Do you give your life the credit it deserves?

Odd thread

But I'll say that comparing yourself to anyone is a futile effort to engage in

If you compare yourself to people above you it gets depressing. If you compare yourself to people below you it has the possibility of inhibiting personal growth

Compare yourself to yourself over previous periods of time

GD I sound like one of these fricking FB Karen's now with stupid motivational quotes. frick off for even starting this thread.

jk

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My friends are all way better than me and tend to bring out my best qualities.

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They would probably say the same about you.

I think about this from time to time. Kid from a really low income area that made it. I think about the way life could have been if I made different choices like my peers.

If you compare yourself to the bottom there's nothing else to strive for. This would take a little of life's meaning away.

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What if you compare yourself to the people below instead of above?

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below yourself

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You may be full of envy and greed.

What if you compare yourself to the people below instead of above?

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Sometimes I feel like I don't moisturize often enough.

Sometimes I think I need therapy because I’ve done quite well by most standards for someone my age, but I set the bar impossibly high for myself mentally and it never seems like I’ve accomplished or done enough. Not being able to meet this mental criteria often lands me in a really depressed place.

I feel like learning to look at what you have and what you have done instead of what you don’t have or haven’t done is a skill many don’t have until their life begins to come to a close, and I hope I don’t have to wait that long.

If you can't handle me at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best.

David Koresh?

Comparing is a non-starter as it is unable to make all things equal, particularly at the outset.

We were made unique and our lives will be unique.

Being good and faithful will bring much joy and aren't as easy to realize as they sound.

Interesting thought. I grew up somewhat middle class, always had the essentials but no fancy trips or stuff. In that sense i feel average, but fast forward 30ish years and i’m upper-middle class on my own income after graduating college. So yes if I step back and take a look, i’m proud of myself and don’t take anything for granted.

I’ve learned to focus on what I can control... the fricking difficult thing for me is trying to position my kids so that they are in the best situation to succeed. As a parent i feel like i’m flying blind sometimes and really don’t know if i’m doing right by them, but i’m sure as hell trying. The envy part for me comes into play if i look above my level at my kids’ friends who are really rich, take nice trips with their parents.

But comparing to below me i feel spoiled and silly

As someone else said, it’s best to compare to yourself at different stages to see if you’re growing.