re: Follow up re: my imminent divorce UPDATE PG 20

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I feel the people who don’t care and want me gone outweigh those that do love me.

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This isn’t true even though I know it feels that way.

Pro won’t do shite

Surround yourself with your family and your closest friends

I think sometimes my family gets tired of it. I’m sure they’re ready for me to be over this.

I’m about to make a 2 hour drive and I’m on the verge of tears. Your solution probably isn’t the same as mine.

What were you doing before you met this person? What did you want to do that you felt your relationship held you back from?

For me it was international travel. She would not do it. So that's been my thing.
Women move on fast. You don't have to. But hookups will give you, albeit temporary, confidence.
Suburban bars are full of divorcees. You don't have to settle down, but company or even a friend helps.

My biggest mistake so far was my ex moved on fast (I think he was already there before the break, she denied it) so I jumped into something with someone much younger. I wasn't ready for commitment but then someone 17 years younger than me was fun. But we had nothing in common. I had to pretend to like mumble rap. And I would find myself imagining my ex and still wanting to repair things at that point, so I had to break it off.

Then I just got out of another relationship because after a few weeks she was already full on talking kids and biological clock ticking.

So a seperation and two short relationships later I'm just doing me. Cliche' but life isn't over at divorce. You'll find older guys with 3 or 4 divorces still out dating.

Just remember it's all her fault. You're the prize.
And yes some people on your side will be on her side. I lost family over my split. I have cousins I doubt I talk to anytime soon who decided to keep my ex close. My own mother still likes her every Facebook post.

But none of the matters. What matters is your perception of yourself. You create your narrative.

If you really feel like you need ax reset. Move. Start over.

There's nothing wrong with taking time to yourself. You don't need to go out every weekend night if you're single.

Just be the person that you want to be. Even if you start off pretty far from that, you can get there more quickly than you’d think.

Go to the mother fricking gym dude, telling you it will snap you out of this shite. Go every fricking day if you need to. Lift your arse off, like lift your fricking arse off until you can’t anymore each day.

It will snap you out of this shite

Hang in there, things will get better…I’ve been there you’ll get thruugh

All I can say is God Bless you and the guy from the other day that was talking about the same thing. I don’t know if you have children like the other poster, but my youngest would be the only thing stopping me from life in prison.