re: Engaged but second guessing getting married- advice

Hard to answer without knowing your individual situation. People saying get out if you have any doubts are idiots. Most men have at least some doubt before marriage. My question for guys is do you enjoy her company everyday and do you look forward to seeing her when you get home from work? If the answer is yes to both of those then you are probably good to go.
The long piece of advice on page 2 with 50 upvotes and no downvotes was spot on. I'd recommend people bookmarking that shite.

The fact that you live with her would make the breakup way worse than the divorce thing if you ask me. Would be awkward as hell moving one of yalls shite out

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Children changes women into something completely different from what you knew.

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Well no shite, Sherlock. They become mothers. Putting your needs first is no longer an option. If you can't adjust to this change you have absolutely no business getting married in the first place.

If you are 2nd guessing your desire to get married, don't.

If you called it off and became single, then you would just be looking for a woman like her eventually. Then you would get tired of the new girl and be in the same situation. If she is a great woman, then keep her. Have you talked to her or taken any action to bring back some excitement? Life and relationships are about communication. I'm married and been in the same boat. What I did is work on my marriage and not fall into the negative thoughts people have about it. Every person and every situation is different, dont let the knuckle heads lump your future into theirs.

If you are a baw that actually values himself, the dating pool is really watered down right now with tinderellas and single mommas looking for a meal ticket.

Every baw wants to know he still can hunt. Doesn't mean you should.

If your fiance is a looker, gives you beej's on the reg, and puts up with your shite, then you better stay the frick home and figure this shite out baw.

I haven't read all of this thread, but wanted to offer my .02 to OP

This was honestly the most important detail mentioned in the post:

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I've always been very indecisive.

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For your sake, and for the sake of your possible future marriage, you need to change this about yourself. I'd do it now, and get a read on how she reacts in the coming months.

Become more decisive/assertive now. If you enter this marriage as an indecisive indidividual, at some point in the future, she will either get incredibly bored with you, or you will become resentful for decisions that she will make (but probably both will happen). It's funky, but the "IDGAF, just get what makes you happy" mentality can bite you in the arse, in more ways than one. You'll realize some day that you really did care what color y'all painted the walls in the spare bedroom, or that you really did not want that stupid fricking cat, after all. Soon, you'll be seeing stupid little fricking things that drive you nuts all around your house that you'll attribute to her. Meanwhile, she's fricking some a-hole at the gym, because he takes her to dinner without there being an "I don't know..... where do you want to go??" conversation.

I wouldn't worry if you feel your like your sex life is stale. That's an easy problem to remedy.

You guys, this is a troll.


Look at his other threads.