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re: Fellow divorcees...did you know that your marriage was over, or were you blindsided?
Posted on 8/14/24 at 1:47 pm to JiminyCricket
Posted on 8/14/24 at 1:47 pm to JiminyCricket
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This is the key. There's a balance there for sure. Treat your wife well and make her feel loved but do it in a manner that isn't inauthentic to who you are. Often times when I talk to buddies who are struggling, they kinda throw the baby out with the bathwater. It's like, you can love on your wife and make her feel special without being fake. It's a balance.
I know now this might be a circle jerk, but to add an example.
My wife gets me nothing for any holidays/birthdays/anniversaries. Same with me. I get her nothing on those days. Not out of principle, we just both forget what day it is sometimes.
There are plenty of days, however, where I show up from being out with a surprise for her. Whether it's little like her favorite candy, or something she mentioned the other day. That's authentic to me.
I've had people in relationships that are a lot less steady than my own what I got my wife for "X" day and scoff when I say nothing. I just shrug. They go all out on those days and cycle through relationships/women. Inevitably they say it was because the woman didn't appreciate them even though they checked all the boxes.
The secret and god honest truth is women don't want a man to check all the boxes. They want a man to whom they are attracted pay attention to them based on their needs and desires. If you can't do that, do you really like them?
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Posted on 8/14/24 at 1:47 pm to JiminyCricket
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There are plenty of reasons that marriages don't work out but I think fundamentally, people suck. Men, women, they all suck. People treat others horribly and can be incredibly selfish creatures. Idk the answer as to why specifically women file for most divorces, but the ugly truth of the matter is is that human beings are fundamentally flawed and can be unbelievably cruel to each other.
I think this goes back to the both parties having similar life goals and being 100% committed to the marriage. Me and my wife bicker about chores and other BS just like any other couple but at the end of the day, our family comes first and we both know that we have each others back 100%. I think a good example of this is that when money is tight, we come together and figure out how we are getting to the next paycheck. There is no blaming each other for spending or anger in any direction. I feel like you can only do that if both parties are fully dedicated to each other in a selfless manor. If one or both are selfish, money problems end marriages.
Posted on 8/14/24 at 4:45 pm to Mid Iowa Tiger
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Posted on 8/14/24 at 4:48 pm to kywildcatfanone
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Posted on 8/14/24 at 5:15 pm to Jenious
I'm just here looking for the newly divorced women in Revenge body mode.
Posted on 8/14/24 at 5:55 pm to BradBallard
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Had 2nd kid in 2005. We agreed to wait two years before deciding on a third or stopping.
2007, we loved our two to death, but we were BUSY. She was a SAHM but she trained show horses and taught lessons on our horse farm. Her dream farm. I work in pharma manufacturing. We were done at 2 kids!
We decided on a vasectomy for me since the surgery is less complicated and overall safer. She is 100% against tubal ligation (don’t blame her).
I have the vasectomy on a Friday. Three days later, she asks for a divorce. Complete blindside. She’s an identical twin who talked to her sister 2 hours every day. Her sister had no idea (she’s an attorney too!).
Two weeks later, I catch her in bed with her homeless, unemployed, alcoholic 2nd cousin. He was 50 at the time, her 34, he was kicked out of his dad’s house, so about a month before, we let him live in the double wide on the property. Oh - turns out, he had a warrant out for owing 20k in back child support. Also, she gets her tubes tied a month later.
He convinced her she was completely disabled, she got SS, and she claimed him as a dependent on her taxes for years.
She has been having an affair with him for several months. So, it kicked off a war of the roses divorce.
It got to the point where every three months I checked the court docket to make sure he didn’t beat the crap out her or the kids.
10 years later, she lost all contact with the kids after the courts gave her supervised visits after he beat the crap out of our son and was convicted. She moved him back in after he served his term.
She allowed him to convince her that I was a crappy husband and father, and convinced her to be a horrible mom. I fought like heck for the kids because he wanted me OUT of the kids lives (she filed 4 child sexual abuse allegations against me over the years)
He died three years ago. She’s a completely different person now. She makes good money in medical sales. Kids are doing well, son is a union electrical lineman at 21, daughter is starting her youngster year at the Naval Academy.
Good God Almighty
Posted on 8/14/24 at 5:57 pm to HoustonChick86
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HoustonChick86
2024-1986 = 38
Pics?
Posted on 8/14/24 at 6:07 pm to Jenious
Strike first. Strike hard. No mercy.
Posted on 8/14/24 at 6:09 pm to TheRouxGuru
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5 paragraphs and not an ounce of responsibility coming from you
So typical
Well seeing as I was replying to a post where someone asked females why I gave my perspective on why I left. If you were able to read and follow a thread you could see in the post the question was asked to I said I had changed and have accepted my responsibility.
But thanks for trying. :)
Posted on 8/14/24 at 7:17 pm to HoustonChick86
I wasn’t trying
Kinda like you for your first marriage
Kinda like you for your first marriage
Posted on 8/14/24 at 7:56 pm to Konkey Dong
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she ended up a crack whore who was at one time banging some BBC in New Orleans for money
Sounds like a girl I dated back in the day. Hope someone didn't get suckered into putting a ring on it.
Posted on 8/14/24 at 8:23 pm to FLObserver
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Not a woman but it seems they are raised to be a princess at an early age and all the TV and movies have taught them that the man is supposed to sweep them off their feet when being courted
What a bunch of horseshite! Sure, that describes some women, but let me tell you about some men who were real winners.
I know one guy whose young wife was a stay at home mom. When this dude got home from work he would eat dinner with his wife and kids then retire to his man cave to play video games for a couple of hours.
My wife was a stay at home mom, and when I got home from work I always knew she had had a tougher day than me. I would take the kids off her hands immediately, so she could have some time to work out or nap if she needed it. Then, about an hour and a half later she would join the fun, and we’d parent until the kids were in bed. And almost always I got laid.
I know other guys who hardly talk to their wives when work is done. They watch TV or something else like that, then they wonder why their woman wants no action. They think they ended up with a frigid woman, but they didn’t. They made her that way.
Posted on 8/14/24 at 8:32 pm to Dadren
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Why does it slow down? And why shouldn’t she expect that treatment if that’s how you treated her when you were dating?
Let’s swap the roles and change the word “treatment” to “sex”…sex slows down, the man starts seeking attention from elsewhere, and we know where that leads.
Dadren, That is spot on. My dad told me, when I was just a young teenager, that I should not judge a girlfriend’s character by how she treats me. She is trying to land me, so of course she is on her best behavior. Look how she treats her family and close friends. That’s the real person.
Posted on 8/14/24 at 8:37 pm to Longhorn Actual
Posted on 8/14/24 at 8:44 pm to Jenious
Completely blindsided. Now, she’s my step mom. It’s weird
Posted on 8/14/24 at 9:44 pm to LSU4lyfe
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Completely blindsided. Now, she’s my step mom.
At least you still get to bang her.
Posted on 8/15/24 at 2:14 pm to Longhorn Actual
Bumpity bump bump. Let’s keep it going. I, like most humans, love a good trainwreck story. It makes us feel better about our own train wrecks of yesteryear. It really is therapeutic
Posted on 8/15/24 at 2:52 pm to Sweep Da Leg
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Look how she treats her family and close friends. That’s the real person.
I 100% believe this.
Posted on 8/15/24 at 3:18 pm to Dadren
“Plutonic” relationship - sounds like fun!
Posted on 8/17/24 at 7:20 am to Earnest_P
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they can be more spiteful than most men even dream of being.
Without a doubt. The old saying "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" is totally legit.
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