re: Do you have adult friends or relatives who are hyper narcissistic about their birthday?

What I love more is someone dragging friends and their spouses to a destination to celebrate their birthday. Right now, the 40th birthday is the cool thing to do.

I see social media posts with 4-8 couples celebrating together all the time. These are people where at least one of the spouses has a busy life and loads of responsibilities, but they are always going on these impromptu trips with friends. I am surprised that more spouses don't put their foot down and say enough is enough. You basically have to take several trips a year to complete the social circle.

I would be so embarrassed to ask someone to pay to travel to celebrate my birthday, and take that money away from say a vacation with their family. Also, I don't know their budget and financial situation. I am not going to expect someone to do things first class like I would do. It seems selfish to me, and it shows a weakness with self-esteem searching for validation. Its a freaking adult birthday. We don't want to age anymore. Birthday celebrations are best left for children.

My FIL is similar without the travel. Since before I was married to his daughter, he would make it clear a week in advance that we were taking him out for his birthday no matter what we had going on, even when we were exhausted with a baby. Finally we started to ignore it, and the demands finally stopped.