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re: Divorce Attorney Advice
Posted on 6/4/25 at 1:20 pm to Sofaking2
Posted on 6/4/25 at 1:20 pm to Sofaking2
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What so many men have to face in going from seeing their kids daily from seeing them every other weekend.
This is not true these days, if you’re not a F up and have a job you’ll get 50/50 if you want it.
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Posted on 6/4/25 at 1:29 pm to Beaued up
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My question is does it go better with both parties using the same lawyer or should I get my own?
Maybe I’m wrong but seems like the same lawyer representing both sides in a divorce is HUGE conflict of interest and raises a serious red flag regarding said lawyer’s ethics.
I would NOT go that route.
This post was edited on 6/4/25 at 1:44 pm
Posted on 6/4/25 at 1:36 pm to SneezyBeltranIsHere
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This will get ugly. Be ready for this.
Agree with this. If she wants out, she's got 20 years of experience on how to force an issue. You won't be able to trust a single attorney to represent both of your interests fairly.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 1:40 pm to Pikes Peak Tiger
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Maybe I’m wrong but seems like the same lawyer representing both sides in a divorce is HUGE conflict of interest and resides a serious red flag regarding said lawyer’s ethics.
don't know about La but in Fl this would not happen, opposing attorney isn't even supposed to talk to the other party outside of the courtroom
Posted on 6/4/25 at 1:46 pm to 777Tiger
There are some confused folks in here. There are some divorce attorneys that’s offer mediation. They don’t “represent” both spouses
Posted on 6/4/25 at 1:48 pm to jorconalx
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There are some confused folks in here.
there's always been a lot of misconception on here about how divorce/family courts work, probably too much tv
Posted on 6/4/25 at 1:56 pm to tigerdup07
quote:You're missing a key variable in the attorney's equation, which is how much effort the case will be. Not every equally billable hour is the same level of work difficulty. If your case is a huge pain in the arse, a lot of attorneys would rather get out from under it than drag it out for more money.
lawers do not want you to talk to one another. the more you agree, the less money they can bill.
they want you to hang in there much longer than you need to before settling.
it's a simple equation.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 1:58 pm to 777Tiger
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don't know about La but in Fl this would not happen, opposing attorney isn't even supposed to talk to the other party outside of the courtroom
You can’t or it’s going to be pretty much impossible to find one lawyer to represent both parties in Louisiana due conflict of interest. One lawyer will usually recommend a co council that will help with both sides
Posted on 6/4/25 at 2:02 pm to 777Tiger
My experience was first hand 
Posted on 6/4/25 at 2:10 pm to Beaued up
Both parties can’t be advised by the same attorney.
If you and your wife agree to all issues, one attorney can draw the papers up and proceed in an uncontested manner. If all it is is a divorce this should be easy.
If other things such as children and community property are involved it can get complicated. The more you agree to the less money you will be wasting on attorney fees.
If you and your wife agree to all issues, one attorney can draw the papers up and proceed in an uncontested manner. If all it is is a divorce this should be easy.
If other things such as children and community property are involved it can get complicated. The more you agree to the less money you will be wasting on attorney fees.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 2:32 pm to notiger1997
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And in OT style, the men are always perfect and did nothing to ever cause a divorce.
The problem with this little gem of a statement is most dudes I know can get upset be angry or have a legitimate gripe. …..
cheating? Yes divorce
Abuse? Yes divorce
The vast majority of other marital problems outside these two obvious ones IMO does t warrant a divorce.
You made vow and commitment. Own it
That doesn’t mean we want a divorce or threaten the SO with one nc you’re upset about something.
In my experiences with myself and others, the Women seem more apt to pull that card out.
Saddest part about all this for the most part and in many cases all you’re really doing is trading your problems for some else’s
Grass most times isn’t greener.
This post was edited on 6/4/25 at 2:34 pm
Posted on 6/4/25 at 2:43 pm to Beaued up
Get yourself a bulldog of a female lawyer. They tend to go for the throat. You advised that you and your spouse agreed on a custody schedule, however, sometimes the judge will have a say. I learned that from experience. Keep all emails, voicemails, texts, etc.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 2:47 pm to R11
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The vast majority of other marital problems outside these two obvious ones IMO does t warrant a divorce. You made vow and commitment. Own it
You’re missing the point. Guys sit there and get blindsided (and that happens of course), but how many guys basically gave up on life and contributed to pushing their wives toward divorce?
Probably quite a few. You see it on this board. Sloppy dressers, fat, drinking all the time, spending all their free time golfing or hunting or watching sports to be away from their families, poor personal hygiene.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 2:55 pm to Beaued up
Do not use the same attorney, make this a business deal. Dont make emotional decisions and do what is best for the children. It will not be easy but it will get better. Separate emotions from decisions. Any agreements that you might have made with her will be changed after she speaks to an attorney and other angry divorced women. Prepare yourself and good luck
Posted on 6/4/25 at 3:15 pm to Beaued up
Sorry man. It’s gonna be hell.
It always gets messy- really messy- before it ever starts to get better.
My advice is protect yourself completely. Regardless of your feelings for her, she has decided that y’all are no longer one and therefore you must protect yourself. Get your own attorney
It always gets messy- really messy- before it ever starts to get better.
My advice is protect yourself completely. Regardless of your feelings for her, she has decided that y’all are no longer one and therefore you must protect yourself. Get your own attorney
Posted on 6/4/25 at 3:23 pm to Beaued up
Vincent Saffioti, expensive but worth it for me
Posted on 6/4/25 at 3:29 pm to profdillweed
Not necessarily hung up on Baton Rouge. That’s just the closest city to me. I’m not opposed to other options. Just have no idea where to start.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 3:41 pm to Beaued up
If you got stuff, and want to keep some of your stuff, and one day be able to have more stuff…get your own lawyer. If you’re broke and don’t have stuff, well then it really doesn’t matter.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 3:50 pm to notiger1997
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And in OT style, the men are always perfect and did nothing to ever cause a divorce.
Didn't say that either, but again, look at the divorce rates for men/women and women/women and the reasons for it.
When it comes to divorce in America, it is driven by women and it is not close. Numbers don't lie.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 3:51 pm to Beaued up
Just know the attorneys will get their cut of your personal wealth.
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