re: Do you judge people for having weird kids?

I mean, kids are pretty individualistic and get to a point where they do their own thing.

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That a dad would put up with purple hair & whatnot is an indication that he’s a pussy.

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I told my daughter that if she came home with wildly colored hair, I’d shave her head like Sinéad O'Connor. She did not know who Sinéad O'Connor was and once looking her up, decided on a darker shade of brown

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I mean, kids are pretty individualistic and get to a point where they do their own thing.

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It was ballsy 30 years ago. Then the fat women decided it was necessary, and everyone does it.

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Do you judge people for having weird kids?

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No, but I judge them by their reaction to it.

If they hate it and fight it, then good.

If they are supportive and permissive, bad.

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Kids / teens go through phases and their parents don't know what to do about it so they just tolerate it.

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The old joke about conformity. Girl hung a sign on the wall that said "I'm a non conformist." When asked by the dad why, she said "Because everyone has one."

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My younger brother is a good example. The kid popped out of the womb with a chip on his shoulder. He has always been contrary, entitled, and argumentative. He makes terrible decisions and the fallout is never his fault.

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I know a guy like that. He says it's because his older brother was such an a-hole all his life.

Define weird?

When I was young being eccentric was a source of pride for communities across the state. If you define that as weird, I am all for it as it makes life more fun and different.

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daughter with purple hair and an eyebrow piercing.

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How much of this is being different as a person and how much of this is trying to be cool when it is not really cool and shallow as a sheep.

As for me I grew up around HST, and I like his thinking on the subject.

No but I judge people for having disrespectful, little assholes.

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purple hair and an eyebrow piercing.

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I am sure you do stuff that people think is weird.

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Yes

That a dad would put up with purple hair & whatnot is an indication that he’s a pussy.

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This works for normal kids. It doesn't work with kids that have serious issues like bi-polar or in my daughter's case borderline personality disorder.

When she was 3 or 4, we got on to her about cleaning her room. We told her that if she didn't pick her toys up, we were going to donate them to needy kids. She looked at us, went to the kitchen, and came back with trash bags for the toys. We packed them up and gave them away. What kind of parenting wizardry overcomes that? And yes, she has an obnoxious amount of tattoos and piercings, but at least she's maintaining a job and a boyfriend. Two things I never thought possible tbh.