re: Divorce is brutal.

Are you suffering from nut-chest syndrome? Because it sounds like it.

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It's been almost three weeks and every day is worse lol. It simply does not get better.

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It does. You really need to find someone to talk to. It helps a lot. Its going to take time. It took me almost a year to feel normal again (20 plus year marriage).

Can be physically dibilitating for some. Stress & depression is a game changer in many ways for the worst initially.

I know it doesn’t seem like it will but I promise it does!

I know people who were married for a year or so and just weren't compatible and got a divorce without too much pain.

I'd imagine being married for 10+ years with kids involved is on another level.

Giving up is something I’ll never understand.


All that’s left is a bunch of heartbreak and confusion.
Kids Involved is the hardest part for me.

I don’t want to start over is a big factor I’m facing not to mention outside factors such as alcohol abuse. It changes people’s minds, it’s poison if you allow to be.

I made a woe is me thread yesterday about this.

I wish I could do something or say something o haven’t that could change things but I’ve realized I can’t. I’ve tried.

At some post you gotta quit thinking of it as us and start seeing things from a me viewpoint.

Easier said than done.

It gets better

Giving up doesn’t work either. I pretty much gave up 2 years ago when my ex and I separated. No matter what I did, nothing filled the hole, nothing brought me death, I just ended up poor, fat, unhealthy, and even more miserable.

What you need is goals. You need something to work towards, to give you reason to keep getting up in the morning. Without that, you’ll just drift through life like I pretty much did for most of the last two years. Trust me, I don’t recommend it.

Things got a lot better once I stopped blaming and punishing myself for the divorce and started trying to work towards an actual goal.

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You have but ONE thing you can control. Is the new man good to your kids.

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Yep, I agree 100% with this.

Everything now is about your kids. They are your top priority, their well-being and showing them how to keep moving forward and how to handle adversity.