re: Are kids worth it?

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15 YO son informed me over the weekend that the girl down the street gave him is first blowy last week


1) admonish him in front of his mother

2) let him have a beer after she goes to sleep

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Well, I overheard him a few days prior telling his buddy that some girl said he had a big johnson(didn't get it from me). So my concern was that she'd seen this thing via text or snapchat, which is a huge no-no at our house. So while sitting in the living room I mentioned the possibility that he'd sent a dic pic. He was afraid for his life and admitted in front of his mother that this had occurred. The evidence, time and place, corroborates his story.

His mother was mortified. She never looked up from her phone and hasn't spoken of it.

I hated the thought of it before the fact, but after the fact I'm very glad and wish I'd done it sooner.

If Love is top or high on your personal value list, then definitely yes. If Love is not big or for some reason because of one's psychological profile, not relatively accessible, then no.

A kid will be what you make them, starting with YOUR genes and YOUR nurturing from the beginning. You'll 'reap what you sew'. And one must also take into account the negative effects of today's problematic cultural rot. Wont' be cake for sure.

I regret that I could not have done a better job re my own child, as I was foolish, impulsive and ignorant early in life. But even in divorce and loving children not of my own genetic family, I have learned to love the kids in my circle a lot better. So, barring early wisdom and discipline in life, one might choose to have children later as opposed to early on. Work out the kinks first and spare the kids. Practice makes perfect.

People are different. Good luck.

All kids are worth it. IF you want to have kids. If someone doesn’t feel like having kids and doing all it takes to do what it takes to raise a kid I’d rather they just not have any. BUT if you do chose to have kids, you better be ready for all the responsibility it takes to raise one. That’s a lot of what’s wrong with this country.

Let's see...I'm knocking on wood as I type this.

Together with wife for 35 years.
Have never had money problems.
We can go where ever, whenever we want.
We can retire now if we wanted to depending on how frugal we wanted to be for rest of our life.
Net worth 7 figures.

I don't know what I don't know though.
I won't have anyone to change my diapers when I get old but I'll be able to pay someone to change them I suppose.

I don't regret it now. I may regret it at some point.

And that’s fine.

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Do you regret having kids?

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Not at all, but i’m sure Jose and Mary Louise Menendez did.

Absolutely do not regret it

100% worth it

Also, frick them kids

I go through all these emotions on a daily basis.

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Do you regret having kids?

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No regrets.

Here is the thing. Kids are pretty amazing in that they give greater purpose to life. It’s cool to see your offspring learn, grow, and develop.

The negative to kids is you definitely give up “freedom” at your prime of life. I see friends that are single or DINKs and you have limitless freedom.

One isn’t more right than another but it’s just the reality.

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Let's see...I'm knocking on wood as I type this.

Together with wife for 35 years.
Have never had money problems.
We can go where ever, whenever we want.
We can retire now if we wanted to depending on how frugal we wanted to be for rest of our life.
Net worth 7 figures.

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I can do the same and still have a child. In fact it wasn't until after parenthood that we achieved this. What's your point?