’t forgive me and they pretty much cut off all contact and left our church soon after. We were cordial at the end but it wasn’t pretty.
On one hand, I screwed up, I just didn’t think that was the case of keeping it a secret 5 months later. On the other hand, who hides their pregnancy from their parents for 5 months?
Doesn't really seem like your fault, a "friend" that cut ties because of that seems to have some issues.
Posted on 12/28/20 at 8:51 am to Sneaky__Sally
Sally. Every time I see you post I get the song "sally... wesh that girl" stuck in my head.
This post was edited on 12/28/20 at 8:52 am
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