re: Confession Time (Advice Welcomed) **Updated, pg 15**

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You sly dog you. Now I really want pics.

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Let some time pass and then write her a letter. 
Letting her know you are aware of her discomfort and that you hope one day she learns to love this sweet slice of brown sugar goodness just as much as you do. 

THen tell her ,she and your dad taught the value of love and she deserves credit for not forcing her backward thinking on you, Most parents force their biases on their own kids and she was a good enough woman to teach you the best part of her value system and not the worst

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Very true. Makes a lot of sense. Thank you.

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Very true. Makes a lot of sense. Thank you.

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So are we getting pics or not?

Wait, you already have kids? Does she?

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While they do not have a problem with black folks they certainly think interracial relationships are very wrong.

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Did I fall asleep and wake up in Nineteen fifty fricking three?!?

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but I'm fighting tooth and nail

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you have the OT behind you


I know it doenst sound like much,, but its better than having the soccer board behind you

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you have the OT behind you

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Thank you.

Stick to your guns, bro. My bet is that eventually your mom will come around if the alternative is your having to separate from the family - especially if there are grandkids involved. I'll relay my experience...

My first wife was trash and caused a lot of family friction. I knocked her up, married her after she had the baby because it was the right thing to do imo, divorced a year later, and eventually got custody of my kid. Very tumultuous time with my family though - during that whole period there were several periods of separation from my family. They despised my wife.

About a year after that, there was a black girl who was friends with my assistant who started asking her about me (if I was single, seeing anyone, etc.). I thought she was very attractive and actually had my eye on her already. She was well educated and was working on a biology degree (which I had majored in also). Her dad was one of my patients and was an extremely nice guy. I knew her brother casually from the motocross track we both raced at too, and he was also a great guy. Overall, a very respectable upper middle class family. I was VERY interested in her, and I was never really into casual dating - if I went out with someone it was because I had interest in a long term, serious relationship. There was a ton of potential there.

However, my parents were very anti-interracial. My dad was a New Orleans cop in the '70s and went through the whole Black Panthers crap, affirmative action, etc. They are wonderful people, but I'd have to say they are just a little bit racist. If not for the previous issues with my first wife, I would have said "frick it" and went out with the black girl (and would have been very optimistic about it long term). But having gone through hell with my first wife, and especially given the fact that my mom was very involved with raising my infant son at the time, I chose to forego the relationship so it wouldn't further deteriorate the relationship with my parents.

Fast forward 25 years, and my current step-daughter only dates black guys. A few years ago my parents were having Thanksgiving at their house, but said my step-daughter's boyfriend wouldn't be allowed there. Told her we weren't coming then - I would have Thanksgiving at my house, and if they wanted to come they were welcome to, but the boyfriend would be there. They ended up coming. Granted, my step-daughter chooses her BBC very poorly and usually goes for the gangster type who treat her like crap.

My son, however, is adored by my parents and can do no wrong in their eyes. His girlfriend has a son (around 5 years old) from a black guy. He is the most adorable kid ever, and my parents love him to death. None of the backlash that my step-daughter got for her black boyfriends.

I really think if I had gone out with the black girl I really liked back then, my parents would have accepted her eventually. I always regret not pursuing that relationship. You need to do what makes you happy. The family will come around soon enough.

why would you subject your SO to such a horrible woman. if i were your SO and you told me your mother hated me because of the color of my skin and that YOU still wanted to subject me to her....i'd tell you to GFY.

your mother is a horrible person....i can't figure out if you are a horrible person as well or just an fn p*ssy

man up and tell your mom to fck off