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re: Friend thinking about divorce
Posted on 2/13/17 at 10:24 pm to TigernMS12
Posted on 2/13/17 at 10:24 pm to TigernMS12
And she can get any lawyer she wants and he's paying for it
So I guess the shovel is on fire and rusty
So I guess the shovel is on fire and rusty
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Posted on 2/13/17 at 10:24 pm to PRarroT
Similar situation myself but with two kids. My ex has a job and makes decent money. I pay nearly $2k a month in child support. I see my kids on the weekends, holidays and the summer.
He needs to be mentally and financially prepared. That's all I'm going to say. Especially if she doesn't have a job. I had a boss that went through that and his ex was a stay at home mom and nearly bankrupted him.
He needs to be mentally and financially prepared. That's all I'm going to say. Especially if she doesn't have a job. I had a boss that went through that and his ex was a stay at home mom and nearly bankrupted him.
This post was edited on 2/13/17 at 10:25 pm
Posted on 2/13/17 at 10:26 pm to airfernando
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If you are his friend, you'll tell him not to get his divorce. Tell him to stop being an egomaniac and finish what he started. He owes it to his kids and wife.
Well he owes it to the kids for certain.
Posted on 2/13/17 at 10:27 pm to airfernando
Or tell him his 135k is now equal to being single and making 30k. He will probably need a roommate In the near future.
Posted on 2/13/17 at 10:29 pm to Mir
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And she can get any lawyer she wants and he's paying for it
Not how it works in MS. You pay for your own counsel, unless you negotiate it as a part of the property settlement. It is possible a judge could take this into account when distributing property, but because we do equitable distribution, the fight is always over the kids.
Once, that's done, most parties agree on the property settlement because the case law is so expansive that any competent attorney can tell the client what the judge is going to give them and no one wants to pay an attorney more just to get what they can agree to.
If two attorney's that do divorce are on the case, the property will settle nearly always. When they don't it's because one party is contesting whether something is martial or non-martial property. Custody is where the fights are, but like I said, in his case there is no way he's getting custody (if he were in MS), unless she abused, neglected, or did crazy shite with the kids around.
Posted on 2/13/17 at 10:30 pm to PRarroT
Pics
Posted on 2/13/17 at 10:33 pm to PRarroT
If you were a good friend and if he was serious you should smash his ol lady and get it on tape so he can divorce her
Posted on 2/13/17 at 10:36 pm to Pechon
La, like most states, puts your income, her income (or lack there of), bills, etc into a grid. It's a fixed amount unless you negioate differently. If you can agree on a custody schedule-do it. If not, the judge will recommend one. The three days on, three days off, weekends tbd sucks for the kids. The best thing is a week on/week off for you, your ex, the kids. You have to establish some type of consistency as the divorce throws everything out of whack. Just my two cents who has been through it.
Posted on 2/13/17 at 10:36 pm to PRarroT
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He has 3 kids, all pretty young
No offense, but he's a piece of shite unless she's been fricking around on him. These kids are about to have their whole work fundamentally fricked up. I hope whatever reason he has for splitting up their family is worth whatever he's about to put his kids through.
This post was edited on 2/13/17 at 10:57 pm
Posted on 2/13/17 at 10:36 pm to PRarroT
Like Johnnie Taylor sang, "Cheaper to keep her."
Posted on 2/13/17 at 10:37 pm to PRarroT
Seriously, the best thing YOU can do is stay the hell out of it!
Let him know that whatever his decision on the marriage situation, you will be remain his friend. With that said, you can NOT offer advice on stay/go though. You CAN be there to either prop him up, or, catch his fall, whichever way HE decides.
This is a major turning point in his life, her life (the wife), and for each and everyone of his kids lives individually. Can you forgive yourself if any one of their lives falls to a state of hell over the next 50 years? If you offer any "direction" then YOU are indeed responsible to a degree for all the outcomes of each life affected.
So be a friend, stay a friend, be there for your friend. But only smile, pat him on the back, tell him you trust his decisions for himself and his family.
ETA: Obligatory pics of the lil filly about to be turned out to the Spring range
Let him know that whatever his decision on the marriage situation, you will be remain his friend. With that said, you can NOT offer advice on stay/go though. You CAN be there to either prop him up, or, catch his fall, whichever way HE decides.
This is a major turning point in his life, her life (the wife), and for each and everyone of his kids lives individually. Can you forgive yourself if any one of their lives falls to a state of hell over the next 50 years? If you offer any "direction" then YOU are indeed responsible to a degree for all the outcomes of each life affected.
So be a friend, stay a friend, be there for your friend. But only smile, pat him on the back, tell him you trust his decisions for himself and his family.
ETA: Obligatory pics of the lil filly about to be turned out to the Spring range
This post was edited on 2/13/17 at 10:45 pm
Posted on 2/13/17 at 10:44 pm to rxrep1997
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La, like most states, puts your income, her income (or lack there of), bills, etc into a grid. It's a fixed amount unless you negioate differently.
If you got divorced in LA, and he is as well, this may hold true. However, what LA does is not what "most states" do. LA is a community property state, and is one of 9 in the country that does it. It is by far the minority rule of how to divide property.
Posted on 2/13/17 at 10:48 pm to Pechon
quote:thanks for reminding my why im never getting married
I pay nearly $2k a month in child support. I see my kids on the weekends, holidays and the summer.
Posted on 2/13/17 at 10:55 pm to PRarroT
Does his wife have the ability to get a decent job?
Posted on 2/13/17 at 10:56 pm to GreatLakesTiger24
Why do women have the advantage again?
Posted on 2/13/17 at 10:56 pm to GreatLakesTiger24
From a guy that was 12 when my parents divorced, don't EVER put the kids in the middle like my mom did....it was hell and still effects our relationship at times
This post was edited on 2/13/17 at 11:00 pm
Posted on 2/13/17 at 11:05 pm to PRarroT
Going to turn out badly. Besides turning kids' lives upside down, he's going to be paying out his arse in child support and alimony. The ex will end up with the majority of his paychecks and he'll be living like a broke college student, minus all the fun shite and added responsibility. Unless she's banging the pool guy or has a drug abuse problem that he can use against her in court, then he's fricked financially if he goes through with a divorce
Posted on 2/13/17 at 11:13 pm to Tiger Prawn
Even fricking the pool guy doesn't matter too much
Without a criminal record, and as a stay at home mom she is golden in the eyes of the court
He better be sure this is what he wants and be prepared for at least one of his kids to hold him responsible. Hopefully none of his kids are at risk because this will be gasoline on that fire
Without a criminal record, and as a stay at home mom she is golden in the eyes of the court
He better be sure this is what he wants and be prepared for at least one of his kids to hold him responsible. Hopefully none of his kids are at risk because this will be gasoline on that fire
Posted on 2/13/17 at 11:14 pm to PRarroT
Lol he's going to get raped if he goes through with it
Posted on 2/13/17 at 11:27 pm to Pelican fan99
Sounds like divorce laws need to be changed
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