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Have any of your parents or in laws married quickly after death of spouse?
Posted on 12/30/16 at 9:33 am
Posted on 12/30/16 at 9:33 am
My mother in law passed several years ago and father in law was married within 9 months of her death. Didn't set well with my wife and her sister that it happened so quick. In laws were married close to 50 years when mother in law passed. He was in late 60's since they were married at an early age. Another interesting deal was seeing all the single/widow church ladies making the move for father in law. We all joke they got married quickly since the new wife wouldn't give it up until she had a ring since both are very active at their church. Both daughters were very close to their mom so maybe it hits daughters harder seeing the dad with somebody new quickly. I tell her be glad he married somebody close to his age and not a 40 year old who he had to buy new boobs for.
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Posted on 12/30/16 at 9:38 am to West Monroe
Some dudes can't be alone...
Of all ages
Of all ages
Posted on 12/30/16 at 9:40 am to CountryVolFan
I agree. There are plenty of weak-minded men out there that cannot walk into an empty house. Not to mention, I know several divorced friends that are looking for an immediate relationship within mere months. I don't get it.
Posted on 12/30/16 at 9:49 am to Paul Allen
After that long marriage it was probably hard to not be married. We all get comfortable in our roles as time passes.
Posted on 12/30/16 at 9:49 am to Paul Allen
If you are in your 30s-40s, I don't get it, but if you are in your late 60s it makes sense to me. you are in the twilight of your life, you have grown accustomed to certain things, and you want to guarantee that you have someone there was your life is winding down.
Posted on 12/30/16 at 9:50 am to West Monroe
Define quickly, my grandfather started dating 5 months after the death of my grandmother and engaged a year after her death
Posted on 12/30/16 at 9:50 am to West Monroe
In. This should be interesting 
Had an uncle got married within 6 months of his wife of 50+ years death. That wasn't a surprise, the surprise for me was who, he married his best friends widow, they had been best friends as couples for over 40 years.
He was killed in a car wreck within a year after getting re-married. He was a cool dude, always took me fishing when I was a kid.
Had an uncle got married within 6 months of his wife of 50+ years death. That wasn't a surprise, the surprise for me was who, he married his best friends widow, they had been best friends as couples for over 40 years.
He was killed in a car wreck within a year after getting re-married. He was a cool dude, always took me fishing when I was a kid.
Posted on 12/30/16 at 9:51 am to CountryVolFan
It's this, exactly. Children should be patient and understanding of elderly parents who need to find a partner quickly and remarry.
Being faithfully married to the same person for a long time lets a man (or woman) grow a mature and loving relationship that has weathered many difficult times but the newness and excitement of a new relationship is something that many people long for even before they become a widow/widower. They feel the need to get right to it before it's too late.
Besides, life doesn't have the same meaning for people who have long been doing things primarily for their spouse for so long when all of a sudden they find themselves alone.
Being faithfully married to the same person for a long time lets a man (or woman) grow a mature and loving relationship that has weathered many difficult times but the newness and excitement of a new relationship is something that many people long for even before they become a widow/widower. They feel the need to get right to it before it's too late.
Besides, life doesn't have the same meaning for people who have long been doing things primarily for their spouse for so long when all of a sudden they find themselves alone.
Posted on 12/30/16 at 9:54 am to West Monroe
My dad married my stepmother 10 months after my mom died. Pretty much pissed off my oldest brother's wife for the past 20 years. He met her at church 2 months after my mom died so I can't blame him for anything but it being a bit too soon. FTR my stepmother is a great woman and we have a great relationship.
Posted on 12/30/16 at 10:00 am to Interweb Cowboy
I like it. The older I get the more I understand it. The older you get, the less you give a hot damn what other people think of you.
If I died and one of my good friends' wife had died, it would make my dead bones very happy if my wife and my good friend got together to find some happiness with each other after my death. It sure beats her getting together with some jerk who I would have disliked had I not been dead.
If I died and one of my good friends' wife had died, it would make my dead bones very happy if my wife and my good friend got together to find some happiness with each other after my death. It sure beats her getting together with some jerk who I would have disliked had I not been dead.
Posted on 12/30/16 at 10:02 am to West Monroe
Girl I dated in HS had her mom die suddenly in her forties from a cerebral hemorrhage. Her dad remarried within a couple of years. It did cause some conflict but they all get along fine now.
Strangest situation I know of is when a guy married his deceased wife's sister.
Strangest situation I know of is when a guy married his deceased wife's sister.
Posted on 12/30/16 at 10:03 am to Trout Bandit
Tell your sister-in-law to get over it. Why should she get any input about who gets to fall in love with whom and when.
Posted on 12/30/16 at 10:07 am to Jim Rockford
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Strangest situation I know of is when a guy married his deceased wife's sister.
This was an extremely common practice until modern times. It makes perfect sense to me, if the two of them are happy each other.
My mom has been a widow for the past 30 years. It would have been strange at the time, but I now wish she could have found someone else to be with her in the remaining years of her life. If that person would have been my uncle, I would have been okay with it. I like my uncles.
Posted on 12/30/16 at 10:07 am to Jimbeaux
Marrying quickly after the death of a long-term spouse may seem fuct to people, I see that.
But a man unwilling to live his last years alone is nowhere near weak.
But a man unwilling to live his last years alone is nowhere near weak.
Posted on 12/30/16 at 10:09 am to West Monroe
My grandmother passed when I was young (6 years old), she was in her mid-60's. My grandfather re-married less than a year later. I never really understood why my father and my uncles at the time. Really, the only reason that I resented it was that Jane was a fricking bitch and tried to remove any trace of my grandmother from the house. My grandfather, at that point, couldn't stand being alone and didn't know how to take care of himself, if we're being honest. My grandmother had done everything for him for so long that he couldn't fathom having to cook or keep house.
Posted on 12/30/16 at 10:13 am to Trout Bandit
If you are around old people enough, you find out old people are worse than high schoolers with their relationships. They chase each other endlessly for hookups and marriages. An old person staying single takes a lot of determination.
Old single ladies are primed and ready to go, old folks homes are worse than college dorms.
Old single ladies are primed and ready to go, old folks homes are worse than college dorms.
This post was edited on 12/30/16 at 10:17 am
Posted on 12/30/16 at 10:15 am to crispyUGA
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My grandmother had done everything for him for so long that he couldn't fathom having to cook or keep house.
That generation of men was still in MUCH better shape than these helpless MFers crying over Hillary.
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d tried to remove any trace of my grandmother
Now THAT is fuct.
This post was edited on 12/30/16 at 10:16 am
Posted on 12/30/16 at 10:17 am to West Monroe
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He was in late 60's
He realizes every moment alive is precious and doesn't want to spend those moments alone? Also...maybe he sees marrying someone will make him less of a burden on his children because he has someone by his side again?
I don't see anything wrong with that. My only concern would be if it was a much younger woman that was possibly taking advantage of an older man's grief to get ahold of his money.
Posted on 12/30/16 at 10:47 am to West Monroe
Everyone I talk to tells me not to get married. So maybe these people just didn't care for their spouses
Posted on 12/30/16 at 11:04 am to dcrews
My grandfather started dating his high school sweetheart about six months after my grandmother passed away. Her husband had already passed away too. Funny thing is that both had still kept all their love letters from each other in high school. Both had been married for over 50 years too.
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